I went over to my best friends house (we had been having a little bit on tension between the 2 of us), because we had been not communicating, except to argue for the past 10 days, she never told me she did not want to see me, don’t come to her home. For almost 4 years we had come and gone from each others houses without knocking, without using a key (She gave me her key), just walking in. She had my garage code, so she used that to get in my house. I went over to her house because the school counselor had called me several times about Rosie (Chenelle’s daughter,Chenelle is my best friend, well was).Rosie had started cutting a couple of months prior to this and it had been a stressful time for all of us. Chenelle had listed me as Rosie’s (13) and Thomas’s (9) grandmother at school and their doctors office. But I was more like a second Mom to them, I loved them and I worried constantly about them. Rosie had spent time in a behavioral hospital . When she got out she was scared to go back to school. She said she was cutting her arms because she was being hurt and bullied at school, so she spent several days with me while her Mom worked. So us going in and out of each others houses was not an issue, since she had to work and I had to take care of the kids, including getting the up for school or neither would go. The evening I went over I had not been able to get in touch with Chenelle, to talk to her about Rosie and I was scared to death. Chenelle decided to become a lesbian about 6 years ago. She wanted me! She wanted me to leave my husband for her, even going as far as having sex with him while I was out of town.I eventually forgave both of them. I bring this up because a week or so before this night I had gone over to give her the licence plate for her car. A car that my husband co-signed for her because her credit was beyond awful and she could not get one on her own. She was walking with some woman,that I had never seen and I asked Chenelle, if this was why she hadn’t called or texted me lately, like always. She had told me that she had made a friend and this woman was married and being abused but her children loved Chenelle’s and they were spending a lot of time together. I was happy for her and I little relieved for me, because it took some pressure off me. I have several illnesses that can keep me sick or bedridden for days at a time and Chenelle is very needy. I asked Chenelle that night if she was having sex with this woman and she told me no. So when I went there that night I still assumed that Chenelle was my best friend, my confidant, my everything. But something told me to KNOCK that night. So I did. Thomas answered the door and said come in. I stepped in and asked ” Where is your Mom?”. Tom said in her room. He did not say in her room with Jeanne. So I thought she was alone watching television as usual in there as usual. SO I walked into her bedroom and saw this very large woman sitting on the left top portion of the king sized bed, eating fast food. Chen was sitting at the bottom of the bed on the right side. Also eating. I said Hi, I didn’t know you had company, the school called me about Rosie and I am worried. Can we talk?” Chen said nothing. Jeannie told me in a loud threatening voice to ” get the f**K out of there. I told her that she couldn’t tell me to leave, it wasn’t her house. Then when I knew who Jeanne was from someone on Facebook, I told her that this 18yr old girl contacted me and said that she was Jeanne’s girlfriend(she thought). Vanessa(the girl) said that she had sentJeanne 900 dollars to buy her(Vanessa) a ticked to America and they were going to move to California. Vanessa asked me if I would ask Jeanne to get in touch. I tried telling Jeanne all this in a calm and lowered voice and she flipped out, screaming, cursing, she got up and advanced towards me. *********** I threw my hands in the hair and said “you pushed me, putting your hands on me first, don’t touch me again”. And I followed Chen into the kitchen. We were standing about a foot apart and I said,” please, can we go outside and talk for a few minutes”? She said “No”. So as I was reaching with my right hand into my purse which the straps were hanging on my left shoulder, bag hanging on my hip. I was fishing around for then when Jeanne comes running through the bedroom door and gets between me and Chen, facing me, shoving backwards into in the kitchen and saying, “She is not going anywhere with you”. I once again threw my hands in the hair and repeated , you touched me again and I haven’t touched you. DON’T PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME AGAIN. ” (I YELLED, I WAS SCARED AND UPSET.) Rose began to call the police and I heard her tell the 911 operator that “THEY are fighting”.I put my right hand on her shoulder and pushed her out of my way (about less than a foot) and I got my keys finally and as I pulled them from my purse, Jeanne sucker punched me in the right jaw. I ran from the house telling Rosie not to bother that I was going to the police department to file assault charges. I was within a block of the PD when I was pulled over for ” following a car too closely) but would I wait for a moment. I knew they were pulling me over because of what had just occurred. Sadly, I went to jail that night and only I. I was charged with Criminal Trespass 3rd degree, Disorderly Conduct +DV and Assault + DV. How bad are the charges against me? The prosecutor wants to me go to a years worth of Domestic Violence classes (even though I did not hit anyone, much less Chen, Rosie and Tom! He also wants me to go to Anger Management Classes and while everyone occasionally gets angry when pushed and pushed, I rarely do, usually I get hurt, I am the one crying. I am a 52 yr old grandmother that lives with chronic pain everyday of my life. I spend most of my days with my now 3 year old grandson, the love of my life. My question is ” Did I trespass as I had a history of coming and going and was trying to leave when Jeanne came out of the bedroom to cause my chaos? My other question is should I fight these charges or take their plea deal, which is going to cost me substantial money when my daughter can only pay me $300. a month. That’s it, that all I have.?