Do I lose any rights if I′m pregnant?
Not long ago, the answer to this question was a definite “yes.” In the 1970s, you could have been asked to drop out of school if you were an unwed pregnant minor, or you could have lost your job for taking maternity leave.
U.S. Supreme Court Justice Harry Blackmun said that the sex discrimination laws mean that “women as capable of doing their jobs as their male counterparts may not be forced to choose between having a child and having a job.”*
The law now allows you to continue your education if you′re pregnant.You can′t be discriminated against because you′re pregnant or because you′ve had an abortion. Some school districts offer programs for pregnant teens, allowing them to obtain prenatal care and parenting classes, and to stay on track with academic schoolwork. Check to see if your district offers these opportunities.
You may also be able to obtain prenatal medical care, with or without your parents′ consent. If your parents know about the pregnancy and are supportive, all the better. But if they don′t know, or if they oppose it, you can still get the medical attention you and the baby need.
For more info about your rights, see our post on Teen pregnancy & teen parent FAQs
In 1978, the Pregnancy Discrimination Act regarding employment was passed. The Act applies to you whether you′re a teenager or an adult. It prohibits any discrimination based solely on your medical condition, resulting from an abortion or a pregnancy.
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If you′re a full-time employee, you may take maternity leave (often without pay) and without fear of losing your job. This affects few teenagers because most aren′t employed full-time. Depending on the circumstances, maternity leave may apply to teenage parents. States may have their own laws on this subject, so check into your local rules or contact the Equal Employment Opportunity Office (EEOC).
The courts have gone one step further in eliminating discrimination against women in the workplace. The Supreme Court ruled in 1991 that employers can′t exclude women of childbearing age from jobs that pose reproductive hazards, such as industrial jobs. Gender-based discrimination, whether to protect the mother or her future children, is unlawful.
Teen births dropped in 2010 for the third year in a row. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported in April, 2012 that pregnancy prevention programs and an increase in the use of contraceptives has contributed to the decrease. Mississippi tops the list with 55 teen births per 1,000 girls while New Hampshire has the lowest teen birth rate at 15.7 per 1,000 girls. To see the report, go to: www.cdc.gov/nchs/births.htm For the latest statistics on teen birth rates, read this 2013 post.
*Auto Workers v. Johnson Controls, 499 U.S. 187 (1991).
The National Center for Health Statistics reported in April, 2012 that the percentge of firstborns grew to unmarried parents living together – almost 25% growth since 2002. The study was based on face-to-face interviews with a little over 12,000 women and 10,000 men between the ages of 15 and 44. Sociologist Kelly Musick of Cornell University, N.Y. stated that cohabiting used to be more common among women who didn’t graduate from high school but it’s becoming more common for those with a high-school degree or some college. The economy and recession are considered contributing factors to these statistics.
In a study reported in the Obstetrics and Gynecology Journal in 2012, the availability of free birth control led to dramatically lower rates of abortion and teen births. Dr. Jeffrey Peipert of Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri, said there were 6.3 births per 1,000 teenagers in the study. Compare that with a national rate of 34 births per 1,000 teens in 2010.
“What makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one.” This applies to teen parents, boys and girls, as well. -President Barack Obama
FYI
Campaign for Our Children
www.cfoc.org
Lots of information about teen pregnancy. The site was designed for parents, but you can go here, too.National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy
teenpregnancy.org
This site offers lots of information on and research about teen pregnancy. Read others′ stories, learn about STDs, and much more.For current CDs, videos and books about teen health and pregnancy take a look at: http://www.youthtoday.org/
I am 15 and pregnant and I want to move out to be with the dad we would both be in a safe home and have all the potential needs for us and the baby plus I would’t have to worry about my dad mentally and verbally abusing me I have tried 6 suicide attempts and I feel as though I would be better off out of my dad’s house so could I leave with out his consent because of him possibly harming me?
and I’m from Iowa
but it would be of mine and my babies best interest to leave and be more safe than at my dad’s can I leave without his permission?
Dear Dallas: Thanks for writing us. Under your state’s laws, as in many states, the age of majority is 18. That means until you turn 18 or become legally emancipated, you’re required to listen to your parents or legal guardian. Becoming an emancipated minor is not easy and you may not qualify. Google “Iowa emancipation law” for the details. We suggest that you have a calm talk with your Dad and explain your reasons for wanting to move out, how you would support yourself, etc. Good luck.
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I am 16 and may be pregnant is it my choice or my family choice if i keep the baby? I live in Tennessee.
Dear Skylar: Ultimately, under the law, it is your choice to decide whether to keep the baby or make other arrangements such as adoption or abortion. It’s best to discuss these decisions with your parents, or other adults you trust. Advice and other assistance is also available to you, including teen moms, through organizations that provide prenatal health care such as Planned Parenthood or other providers where you live. Good luck, and stay healthy for yourself and your baby.
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I am 15 and pregnant. I feel that its in mine and my child’s best interest to move into the babies fathers house. He is also 15. Can a judge allow me to do so if my mother doesn’t agree?
Dear Anahi: First, a lot depends on where you live and the laws that apply to you. At your age, you need a parent or guardian’s consent to do many things that are reserved for adults (age 18). That may include moving out of your mom’s home into the baby’s father’s house. If a court got involved, and your parents disagreed with your plans, the judge would decide. On the other hand, all of the adults involved could get together and agree on a plan for the care of your baby. Good luck.
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I was wondering if it was illegal for a 17 year old to be pregnant since the age of consent in California is 18. Could i be prosecuted in any way?
Dear R.: Under California Penal Code 261.5, it is a crime to have sexual intercourse with a minor depending on the ages of both persons involved. So, take a look at this statute for the details. You can google the law as stated above, or go to a public library and ask to see it for yourself.
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Can a 17 year old pregnant girl leave home in the state of Mississippi with out being considered a run away? Her mother said she would sign for the two to get married and now thinks she can get more money by getting her daughters child saport check along with the disability check that the mother draws
Dear Beverly: Being a “runaway” implies leaving home without a parent’s consent. If under age 18, the authorities may get involved and take the person to juvenile court. Being pregnant has no bearing on the status or legal ability to leave home without parental consent. As you may know, a 17-year-old in Mississippi needs a parent’s consent to marry. As far as your comment about child support and disability payments, we do not provide legal advice to our readers, only information. A lawyer who practices family law will be able to assist on these issues. Some provide free initial consultations, so ask about this if you contact a lawyer. Good luck.
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I’m a teen mom am i allowed to have my baby anywhere for a while without my parents permission?
Dear Kait: Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you’re an emancipated adult or free to do as you please. Until you’re 18, your parents or guardian are still responsible for you. Likewise, you’re still required to listen to them. Your parents will eventually discover your secret, so it would be best to level with them now. They may surprise you and be of assistance during your pregnancy. Good luck.
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I am a 16 year old teen parent and I live in Georgia is there any way I could leave my moms house two months before I turn 18?
Dear Kaitlyn: As you know, the age of majority in Georgia is 18. However, anyone between 16 and 18 can become legally emancipated. However, you must meet the the requirements of your state’s laws on emancipation. See here for the specifics:
https://www.georgialegalaid.org/resource/emancipation-of-minors
Emancipation is not easy to obtain from a court. However, since you’re just 16, you have time while living with your mom to prepare for your independence. If you leave home without your parent’s permission, you may be in violation of the law as a runaway or incorrigible teen. That could lead to serious consequences, including separating you from your baby if you’re taken into custody and the baby is placed in foster care. Think long and hard before making any changes in your life. Good luck to both if you.
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I’m 16 and pregnant. Me and my mom do not get along. I’m constantly stressed out and upset. I fear for the safety of my unborn baby because of the amount of stress she puts on me. My step dad said i could come live with him and he would support me in any way with my pregnancy. He has no legal rights cause him and my mom never married in the 8 years they were together. Could i live with him? We live in Georgia
Dear Taylor: Since you’re still a minor (under 18) you’re required to listen to your mom. With her permission, you could move to her ex-boyfriend’s home. We suggest you, your mom and her ex sit down and calmly discuss the situation. Your mental health and the well-being of the baby are important. It might also be helpful if you involved another responsible adult who could offer non-judgmental advice to all of you. Stay healthy and we wish you and the baby our best.
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My girlfriend and I are 15 almost 16 amd she may be pregnant. How would the law deal with that. Can her parents send me to juvenile hall? And could she stay with my family should we be having a child? We live in California. Thank you
Dear TJ: Every state has an “age of consent” law, which establishes the legal age when a person may consent to sexual conduct. In California, the age is 18 so anyone younger than 18 is not legally old enough to consent to sex. Since you and your girlfriend are both 15 and consented to sex, you could both face legal consequences like being prosecuted, but it would be rare for that to happen. If her parents agree to letting your girlfriend live with you, then there shouldn’t be a problem. It sounds like you need to talk to your parents about this incredibly important decision as well as your girlfriend needs to talk to her parents and perhaps you all need to talk. Good luck to you and your girlfriend.
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I’m 16 and my boyfriend is 18 I recently found out I am pregnant . my parents are fully aware of me and my boyfriend dating but I wanted to know that seens I am pregnant can I get married without a parents consent in florida ?
