I was wondering what age I can chose where to live in Iowa I am turning 14 in march I have wanted to live with my mother since I was 6 (the year of the divorce) My mother pays the child support. My father makes far more money as well. Financially, my mother struggles, but she works hard. She has jobs outside of her main career as a teacher to support our family. My father is a narcissist along with his sister and parents. My father has had many relationships in the past years My mother has had one she ended up marrying him my father almost ended up marrying one… until he chocked her against a wall… but I have found condoms while doing the laundry at his house/trash I caught him bringing girls home when I was younger asleep(a couple times) I feel like every time I get used to a girl he moves on to another I cant take it anymore I think this is about the 7th or so girl that he left I got attatched to her he has yet to say that they were dating I dont think him slapping ones bottom is normal for someone who isnt dating… I get good grades and stay out of trouble I have adhd and I have suffered severe anxiety I picked at my head when I was younger I had scabs on my head from anxiety from 3rd grade to 7th The girl he planned on marrying had 2 daughters and a son They were older than me by a few years so I really looked up to them we were so close…. but I havent seen them since since 3rd grade actually im in 8th