My daughter (17 year old)was a freshman in college. In her junior and senior year she’s been seeing a therapist and psychiatrist for her depression from losing her dad, my husband from ALS in 2009 (he passed at our home, and her siblings now 20 yr old, 15 and 12 year old and I with the support of our extended family and friends’ helped to care for him). Before she went though she was confident going to college an hour away will be best for her. She was optimistic this is the perfect school for her that she enrolled to the school’s weeklong classes one week before school’s generally started.

She called two weeks ago that she was not doing well, and she might have to withdraw/drop two of her classes. She’s been seeing a therapist for a while (one month) once a week because she has been having trouble getting up in the morning to go to class. I planned on going to her school to meet with academics, school officials, and/or guidance counselor to try to figure out what’s best for her.

In the meantime, the boyfriend has been picking her up from her dorm and had been taking her to his home with his parents’ approval. I’ve never received a phone call or anything from the parents whom I casually know from our church to inform me as such.

I recently find out that the boyfriend (also 17) has been picking her up from her dorm and take her to the boy’s house. The boy’s parents know, but I didn’t. This week he brought her home to their house to completely withdraw her classes with the boy’s parent’s support. In addition, they have made the decision that it is in my daughter’s best interest for her to totally withdraw from her school and for her to seek inpatient in some facilities to deal with her issues. That’s when he called his parents asking one of them to pick them up because he is packing my daughter’s belongings and take her home (to their house). No one adult or his parents notified me that my daughter has been at their home on several occasion to spend the weekend, and that she is totally going to withdraw from school and that she is going to call different places for her to be admitted to resolve her issues.

On top of that the youth minister from our church also live at my daughter’s boyfriend’s house who also knows about the boy picking her up from college and bringing my daughter to their home for the weekend.

I work for the church and practice my catholic faith. I have a great relationship (or at least until recently am questioning that) with my children. My 20 year old is doing well in her 3 years of college.

Will you please let me know if there’s anything i can do to bring this to justice? Feelings of violated, stripped of rights, anger and confusion is boiling inside. Your response be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely yours,