Dear Nahya: Every state has specific laws regarding the ability and legal age to marry. In Florida, we refer you to this statute:
741.0405. When marriage license may be issued to persons under 18 years
The law explains the ages of each minor, the necessary consents and the ability of a pregnant teen to marry. You can either google this law or go to your public library and ask the librarian to see a copy of it in Florida’s statutes. Make sure the law you are reading is the most current reading. The librarian should be able to help you. You could also ask for this from a Planned Parenthood office where you live. Good luck.
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Im am 17 and my parents had lefted me and my boyfriend in Arkansas.. They had left on Nov.19 and didnt come back until Nov.27.. I am also 6 months pregnant with my first child.. I had left before my parents got back… Ill be 18 in 4 months and ill have my daughter in 3 months can my parents get in trouble for abandoment?
Dear Brittany: It sounds like your parents went away for a week before returning home. Parents leave older teenagers all the time for a long weekend, a quick trip, etc. It’s very unlikely that your parents could face legal consequences for being gone for one week. As long as your basic needs are still being met (food, clothing, shelter), your parents are continuing to provide for you as they are required to do until you are an adult. Good luck and stay healthy.
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My First Two Kids Dont Have Fathers On Their Birth Certificates Because I Dont Know Who The Fathers Are.
I Am Currently Pregnant With My Third Child And I Do Know Who The Father Is.
I Recieve Money Through Kin Gap. I Get Money For My First Two Kids With No Child Support As I Didnt List Fathers Because Im Not Sure Who The Fathers Are. The Father Of My Third Baby Could Potentially Be The Father Of The First Two. There Has Been A Referal Sent To My Worker About This Which Has Been Sent Over To Law Enforcement. What Happens If They Decide To Do A Dna Test And He Is The Father To My First Two Kids ? We Both Werent Sure If He Was The Father Of My First Two. We Do Know For Sure Hes The Father Of My Third So We Do Plan On Putting Him Down On The Birth Certificate And Not Recieve Any Benefits ? I Dont Want Any Of Us To Get Into Trouble As We Really Dont Know If He Is The Father . Can You Please Help. ?
I Currently Live In Ca.
Dear Eleanor: Dear Reader: Askthejudge.info is an education resource for and about teenagers and the laws that affect them. As such, we don’t provide legal advice to teens or adults. We suggest you speak with a lawyer who practices family law for advice. Many offer free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Good luck.
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Hi judge i have a quick question.
My grandma and i have a bank account open together since that is how we recieve our kingap money. But she owes alot on medical bills and now they are threatning to take from her bank account. Which is my money . Is there anything i can do. I cant take her off the account because it comes in her name for me and i cannot recieve it under my name. Any suggestions please . I also cannot recieve the checks as i would need my grandmas signature to cash them and we do not live together.
Dear Eleanor: As an education resource for and about teenagers and the laws that affect them, we do not provide legal advice to our readers – adult or teen. We suggest you contact the program that issues your check to see if they can do anything to protect your share of the funds. You could also call a local attorney who practices public welfare law. Some provide free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Good luck.
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Dear judge ,
My Name Is Eleanor. I Am 18. I Live In California. My Grandma Is Threatning To Call Cps On Me And Have My Kids Taken Away.
I Take Care Of My Kids. They Never Go Hungry I Keep A Roof Over There Head. I Buy Them Clothes And More. I Always Put My Kids First. Amd She Is Threatning To Call Cps Because She Does Not Like Their Father If I Get A Restraining Order Will It Help. If Not Any Suggestions Please ? I Love My Kids More Than Anything In This World . I Know There Is No Reason For Me To Lose Them But I Also Cannot Take The Chance Either. Please Get Back To Me As Soon As You Can. Thanks in Advance
Dear Eleanor: We’re sorry to hear about your relationship with your grandmother. Unfortunately, a judge may not grant your request for a restraining order based on the limited information and circumstances you have explained here (her threatening to call CPS). The best solution may be to bite the bullet, sit down with your grandma and have an honest conversation about your feelings. You can tell her what you have stated here – that you feel you put your kids first – and ask her why she is being so critical of you. Perhaps if you mend the bond between the two of you, your relationship can move forward in a healthy and growing way. Finally, CPS cannot just take your kids based on one person’s claims. They would have to conduct an investigation and find reason to remove your children from the home. Good luck.
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I just found out my 15 year old daughter is pregnant by an adult it was reported to dhr now they want to talk to her can they take her away from me
Dear April: Once a child welfare department gets involved, they have the authority to remove a child from their home or leave the child while providing necessary services. Being pregnant alone is usually not a reason to remove a child. If you and your daughter cooperate with the investigation, she may be allowed to remain with you. We suggest you speak with a local attorney who practices either family or juvenile law for advice. Some offer free initial consultations. Take a look at our Teen Help Network for lawyers where you live:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
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hey judge im 15 and my bf is 25 and were having a baby and live in the state of Alabama can you explane how much trouble he can get in to
Dear Heather: The age of consent in Alabama is 16. Take a look at Alabama statute 13A-6-70 for the specifics that may apply to you and your boyfriend. You can find it online or read it at your local library. If someone were to report your pregnancy to the authorities, they could decide to take action against him due to your ages. If this happens, talking with a criminal defense attorney is advisable. You can also contact a counselor at Planned Parenthood for information and advice. Good luck and stay healthy.
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hey judge its faith im 15 and my bf is 22 and im pregnant but my parents don’t know that im pregnant or that im with chris my bf …my bf I know can get in to a lot of trouble so I plan on not telling who the baby dad is …but how would I be able to get his name on the birth certificate without him getting in trouble
Dear Faith: What you are asking for may not be possible, due to the laws in your state. We suggest you contact a trustworthy adult about this to obtain correct information. We don’t provide our readers legal advice, only information and resources to help them out. A local attorney who practices either juvenile or family law may help, or a counselor at Planned Parenthood. Some attorneys offer free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Take a look at our Teen Help Network for professionals where you live:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck, and stay healthy for yourself and the baby.
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Im going to turn 17 in two months and im currently 4 weeks pregnant. My family dont know. I want to go live with my boyfriend and his family because i feel that is best for me during the pregnacy and after. But im not sure if my mother will let me move out. Is there anything i can do to be able to leave without being considered a run away? Is there anything i can do legally that will let me move out without my mothers consent? What rights do i have?
Dear Yadira: Since you are still a minor, your parents have the legal responsibility to provide for you as well as to make decisions about your upbringing including where you live, who you live with, etc. The only way you could move out without your parent’s consent is by becoming emancipated. This is a difficult status to obtain through the courts as you have to show that you are financially independent, able to pay your own bills and to make mature decisions about all aspects of your life. To learn more, you could Google the name of your state and “emancipation law.” We strongly encourage you to talk with your Mom and family about your circumstances. They’re going to find out eventually and if you are open and let them know your future plans and how you would like to raise the baby, they may be willing to let you live with your boyfriend and his family. As for your other questions, here is the link to find out more about the age of consent law in your state (that establishes the legal age when a person can consent to sex). Just click on your state to get the information. It does not appear that your boyfriend would be facing any jail time. Finally, it appears that Florida has a law allowing minors to consent to prenatal care without also having parental consent. You can contact a medical center near you or call a local Planned Parenthood to schedule an appoint. Good luck and please stay healthy.
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hey judge, im 15 and i really have wanted a baby since i was 13 but my 13 year old boyfriend also wants a baby as well what would happen in that case if i did get pregnant?
Dear Liz: Every state has laws about sexual conduct and how your age makes a difference. Take a look at this website and click on your state:
http://www.ageofconsent.us/state-laws/
At ages 13 and 15, there may be consequences if you got pregnant, civil and/or criminal. Getting pregnant does not mean you become a legal adult with all of the rights and responsibilities of an adult. Under the law, your parents may be held responsible as well. Take a deep breath and think seriously about having a baby at your age. Talk with an adult you trust about this: a counselor at school, a clergy person, or a relative. Good luck.
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Hi judge my name is adrina and i live in the state of California . i am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and we had consensual sex but the condom broke and i might be pregnant. I was wondering if it was possible that my dad could get the baby taken from us because we are both under 18. And also if there were any services for me and my boyfriend and the baby.
Dear Adrina: We suggest that you contact a birth counselor such as Planned Parenthood for information. They will be able to tell you what your rights are under California law and the possible responsibilities of your parents. You can also talk with your school counselor or nurse. In some states, parents are financially responsible for their grandchildren if the parents of the baby are minors. As a teen mom, you do have rights and you need to discuss these with your parents. Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hi, I’m 15 and I have a 4 month old boy with my boyfriend who is just recently turned 20 in sept. I want to be with him but my mother doesn’t. she has places a restraining order against him and I don’t want to be in the order anymore. I also want to marry him once I turn 16 . I live in Ga . I want to be with him but I’m scared we can get in trouble . what do I do?! please I need some help.
Dear Yasmary: Take a look at this website for the laws in your state regarding age of consent and sexual intercourse:
http://sexetc.org/action-center/sex-in-the-states/
In addition to these laws, as a minor, you’re required to listen to your Mom. Otherwise the juvenile court can get involved which could mean a separation between you and your baby. You have no control over the restraining order unless it expires or is modified. Your boyfriend needs to understand that violating the court’s order may result in his incarceration. As you get older, try calmly discussing these issues with your Mom. Good luck.
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hi judge. I’m madison I’m 16 years old. i live in the state of georgia i was wondering if my boyfriend could get in jail since I’m pregnant he is 18. my parents are going to do anything to try to put him in jail. i do not want that happening he is the father of my baby and i wasn’t him to be there in my life and my baby’s
Dear Madison: Take a look at this website for information about the sex laws in your state:
http://sexetc.org/action-center/sex-in-the-states/
You might also obtain information from your local Planned Parenthood office. Good luck and stay healthy for yourself and the baby.
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Dear judge,
I live in the state of Missouri. I am 17 and Hispanic and pregnant from my fiance who is 19 and African American. Will my fiance get in trouble by the law and be placed in jail?
Dear Nina: According to SexEtc.org, the age of consent in Missouri is 17, which means that is the age when you can legally consent to sex. (Just click on your state to find out more about the laws there.) Therefore, you should not have to worry about your boyfriend getting into trouble. Be sure to confirm that the information contained on that site is current as laws are frequently changing. Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hi. i am 16 years old and i am 12 weeks prgenat ill be four months pregantwhen i turn 17 in january and i live in the state of illnois im staying in school gettinf an education and my parents alwat cut ne down and wont le me move out thet tell me im a unfit mother that i deserve an abortion my mom tells me im fat she says my body is gonna be ugly i feel sp depressed and stressed is it possible i can move out at 17 with another family nenber or friend i do have a job i work everyday and i walk there and i walk to school my parennts treat me like a dog can i move out whwen i turn 17 for the baby so it dosnt be put in samme harms way ?
Dear Mackenzie: It sounds like you are experiencing quite a bit of stress at home right now, which you don’t want for either yourself or the baby. Unfortunately, you are not considered emancipated or legally free from your parents just because you are pregnant or once you turn 17. The best case would be for them to give consent to you moving out and living with another adult relative. Perhaps you could talk to your relative first and figure out the best way to approach your parents so that they will agree to the new living arrangements. Perhaps if you talk to your parents in a mature and calm manner while explaining all the reasons you would like to live with this relative, maybe they will be more receptive to the idea. Another possibility is looking into becoming emancipated, but this is a difficult process as you have to show that you are financially independent and able to pay your own bills and make mature decisions about all aspects of your life. Find out more about the emancipation process in Illinois here. Finally, please talk to an adult you trust whether it’s your relative, a teacher, school counselor or a friend’s parent about your circumstances. There may be local resources and help for you. Good luck and stay healthy.
Dear Judge,
So I Wanted To Know If My Bf Can Get In Trouble If People Find Out He Is The Father To My Baby After I Turn 18. I Will Be 18 In September. We Have A Six Month Old Baby And Just Recently Found Out Im About 5 Weeks Pregnant. We Were Able To Keep The First One Secretive. But I Guess Im Wondering If He Can Still Get In Trouble After Im 18. We Are Not Married Either.
Sac, California
Dear Eleanor: The age of consent in California is 18. The law regarding what’s called “statutory rape” is California Penal Code 261.5 (see below). You can bring this up on google or go to your local library and ask the librarian to get you the book where you can read it. The answer to your question depends on the age of the father and the number of years between you two. Good luck and take care of yourself and your children.
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Hello judge! I will be turning 17 in 4 months and I have recently found out I’m 8 weeks pregnant my dad wants me to get an abortion and is forcing me not see the father of my baby/ boyfriend. Is there any possible way I could move out in Michigan even though I’m still 16?? Please help!
Dear Nona: Since you’re under 18 and living with your father, the law requires that you listen to him. Although he can restrict contact with your boyfriend, the decision to keep the baby or get an abortion is yours. We suggest you both sit down with a family lawyer to discuss your rights as a teen parent or contact Planned Parenthood in your area. Take a look at our Resource Directory for help where you live:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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dear judge,
I have a really complicated situation. I’m 16 and 32 weeks pregnant by a 22 year old, i was 15 when I got pregnant. Back in march social workers became involved in my life but i was still in my moms custody just not in the home. well on april 10 me and the father got married both my mom and dad signed for the marriage. well on april 14 i was placed into states custody and there was a no contact order placed on me and my husband. i go back to court june 9 and i was just curious about the how things might go. Will i get to go back home to my husband? Will the judge annul my marriage? there are teens everyday that have kids with older men and im the one whos life they choose to ruin, why me? after the baby is born they are goin to do DNA and prove he is the dad (witch he is) and he could go to jail for up to 5 years. they are throwing a big fit because i was 15 when i got pregnant, but i dont see that it matters he wants to be there for me and his kid so why not let him? i thought when you got married you was automatically emancipated!? whats my chances of getting to go back home to live with him?
Dear Rebecca: Since you were placed in the state’s custody, you may be a appointed an attorney to represent you. If this is the case, ask your questions to your attorney as he/she will be able to advise based on the laws in your state as well as the specific facts and circumstances. If an attorney has not already been appointed, then you could try contacting your local legal aid office as they may be able to answer your questions and offer some assistance for free. Check out Directory at the link below for a legal aid office near you (just click on your state). Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hi judge, I am 15 years old, live in Aiken, South Carolina with my step dad and mom. I have a almost 13 month old baby boy named Bentley. Me and the father are together. I’m in home school, and I get SSI because my dad died when I was 8 years old. Legally I know I can’t marry until I am 19 years old or else my money will stop. I want to move out and I would like to know the laws in South Carolina of being a young mommy. There’s to much arguing my parents house, and I don’t want my son to be around it.
Dear Haley: The fact that you’re a teen-mom doesn’t automatically give you the rights enjoyed by adults. Take a look at this website for information about reaching the age of majority in South Carolina:
http://statelaws.findlaw.com/south-carolina-law/south-carolina-legal-ages-laws.html
For additional information, stop by your local Planned Parenthood office. They work with teen parents and should be current on the laws that apply to you. Good luck.
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I am 22 and my ex boyfriend is 22 years old also. We have been off and on and I have been pregnant by him several times but this time I have finally not miscarried as of yet. I dont want him in my childs life at all and want to know can I get him emancipated or can he write a letter stating that he doesnt want to be involved in the childs life when the baby is finally here? What can I do?
Dear Alicia: It sounds like you need to speak with a family law attorney in your state. They will be able to advise you of your rights and obligations under the circumstances. Yes, your boyfriend can voluntarily sign away or terminate his parental rights to your child if he chooses to do so. Many attorneys offer a free initial consultation or you could try your local legal aid office as they may be able to provide assistance for free or on a sliding scale basis. Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hi, my name is Kim and I am 15 and pregnant. My boyfriend is 16 and lives with his grandparents. I will be 16 when the baby is born and was wondering if with parental consent I could move in with my boyfriend and his grandparents? I would also like to know my rights and repurcusions. I live in Florida currently. I have yet to tell my mom because she is out of town and I don’t know how to break the news to her. I am also going to do the rest of my classes online. I have two years left of high school and so does my boyfriend who would also finish online. What would be best for me to do in this situation? Can my mom force an abortion on me? Or an adoption?
Dear Kim: As long as you have parental consent, you could move in with your boyfriend and his grandparents. Of course they would need to agree to the living arrangements as well. It would be a good idea for your mom to sign a power of attorney so that your boyfriend’s grandparents could consent to medical treatment for you and the baby. A “power of attorney” is a simple statement she could type up giving the grandparents permission to consent to your medical treatment and then sign. As for your other question, generally you cannot be forced into an abortion or adoption. For more on this, see our post about teen pregnancy frequently asked questions. Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hi judge,
Im 15 and pregnant and im 5 months and some days ,my boyfriend lives in texas and hes 18 my birthday is coming up in june im going to be 16 soon, i want to be with my boyfriend and my mom not letting me. i want to be with him so we can raise this baby together and he has a good paying job down there. i need some advice. i wanna live with my boyfriend and im scared if i leave my mom will make a report on me
Dear Brittany: At 15 or 16, under the law, you’re required to listen to your parents. If your Mom reports you as a runaway, you could be picked up by the police and returned home. You could also find yourself in juvenile court explaining the situation to a judge. It would be best to stay put and make the best of it. You may be surprised how helpful your Mom will be to you and the baby. In the meantime, stay healthy as you have yourself and the baby to think about. Good luck.
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Hi Judge,
A Friend Of Mine Is Really Concerned About A Certain Situation. About Four Years Ago He Had A Baby With A 15 Year Old And He Was 18. There Were Not Any Charges Or Any Claims Put Against Him. But Now Child Support Is Involved. What Should He Do?
Dear Saidah: If the mother is taking him to court over child support, then he needs to be sure to appear for any scheduled court hearings. He could contact a local family law attorney for further information about the process and his rights. His local legal aid office may be able to provide assistance for free or on a sliding scale basis. He also could try his local court to see if they offer a free legal assistance program which would allow him to meet briefly with a pro bono attorney. Good luck to your friend.
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i am 14 years old and pregnant and live with my grandparents and they have a court order for me and they are worried that I might get taken off them and same with me with my baby
Dear Kourtney: It sounds like your grandparents have legal guardianship of you or some other custodial rights. It’s unlikely that this would change just because you’re pregnant. However, your grandparents could carefully review the court’s order granting them guardianship/custody and if they have any questions, try contacting a local attorney who practices family law matters. They may be able to receive free advice and information through the court as many courts offer free legal assistance programs open to the public or even they’re local legal aid office could help. Take care of yourself and stay healthy.
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Hi my Name is Kayla and I’m 16 and pregnant. I live in Idaho and My boyfriend is 18 and will be 19in June. What are the laws about age between couples if one is under 18?
Dear Kayla: The age of consent in Idaho is 18. Take a look at this government website for information on this:
http://aspe.hhs.gov/hsp/08/SR/StateLaws/statelaws.shtml#Idaho
You can obtain more information from Planned Parenthood in your area. Good luck and stay healthy.
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I am 16 years old and pregnant.i been thinking about me moving in with my boyfriend and his parents or him moving with me because we do not want to go back and forth with the babmy baby like he gets it one week then i get it we want to spend Every moment togethee as a family but i Havent talked to my parents about because im scared what they will say because my grandpa is so judgemental and controlling he never lets you get your point across he wont understand i want the best for my baby
Dear Letty: Since you’re still a minor, your parents continue to be legally responsible for you and get to make decisions about your upbringing. So, in order to move in with your boyfriend and his family, your parents will need to provide their consent. As difficult as it may be, take some time to organize your thoughts and think about what you want to tell your parents. Explain what you have said here – that it’s important for you and your boyfriend (the baby’s father) to raise the baby as a family. Perhaps if you calmly talk to them and communicate your desires in a clear, mature fashion, they will be more receptive to listening, not being so judgmental and trying to work something out that is best for everyone. Good luck and stay healthy.
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I am 18 and my girlfriend is 16 years of age we live In Illinois is there any laws I have to worry about and we are also looking to get married but don’t know if her guardian would sign the parental consent my girlfriend is also in foster care and is a ward of the state can they press charges against me for her being a minor and if so what would the charges be because I want to be there for my daughter and with me being 18 and getting my own place and her being pregnant with my child could she legally move in with me and get married or is the state of Maryland the only state that allows for couple without parental consent to get married with a child on the way
Dear David: You have at least two obstacles to overcome before getting married. First, your girlfriend is a minor and second, she’s a ward of the state. As long as she’s in foster care under the court’s jurisdiction, she is required to follow the court’s orders regarding placement. We don’t provide legal advice to our readers but suggest you contact a lawyer who practices juvenile law for assistance. Some lawyers offer free consultations so ask about this if you call one. You could also contact Planned Parenthood to discuss her rights or her attorney or guardian ad litem if she has one. Good luck.
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Hello Judge,
I’m 15 years old and my boyfriend’s 16. I recently just found out I am 5 weeks pregnant! About a month ago, I got removed from my aunts home by CPS. Well today my case worker stopped by and she asked if I was pregnant. I told her yes and she asked if I planned to keep the baby? I told her yes I wanted too and she told me that since the state has custody of me, they would AUTOMATICALLY get custody of my baby!? Can they really do that? She also said that I needed to take down my proof of pregnancy paper and a paper with my due date because after she got those she would be able to write up a petition and take me to court???? I just told her okay. I asked her if my aunt would have to find out right now and she said yeah!!? I thought they couldn’t share information like that unless I said it was okay???? I have court in May to find out if my aunt loses her rights permanently (which my atterony & old case worker said it probably would happen) and I would move in with my brother and his girlfriend (where I am now) and they said they would help me with the baby!!!!! can they really just take my baby for no reason????
Dear Ashley: You need to discuss these questions with your lawyer and/or guardian ad litem (GAL) if the court has appointed one for you. Any questions you have can be asked at your hearing next month. Every state has laws regarding custody and teen parents, especially if the teen is already a ward of the court. You do have rights as a teen mom regarding the baby and need to obtain correct information before making any decisions. One resource is your local Planned Parenthood office which we encourage you to contact. Good luck and stay healthy.
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I’m 15 and pregnant but will be 16 before the baby is born. I don’t want the father (he’s 19) to in any way be a part of my daughter’s life. He does drugs and I don’t want my child around that. Is there any way I can make that happen ? I live in Georgia
Dear Brittany: If the father does not attempt to have visits or any time with the baby, then it may not be an issue. However, to ensure that you have full custody, it may mean taking the matter to court. You (and your parents) could look into meeting with a family law attorney for further advice and information based on the laws in your state as well as the specific facts and circumstances. Many attorneys offer a free initial consultation. You could also try your local legal aid office who may be able to provide assistance for free or on a sliding scale basis. Good luck to you and your baby.
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my friend is 16 years old and just found out she’s pregnant. her mother is trying to force her to move out of state from her boyfriend. is there anything that she can do legally to be able to not have to move
Dear Naomi: Just because your friend is pregnant does not mean that she is emancipated or legally free from her parents. Her mom continues to be legally responsible for her so long as she is a minor (or not emancipated). Perhaps she could try talking to her mom about the circumstances and what she would like to see happen for her future. Becoming emancipated is a difficult thing to do as she would have to show a judge that she is financially independent, able to pay her own bills and can make mature decisions about all aspects of her life. Good luck to your friend.
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My name is Karly and I’m 16. Im expecting a baby and his/her dad is 22. In the state of North Carolina can he legally put his name on the birthcertificit?
Dear Karly: Take a look at this website for information about your state’s “age of consent” laws:
http://aspe.hhs.gov/hsp/08/sr/statelaws/statelaws.shtml
You’ll have to check with the hospital where you’ll have the baby for their rules about names on birth certificates. Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hey Judge
I’m summer and I’m 15 and almost two months pregnant. I live in South Carolina and since my mom died my aunt and uncle have legal custody of me. We found out I was pregnant and my boyfriend has a job and is trying to get money for our baby and my aunt and uncle are right when they say this we are too young for a baby so they said they would legally adopt the baby buy it had to have their last name and I want the baby to have the fathers last name… Is there a way I can give the baby the fathers last name whether they like it or not?
Dear Summer: If you are going to allow your baby to be adopted by your aunt and uncle, which it sounds like you have thought this through, then they will be able to choose the baby’s last name. Perhaps you could try sitting down with them to talk about this issue since it is important to you. Let them know what you would like to happen and give them an opportunity to respond and listen to their response. It’s great that you have their support, so it sounds like you should be able to have a conversation about this. Good luck.
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dear judge im pregnant im currently 17 my the time of my due date i will be 2 moths away from 18 my boyfriend is 30. We want to know if i can put him on the birth certificate without gettinq in legal trouble ? Will the hospital contact police department?. Can he vist the baby in the hospital after delivery ? Im realy scared please help. Or could he go to jail for getting me pregnant?
Thanks in advance (:
Dear Julie: You need to find out the age of consent law in your state. This law sets the age limit for when a person is legally capable of consenting to sex. The age is 16 or 17 in several states, which would mean that you are not violating the law. Click here and here to find out more about the law in your state. You will need to check with the hospital to find out whether they would report your boyfriend to the police if he is named as the baby’s father. Good luck to you and your baby.
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Hi Judge,
Im Am Currently 17 1/2 . I Have A 4 Month Old Baby. Her Father Is 29. If Someone Finds Out He Is The Father Will He Get Arrested ? And Go To Jail ?
California.
Dear Lely: If someone reported your baby’s father, the police would have to investigate and then it would be up to the local prosecutor as to whether or not charges should be filed. The possible consequences he could face depend on the statutory rape laws in your state. Click here to find out more about the age of consent law in your state as well as the mandatory reporting laws when sexual abuse and misconduct with a minor has occurred. It appears that there is no mandatory reporting required for your circumstances, but you need to confirm that the laws are current in the link provided since laws are constantly changing. That means that health care providers and other professionals are not required to report your baby’s father to the police – it would be their decision alone. Good luck.
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Hi,
I was wonder as a boyfriend of a pregnant minor what right do I have towards my baby
Dear Hector: Once paternity is proven that you are the father of the baby, you have legal rights under the laws in your state. That includes the right to custody and visitation that you can work out with the mother of the baby. If you can’t agree on these issues, a court may become involved. You also share in the responsibility to financially support the baby. You may want to contact a local lawyer who practices family law or Planned Parenthood for information about your legal rights as a father. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals where you live:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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my friend is 17 her boyfriend is 30 she’s pregnant and wants to definitely keep the baby is there anyway her boyfriend can get into legal trouble I’m another thing let’s say he does is her into delivery will he like the idea them and is will the hospital I call the police I just when you know to give some advice thank you we live in California
Dear Alexa: Take a look at this website for the age of consent laws in California for information:
http://www.ageofconsent.com/california.htm
As far as the hospital is concerned, it’s unlikely they would contact the police. Their policies regarding visitation in the maternity ward have to be checked to see if this father will be able to visit. He can contact the hospital and ask. Good luck to these parents.
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Both are 15 she is pregnant and mother moved her to Virginia she has only took her once to doctor to find out she was pregnant hasent seen a doctor since she is about 7 months Mother want talk to us but says we can come get her.Wwe can buy herca plane ticket .hat do we need from her mother.we are in ga.
Dear Bonnie: We suggest you contact a local family lawyer for advice about this. Try Community Legal Services as well. They may suggest or even have a consent form for the mother to sign, or what’s called a Power of Attorney. You would need that in order to obtain medical care for the teen mom. Without any written permission to take this 15-year-old across state lines is not advisable. Good luck.
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Hi hi judge I’m 20 years and my girlfriend is 15 years old and pregnant her parents don’t hate me at all so they say they won’t press charges on me do you think I can still go to jail when the baby is born??
Dear Jonathan: Every state has “age of consent” laws regarding sex between adults and minors. If you google the name of your state and “age of consent” you’ll see what laws apply to you and the ages where charges can be filed. The age spread between you and your girlfriend is serious and a law may have been violated. But someone would have to make a complaint to the police in order for a formal charge to be filed against you. If that happens, contact a criminal defense attorney for advice. Take a look at our Resource Directory for lawyers in your area:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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I was wondering what the law is if you are 17 with a new born can i move out and not be made to move back home in the state of ms? am i a legal adult?
Dear Ranae: Being a teen mom does not automatically emancipate you, unless you’re twenty-one when you become a legal adult in Mississippi: http://statelaws.findlaw.com/mississippi-law/mississippi-legal-ages-laws.html
Mississippi has an emancipation law for minors but it’s not an easy status to get from a court. Take a look at Mississippi laws starting with 93-19-3 for the requirements. You can go to your local public library and ask the librarian for help finding this law. Good luck.
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Dear Judge,
Is There Any Way I Can Get Money For Me &’ My Baby Without Them Getting My Dad For Child Support Since Im Not 18 Yet.
Dear Eleanor: That depends on the laws in your state. Some states have a law where parents of teen moms and dads (the grandparents) can be held responsible for the baby’s care until the teen parent turns 18. Google the name of your state and “grandparent child support” for information. Here is one website to look at for some comment on this:
http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/grandparents-and-child-support.html (We don’t vouch for this website or the statements therein).
Good luck.
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I have a question. I live in Wisconsin and is 14 year old turning 15 I next week. I am currently 7 weeks of pregnancy. My boyfriend just turned 15 in January . Is it illegal for me to become pregnant and will my boyfriend and I go to jail?
Dear Sarah: According to the following link, the age of consent in Wisconsin is 18. That means that the law requires a person to be 18 before they can consent to sex. That being said, you and your boyfriend are not going to jail for your pregnancy. Ultimately, someone would have to report your pregnancy to the police and then it would be up to the prosecutor’s office as to whether there should be any consequences like a diversion program. Good luck.
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I’m 16 and really love my boyfriend he is 20. I live in florida but my mom won’t let me get married or even leave my house… My boyfriend proposed to me and I want to know if we run away to georgia for one afternoon and get married if we return to florida that same day can I still be legally married to him and will we get in any trouble at all? Please I need to know all information legal on this I really ant to marry him and get away from this house of my mom please.
Dear Jessie: You can read Georgia’s law for yourself on this website:
http://statelaws.findlaw.com/georgia-law/georgia-marriage-age-requirements-laws.html
You need your parent’s permission to marry since you’re under 18. Just because you want to “get away from this house” is not a valid reason to get married at your age. As you probably know, the law is the same in Florida. So, think things through and don’t hurry into this life-long commitment. Good luck.
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Hello judge im 17 and my exgirlfriend says she is having my baby and shes 15. In new york who would have custody of the baby me or her
Dear Chris: As the birth father of the child, you do have equal rights with the mother to custody and visitation with your child as well as the responsibility to support the child. We suggest you speak with your parents about this. Together you can decide how to proceed. You may want to consult a family lawyer who can explain to you your legal rights and how to protect them. Many family lawyers will give you a free consultation for the first 30-60 minutes. Also, many courts around the country have a Family Law Assistance Program where you may obtain free legal advice on these issues. Finally, perhaps a conversation with your ex and her parents will allow you to fully discuss and work out a schedule for both of you to raise your child. Good luck.
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Is it legal in west Virginia for a teenager who had a baby to move out? I’m almost 18. 4 months away to be exact. Is it legal to move out with my daughter right now? I have a place to live with her already. I’m just not allowed to go yet cause my parents says I can’t cause they said they will call the police if I do.
Dear Crystal: Becoming a teen parent doesn’t mean you’re legally emancipated and can do as you please. As long as you’re under 18, your parents, in most circumstances, are responsible for you. They can report you to the police as a runaway if you leave their home against their wishes. We suggest you stick it out for the next four months and plan for your independence. You have both yourself and the baby to consider. Good luck.
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hi my name is kallie and I live in Alabama and im 14 teen and pregnant can I get an any trouble for being this age and pregant
Dear Kallie: Every state has an “age of consent” law which is the legal age limit to consent to sexual acts. It appears to be 16 in Alabama. That being said, these laws were designed to protect minors from being forced, coerced or manipulated into sex with older partners. The father of the baby could face consequences if he’s much older than you and if the police are contacted. Otherwise, you do not need to worry about legal consequences for you. Just focus on your health at this point. Check out this site for more about teen pregnancy and the age of consent – just click on your state. Good luck.
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Hi Judge
I live in Illinois and my mother has custody of a 16 yr old pregnant girl and everyone is telling her that they are going to take her baby and that she has no rights to do anything is this true??? Please reply back Thank You
Dear Marie: As a teen mother, she does have rights over her baby. Since she’s a minor her parent or guardian is still legally responsible for her, but that does not mean that they get to decide what is going to happen with the baby. Check the Teen Health category of our Resource Directory for more resources in her area that may be able to assist her. Good luck to her.
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So I live in iowa and I was wondering if I’m still in high school and I turn 18 could I move out?
Dear Taylor: Since you will no longer be considered a minor, you could move out if you choose to. Keep in mind that if your parents are continuing to financially support you and you move out against their wishes, then you may be cut off financially. Perhaps you could try sitting down with your parents and having a calm, mature conversation about your options as well as your future plans. They may be willing to make some changes so that you all can be happier at home. Good luck.
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Hi judge, I’m Kali and I will be 16 on June 13th and I’m 1 month pregnant. I live in Raleigh North Carolina. And I wanted to know the moving out laws for pregnant teenagers at 16. I know I can get my dads approval but not my moms. Please help!!
Dear Kali: Since you’re still a minor, your parents are legally responsible for you and get to make decisions about where you live, etc. If your parents agree to letting you move out, then there shouldn’t be a problem. Perhaps you and your Dad could try talking to your Mom in calm, mature fashion so she realizes that you have fully thought this through. Good luck to you.
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I’m 18 years old and my boyfriend just turned 17, I recently found out I am pregnant. I’m not sure what the laws are but I know that his guardian does not like me at all, so I’m concerned that she may take legal action, is there anyway that I could be in serious trouble ? Please get back to me soon !!
Dear Brianna: Every state has consent laws regarding sexual behavior. To find out what your state says, google the name of your state and “age of consent” for information. Since your boyfriend is still a minor, his guardian is responsible for him and could prohibit fruther contact between you two. For additional information you can contact your local Planned Parenthood office or speak with a lawyer who practices family or juvenile law. Good luck and stay healthy.
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I left my house and let my parents know and told them im pregnant and im17 years old. i will be 18 in less than four months, and my dad let me leave the house but he recently talked to a cop and she said she can pick me up whenever he wanted to. so now he said he wants me back home and when im 18 that i can leave but right now he wants me home. but cant they do anything because its like my boyfriend parents are my guardian. im still going to school and have contact with my parents but all of a sudden my dad wants me home. is their a law that can help me with this situation.
Dear Natalie: Because you’re still a minor, your parents are legally responsible for you and get to make decisions about where you live, etc. The only exception to this is if you become emancipated. Perhaps you could try talking to your Dad when he’s calm and explain why you believe it’s best for you and your baby to remain living with your boyfriend and his family. Maybe if he realizes that you have thought this through in a mature fashion, he’ll be willing to let you stay where you are. Please take care of your self and your baby.
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I llive in the state of Alabama and im 14 and I have a coupel of questions if my boyfriend is 15 can they put him ni jail and can they keep him from seeing me and the baby?if my step parent cause me to much stress and anger that I think might hurt the baby can I move out? can they take my baby from me?
Dear Hannah: For information about whether a crime has been committed because you and your boyfriend had sex, google “Alabama age of consent.” You’ll see there the ages and conduct that’s regulated by your state. We don’t provide legal advice to our readers since we don’t represent you in any manner. Both legal parents have rights to their children, including teen parents. We suggest you talk with either a family lawyer or juvenile attorney for advice where you live about your rights to your baby. You could also contact Planned Parenthood for information. At 14, you are required to live with your parents or where they allow you to live. You can’t just up and leave without consequences. Talk with an adult you trust about these issues. Good luck.
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can my parents put my babys daddy in jail bcause he was 16 yaers or older when I was pregnant with his baby
Dear Hannah: You need to look at the age of consent laws in your state. This is the legal age limit when a minor can consent to sex. Since you’re only 14, you are most likely not yet at the legal age (most states require that you be at least 16), but there may be some exceptions for two minors who are close in age. Click here to find out the law in your state. Depending on your state’s laws, your parents may report your boyfriend to the police and then it’s up to the department whether they proceed with an investigation. Also, your parents still are responsible for you and get to decide where you live, etc. If they are willing to let you live with another adult who is more supportive, then there shouldn’t be a problem making the move. Good luck and please take care of yourself and your baby.
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Hi, I’m 14 and my boyfriend is 16 and im pregnant. My parents don’t want me living with him but his parents are okay with it and are hundred precent supportive. What could i do to override their decision and live with his family?
Dear Diane: There’s very little you can do since you’re a minor. Your parents have legal responsibility for you and you’re required to listen to them. If you leave home against their will, you risk getting involved with the police and/or child protective services. Good luck and stay healthy.
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I’m 18 years old and my girlfriend is 17 years old and pregnant and I live in Minnesota and I was just wondering if her parents could keep the baby from me and can I get in trouble since she is only 17?..
Dear Nick: The age of consent in Minnesota is 16. Take a look at the laws starting with 609.341. You can see this at the public library – just ask a librarian to help you. Once your paternity is established as the father of the baby, you share legal rights with the baby’s mother. We suggest that you talk with a lawyer who practices family law about your legal rights in this situation. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals in your area:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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So I am 22 years old and I got my 17 year old girlfriend pregnant. We live in iowa. We were wondering if there’s any way you can help me find out if she can get emancipated without her parents consent. She would be living me with and we both have good jobs to support all three of us and we plan on moving in together. Her parents are pressuring her to get an abortion and she doesn’t want to do that but her parents disagree. She would be done with school before she had the baby and she will start online college.
Dear William: Iowa does have an emancipation law (232C-1). You can read this at any public library for yourself. Ask the librarian for help finding it or google “Iowa 232C-1.” It is not easy to obtain and it can’t be done behind a parent’s back. If your girlfriend files a petition with the court for emancipation, she must serve a copy of the petition on her parents who have a right to attend the hearing and state their position. Good luck.
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Hi I’m 17 and im pregnant I was wondering if I could get emancipated without my parents say in it cause they do no agree with me having a baby, but I already plan to finish high school before I have the baby and the move in with the father of my child because we are currently dating. We both have jobs and are able to support the baby as well as ourselves, and they still do not agree with the idea but abortion is not the way to go and my father said he would make my life a living hell if I were to have the baby, so is there anyway to get emancipated without their consent?
Dear Taylor: First, you need to see what the laws in your state say about emancipation. Not every state has an emancipation process for minors. Generally, a minor becomes emancipated through marriage or enlistment in the military. Google the name of your state and “emancipation laws” for information. Good luck.
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Hello I’m from Austin Texas
my girlfriend is 16 and I’m 19
We think she might be pregnant
can I be liable for any charges reguarding statutory were 2 years and 360 days apart
Dear Cody: The age of consent in Texas is 17. If you google “texas age of consent” you will see the laws regarding underage sexual contact and the consequences. Whether anything happens to you if you’re girlfriend is pregnant depends on local law enforcement and the prosecutor’s position on enforcing these laws. Good luck.
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Dear judge,
Im 17 and I live in the state of Wisconsin my boyfriend is 20 I will be 18 on the 30 of January I’m pregnant can he go to jail it was consensuall. Please help.
Dear Devine: The age of consent in Wisconsin is 18. Here is the law about sex with a minor over 16:
948.09. Sexual intercourse with a child age 16 or older
Whoever has sexual intercourse with a child who is not the defendant’s spouse and who has attained the age of 16 years is guilty of a Class A misdemeanor.
So, the answer to your question is yes, the law has been broken but it’s highly unlikely he’d go to jail or even be charged with a crime. Discuss this with your parents and/or a criminal defense attorney for advice. Good luck with the baby and stay healthy.
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Dear judge,
i live with my grandma and so does my baby but shes getting guardianship of me. Once she does get guradianship of me am i allowed to move out if she said i could ?
Dear Eleanor: Once your grandmother has legal guardianship over you, she’s responsible for your care as if she were your parent. You need her permission to change your living arrangements. The specific laws in your state also apply and you need to look to the guardianship order signed by the judge. Good luck.
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I have a question what is the laws on being 17 and pregnant and then emancipated from your home when you’re being abused by your mother and you’d rather live with your boyfriend and his family and they’re willing to take you and your child in or in her case she is pregnant
Dear Melissa: Every state has its own laws regarding emancipation. Some don’t allow it at all until you turn 18, the legal age for an adult. Google the name of your state and “emancipation laws” for the details that apply to you. If you have been legally emancipated under the laws of your state, then you have the right to decide where and with whom you live. Good luck.
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If I’m 18 and my girlfriends 17 and she gets pregnant could I go to jail I live in ohio.
Dear Brock: The age of consent in Ohio is 16. Take a look at Ohio Revised Code 2907.04 for the details regarding sexual conduct with a minor. Your local public library should be able to pull this for you to peruse. Good luck.
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Hi Judje I Was Curious. Im Almost 17 1/2 and I Have A Baby. I Am Also In Foster Care. My Grandma Is Getting guardianship of me. Can i move out with my baby if she lets me. She is also getting money for me and my baby through the state. Will any of that affect me if i move out.
Dear Eleanor: Once your grandmother becomes your legal guardian, you can move to her home if she agrees to take you and the baby. Discuss this with your caseworker. The financial aid from the state should continue if you move to her home. There may be some red tape involved, so discuss this as well with your caseworker. Good luck.
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Hello Judge,
I have a few questions if you don’t mind. When I was younger I got adopted by my biological moms older sister. Im now 15 years old and still living with her and her husband. I Found out I’m pregnant and I want to keep my baby, the only thing stopping me is “what would my mom think” I am scared to tell my mom and dad (adoptive parents) because I’m sure they wouldn’t be supportive at all… I’m really stressed out and by telling them would only make me more stressed out because I know I’ll get yelled at for days straight.. I’m also scared that my parents will hit me, they don’t do it often but when they are very angry they hit, push, slam me into things so I’m scared for my baby and I. I really want to keep my baby and for the past 2 years I really want to move with my biological mother… She dosent live far from my area either only about a 20 minute drive. I know she would support me through my pregnancy and also I’m just more comfortable telling her. My parents don’t even know I’m sexually active but my biological mother does cause I trust her and I can tell her everything. I just want to know of there is someway I can move in with my biological mother.. Before I was pregnant and I was being emotionally abused I would always say I want to move with my real mom and they would then say “you can’t do that till your 18”. I’m scared cause I want to be with my real mother. And have a stress free pregnancy. If I were to one day just pack my bags and leave but still go to school would the cops come to my biological mothers house and take me back to my adoptive parents ?
Dear Janette: We commend you for wanting a “stress free pregnancy.” You have a lot going on and need to discuss your options with someone you trust as soon as possible. Maybe once your adopted parents learn about your pregnancy, they’ll permit you to live with your mother. The sooner they know about the pregnancy, the better since they’ll notice your baby-bump eventually. Perhaps a family meeting with all parents present would be a way to break the news. All the best & stay healthy for yourself & the baby.
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im 16 can i marry a 21 year old and him not get in trouble for it
oh and im from georgia
Dear Sierra: Under Georgia law, you need the consent of your parents to get married if you’re under 18. Take a look at this website for more information:
http://statelaws.findlaw.com/georgia-law/georgia-marriage-age-requirements-laws.html
Good luck.
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I am currently 15 years old and pregnant . Though my child won’t be here until after I turn 16 . The father of my child is 18 and will turn 19 in march . Is the I any possibility of him getting in to any legal trouble .
NOTE** My parents are not going to press charges.
Dear Bree: First, you need to look to the age of consent laws in your state. These are the laws that set age limits when a minor can legally consent to sex. Click here for more specific information. Since your parents are not going to report it to the police, it’s unlikely that your boyfriend will face charges. However, he may want to check with the hospital’s policies about reporting such matters when a baby is born to a mother who is a minor. Finally, check our Resource Directory under the Teen Health category for additional resources who may be able to provide further information to you. Please take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck.
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I am 17 years old and pregnant but I turn 18 in July and the baby is due in August/September and the father is 22 years old. Will they charge him with statutory rape? Or will it be legal since I turn 18 before the baby is born? Also I live in Arizona. Any advice or info would help.
Dear Kazumi: Due to your ages, he will not be charged with statutory rape. This occurs when you’re under 15 where the law doesn’t recognize the ability of a 14-year-old to consent to sex. Stay healthy and good luck.
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Okay I have a very difficult situation. I was kicked out of my house. I am about 11 weeks pregnant, and living with my baby’s father. I am 16 and turning 17 within a month, and he is 17. Can I get prenatal care without the consent of a parent because I technically don’t have a parent? Or, can the father of my child help me get the care I need?
Dear Elizabeth: The majority of states allow minors to receive prenatal care without parental consent. Click here to find out the specific law in your state and whether or not it will be an issue for you. Also, check the Teen Health category in our Resource Directory for additional resources which may be able to provide assistance. Please take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck.
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Hi judge
I am 15years old i live in iowa.
I want to have a baby when im 16 but my mom keeps telling me that if i do she will send me away.
Would i have a choice in the matter if i do have a baby, could my mom send me away?
Dear Myha: Just because you have a baby as a minor, you do not become emancipated or legally free from your parents. If you were to get pregnant and then have the baby, your Mom would still have the rights and responsibilities over you and the ability to make decisions about your upbringing including where you live. We strongly suggest you focus on your education and becoming an adult before you choose to get pregnant (if you are not already). Good luck.
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hello I was 15 now 16 and a pregnant mother my due date is may 14 2015 me and the father are still together strongly I need to know is their any way I can get out of my house I live in a home where we all fight a lot and not just arguing no im not at any right but grown adults doing the things they are to me is not right and not a stable and environment I want my child to be in its either parents fighting bad!!!! or me and the parents fighting. on top of that the house its self is not a good environment its moldy sticky 4 dogs in the house no room for a baby or a way a baby should live I want a clean healthy environment for my child and Its not at home.im still in school and plan on staying in school so I can be something for my child one day and my grandmother is willing to help me so I can. i want a way to get out so I can make sure my child don’t get hurt or go threw this. I live in royal center Indiana and I don’t want to talk to child protective services because they don’t help I have had them in my life before and they just make things worse!!!!! is their anything I can do
Dear Lolla: We’re very sorry to hear about your circumstances. Becoming a teenage mother does not make you “emancipated” or legally free from your parents. However, if you can get your parents to agree to letting you move out and live with another adult, relative, etc. then there shouldn’t be a problem. Perhaps living with your grandmother is an option? Try talking to your parents. When you are calm and able to tell them where you would like to live and why it would be better for you and the baby, maybe your parents will hear you out. If you feel that this is not an option, we strongly encourage you to talk with an adult you trust like a teacher, school counselor, relative or friend’s parent about your home life. You have the right to live in a safe home. Now that you’re having a baby, there are 2 people who have this right – you and your baby. Check the link to our Resource Directory below and look under the Teen Health category for additional resources that may be able to assist you. Good luck to you and your baby.
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I’m about to be 17 and I’m pregnant my boyfriend is 18 when my child is born will he be in me and my boyfriends custody?
Dear Alexis: As a teen parent, you have rights and responsibilities concerning the care of your baby, but you’re still a minor which means that your parents get to continue making decisions about your well being. So, you will get to make decisions about your baby’s upbringing, but your parents will continue to be legally responsible over you until you’re an adult. Take care of yourself and your baby.
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I am 17 years old, and 10 weeks pregnant. I want to leave out my house because my parents aren’t letting my boyfriend step in and do what he has to do. But because I am underage they say I can’t leave. I live in Arizona, so what should I do, what are my rights? Can I leave from my house and go with him?
Dear Amanda: Since you’re still a minor, your parents are still responsible for you and get to make decisions about where you live, etc. If you can get them to agree to letting you move out, then there wouldn’t be a problem, but if they refuse to allow it then you will have to wait until you are 18. Take care of yourself and your baby.
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Hi Judge,
I am 16 years old and in foster care. I was wanting to know if I can go live with my baby’s daddy if my foster mom decides to kick me out? Also yes I am still actively in foster but I have a huge feeling that my foster mom will kick me out. What is the rule in the state of Georgia?
Dear Shannon: It is unlikely that your foster mother would kick you out for having a baby. They may ask the state department that placed you there to move you to another home if they don’t want you and your baby there, But you won’t be on the streets. Talk to your caseworker about this and he or she will explain to you your options once the baby comes. Living with the baby’s father is a possibility but a slim one since he would need to be independent and approved by the state as an appropriate placement. Stay healthy and good luck.
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Hi my name is John I am 18 and my girlfriend is 16 we have been together for a year now. Come to find out shes pregnant. Her sister told her that if her mom finds out she is pregnant under the age of 18 she will take the baby into her care and send my girlfriend to live with her dad. We both live in the state of South Carolina is that possible for her to just take my child away from me and my girlfriend?
Dear John: This website is an education resource for & about teenagers and the laws that affect them. However, we don’t provide legal advice to our readers.
We suggest you contact the local Planned Parenthood office for answers to your questions that would be based on the laws in South Carolina. Your girlfriend has legal rights as a teen mother even though she’s under 18. You can also contact a local attorney who practices family or juvenile law for advice. Some provide free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals in your area:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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Judge,
I am 5 months pregnant with my daughter, the father of my child is 20 and i am 16 we live in Arizona. I do not want him around and he is not allowed to contact me or see me because of a domestic violence related protection order. Lately he has been following me and admitted to it in text, which got him his second offence of my protection order. Also he posted on facebook that my daughter is not his. When i have my baby is there a possibility that he can get rights and see me and the baby? What kind of custody or visitation could he get?
Dear Gennica: You have some very good questions about your baby’s future. However, since we are an education resource for teens and not a website that provides legal advice, we suggest you talk with a lawyer who practices family law. Some will give you a free initial consultation. Ask about this if you call one. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals in your area:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Before a father can claim visitation or custody rights in a child, paternity must be proven. This means he must submit to a paternity test. If he is proven to be the baby’s father, he can go to court to seek custody and/or visitation rights. However, if there is a history of domestic abuse, his chances of unsupervised visits dwindle. These are all matters you need to discuss with a lawyer. Good luck.
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I’m 17 currently 4 months pregnant , my mom is meantaly abusing me and the other night she threaten to punch me , shes calling em un fit and my bf is abusive when hes totally not ive been with him going in 5yrs next year in april . i turn 18 in febury and i was wondering can i currently leave since im getting abuse by my mother ? i live in new yourk state , i stay at my bfs and go to school everyday and im not a run away ? do you think the police can do anything about this sititation ?? i was told they couldnt im 17 and they normally dont . please answer me back please
Dear Erica: Your mother may be able to cause you problems if she reports you to the police. Usually, minors are required to listen to their parents until they become adults at 18. But if your mother is abusive, especially since you’re pregnant, the situation may justify living away from home. We suggest that you speak with a trusted adult such as a school
counselor, clergy, or a relative. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals in your area:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck and stay healthy for yourself and the baby.
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Hi judge
My names Kendra and I’m currently 17 and pregnant but when I have my child The end of November this year I’ll be 17 1/2 and the father of my child has a stable home great job and wants to be there for the baby and I and me because I’m not 18 my mother keeps tellin me I have to stay with her after the baby is born and I do not want this one bit. My mother has four other children and I have basically raised myself and them in short my mother and I have no relationship what so ever. My mom hasn’t had a permanent home for all of us in a year and time is running out for things to fall into place I’m concerned my mom is more interested in other things than the care of my child and the fathers mother has told me she would fight a custody battle if my mother didn’t allow me to move out with the baby and it would literally break my heart so what I’m asking is do I have to stay with her or can I move in with the father after my child is born. Ps I live in Ohio where I believe emancipation is illegal.
Dear Kendra: Getting legally emancipated is not easy unless you get married, join the military or have written consent from a parent. Being pregnant or having a baby as a teenager does not mean you’re emancipated. Unless your mom agrees to a move to the father’s home, you’re required to live with her until you turn 18. She is legally responsible for your care and can be in trouble if she doesn’t take care of you. Maybe in time she’ll change her mind and allow you to live with the father’s family. You can talk with Planned Parenthood about your rights under Ohio law or a local attorney who practices family or juvenile law. Take a look at our Resource Directory for professionals in your area:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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Hello and thank you for reading. My name is Alina and I’m sixteen years old. Is it possible for my mom to take me to court to state that I am an unfit mother based on my age? She wants custody of my unborn child to sign over to an aunt of mine who just recently miscarried. I’m scared and I want to keep my baby. What are my options.
Dear Alina: Based on your age alone, it’s unlikely you’d be found to be unfit by a court. Age does matter, but at 16 and pregnant, there may be no basis for such a finding by a judge. There must be evidence of unfitness to remove a child from a parent, including a teen parent. We suggest you speak with a lawyer who is familiar with juvenile or family law. You can contact a local court and ask if they have lawyers who donate their time to family law cases. You can also look at our Resource Directory for lawyers in your area.
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Ask about a free consultation when you call. Good luck.
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Im 15 and having my first child. I live in Georgia.After the baby is there a way I could leave my moms house,and live with my child’s father
Dear Ragen: Having a baby doesn’t mean you’re emancipated – free from your parents’ authority or rules. Try to work out your living arrangements with your parents and the baby’s grandparents on the father’s side. It’s best for everyone involved to work out something that all of you can live with and what’s in the best interests of the baby. Stay healthy & good luck.
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My name is kenya im 16 In georgia and pregnant my boyfriend just turned 19 my mom says if I don’t abort the child she will press charges on him, can she do that? the law says in Georgia its age of consent at 16 . not to mention I got pregnant when he was 18 and we haven’t had sex since he’s been 19 . I’m 4 weeks and my mom wants to abort it, can she press charges?
Dear Kenya: Generally, parents of pregnant teenagers cannot force them into having an abortion or placing a child up for adoption. The doctor will ask for your consent before performing the abortion. As for pressing charges, it appears that the age of consent in your state is 16 according to this site, but double check to make sure this information is accurate since laws are constantly changing. Therefore, if you got pregnant when you were already 16, then you were at the age of consent and your boyfriend would not be facing criminal charges. We suggest you try talking to your Mom when she’s calm and tell her what you want to see happen and why. If she realizes that you have thought this through and that you are making a well informed, responsible and mature decision, she may be more understanding and want to support your decision. For more help and resources for pregnant teens and teen moms, please look under the Teen Health category in our Resource Directory. Good luck.
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Hi my niece is 13 years old we live in Upstate New York Albany area my sister has told her she is putting the baby up for adoption she is six months along due in December however she doesn’t want to put the baby up for adoption what i and her are wondering is what rights she has and if her mom can her mom force her to put her baby up for adoption please respond asap
Dear Kara: Generally, parents of pregnant teenagers cannot force them into having an abortion or placing a child up for adoption. You need to look at the laws in your niece’s state to make sure this general rule/law applies. Perhaps you and your niece could sit down and have a heart to heart with your sister. Of course it’s going to be challenging to be such a young mother, but if she is ready to be a mom and wants to take on the responsibility, she needs to communicate that to her mother. Maybe her mom will see that she has thought it through and is being mature about the decision. For more help and resources for pregnant teens and teen moms, please look under the Teen Health category in our Resource Directory.
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Dear judge I am 16 and 4 weeks pregnant.I want to keep my baby but I’M terrified for my baby’s safety, I live in the state Of Florida. Is there anything i can do to remove myself and the baby? Ive tried emancipation but they wont allow ne to get a job for that reason. I have shorter i could go, its just how do i get there?
Dear Hailey: First, if you think your parents or guardians would be receptive to the idea of letting you live with someone else, then try talking to them and seeing if they would agree to it. If they do, then there wouldn’t be a problem and you could move out. Otherwise, if you are worried about you and your baby’s safety if and when your parents find out about your pregnancy, then you need to talk to an adult you trust whether it’s another relative, school counselor, teacher or a friend’s parent. An adult can help you get the help you and your baby need. Also, please look under our Teen Health resources in our Resource Directory. There may be resources available to you in your state. Please take care of yourself and your baby.
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If I’m 16 and my boyfriend is 20, can he get in trouble? I’m pregnant and from Iowa so I have reached the legal age of consent I just need to be sure. Thank you.
Dear Alex: The age of consent in Iowa is sixteen but there are exceptions for certain circumstances. You have to look to Iowa’s consent laws for the specifics. See this website for information:
http://www.age-of-consent.info/states/Iowa
You can also contact Planned Parenthood for information or ask a local juvenile law attorney. Take a look at our Resource Directory for assistance in your area. http://www.askthejudge.info/directory
Good luck.
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Dear Judge, I am under the age of 18, not married to the baby’s father, and live in Indiana. My mother told me I have no choice on what my baby’s last name will be, I want to give the baby the fathers last name but my mother said I have no choice but to give the baby my last name. What rights do I have to the baby’s last name considering I’m under 18?
Dear Alyssa: We suggest you talk with a lawyer about this or your local Planned Parenthood office. The law may require the father to establish paternity before the baby takes his name. Otherwise, the baby will have your last name. Take a look at our Resource Directory for information near you. Good luck.
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hi, i am 15 years old and im am at this moment 11 weeks pregnant the doctor already confirmed it and it was a yes my mom and my boyfriends mom have been supportive. However me and my boyfriend want to live to get there. He is 16 turning 17 soon he lives 2 hours away from me but our moms has agreed to me moving in with him but his mom needs to become my guardian so my mom wont get any of the bills. How is this going to work and can it
Dear Alle: You, your Mom and/or boyfriend’s mom need to contact the court to find out how to apply for guardianship. They may be able to fill out a form and submit it online through the court’s website. A clerk at the court should be able to explain the process. Since everyone is in agreement with the plan, there are stronger chances of getting the court’s approval. If you need to consult with a lawyer at any point, you could find out if your court offers a free legal assistance program which would allow you and your Mom to meet briefly with an attorney for free. Otherwise, your local legal aid office may be able to provide some free assistance. Good luck and please take care of yourself.
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I have a girlfriend who is 5 months along and she has been told to move out by her parents is it legal for her to move in with me? i am 16 and im trying to make her less stress for the baby.
Dear Nickolas: Her parents have a legal responsibility to provide for your girlfriend and take care of her basic needs. So if they kick her out, she’s not going to get into trouble for being a runaway or another similar “status offense” (offense that’s illegal simply because of the person’s age like running away or underage consumption of alcohol). However, it would be best if they were willing to agree to letting her live with you (and your parents if you still live at home). Check our Resource Directory under Teen Health for more resources that may help. Good luck to you and your girlfriend.
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My name is sandra I am 15 years old an im in sc rockhill in fostercare can I leave foster care if im pregnant ?
Dear Sandra: You are not considered emancipated or free to make your own decisions just because you’re pregnant or after you have the baby. As a teen parent, you will have rights and responsibilities concerning the care of your baby, but you’re still a minor which means that you still need to follow the rules of your foster parents/home. If you are unhappy with your current home, please talk to an adult you trust. Whether it’s your case worker, a relative, teacher, school counselor or a friend’s parent, they can help you make things either better with your current circumstances or explore alternatives for you. Also, check out our Resource Directory and look under Teen Health for resources in your area who may be able to help (just click on your state). Take care of yourself and your baby.
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I’m 15 live in Iowa and want to get birth control but am afraid to ask my mom would my grandma be able to take me without my parents knowing
Dear Hope: The age of consent in Iowa is sixteen. Take a look at this website for information in your state:
http://sexetc.org/states/iowa
Your grandmother may put herself in a difficult position if she takes you for birth control behind your parents’ back. Not to mention, the clinic may decline to provide you with contraceptives in view of your state’s age of consent. Think about this before you act. Good luck.
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(South Carolina)I am 15 years old and just found out I was 2 months pregnant. My parents are divorced and they have joint custody, but my dad has primary care. I really want to live with my mom, especially since I have gotten this news, but my dad wants me to stay at his house. My dad’s house is filthy, crowded, and they smoke in the house. Now that I am pregnant, do I have the right to choose which parent to live with, or does this still have to go through Family Court as if I wasn’t pregnant?
Dear Sarah: Unfortunately, it may have to go through family court if your parents cannot compromise and work out a living arrangement that works for all of you. Perhaps you and your Mom could try to calmly talk to your Dad about your concerns especially the smoking and health concerns now that you’re pregnant. Being pregnant does not mean that you’re emancipated or free to make your own decisions. Please take care of yourself and your baby. Check our Resource Directory under Teen Health for more resources available for you (just click on your state). Good luck.
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Im 17 gonna be 18 in 2 months im 2 months pregnant my boyfriend is 22 can i get married i live in the state of texas.my mom is constantly fighting with me she doesnt know im pregnant but she’d would be mad really mad i cant put up with the stress its dangerous for my baby
Dear Shayanna: Since you are still a minor, you would either need parental consent or need to petition the court in order to get married now. Considering you will be 18 in only 2 months, you may want to wait so don’t need any additional consent. Also, try talking to your Mom when you feel calm and let her know how you feel. She’s going to find out about the pregnancy pretty soon, so talking about it and making things better for you, may be a priority for her as well. Click here to find out more about the marriage laws in your state. Please take care of yourself and your baby.
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Hi my name is Greg and I live in Michigan I am 20 years old and have my first kid on the way. My question is my girlfriend is only 17 and due in February me and her will both turn a year older so I will be 21 and she will be 18 is there any way that I could get in trouble with the law over this?? Please help me.
Dear Greg: The age of consent in Michigan is sixteen, as in many states. What that means in your situation depends on the circumstances. We suggest googling “Michigan age of consent” for details about the laws and how they might apply to you and your girlfriend. Congratulations on the baby and good luck.
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Hi my name is Deena , Im 17 And i live in chipley Florida . im pregnant And my boyfriend is 18. ill be 18 in december. but we want to get married now. can we?
Dear Deena: You need to look to the marriage laws in your state. The following link has information about the marriage laws in Florida that state you need parental consent to marry if you’re under 18 (be sure to make sure the information listed is current). Good luck.
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I am 17, going to be 18 next month and I just found out that I am pregnant. The father of my child is 20, going to be 21 in December. My dad is a cop and I am scared he will to try arrest him, is it illegal, it was completely consensual sex.
Dear Megan: States have their own laws regarding consensual sex and age limits (age of consent laws). If you google “age of consent” and the name of your state, you’ll find information to answer your question. Most likely 17 and 20 does not constitute a crime, but you have to look to your state’s specific law on this. Good luck and stay healthy. Also, check our Resource Directory under Teen Health for additional resources in your area.
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I wrote to you before and you gave some helpful advice. I was 15 pregnant and my boyfriend’s mother at the time tried to make me have an abortion. When I would not do that, she tried to convince me to give my baby away. When I wouldn’t do that she had her son (the father to my baby) cut off all contact with me and immediately hated our family even though we dated for 2 years and his parents facilitated our sexual relationship in their home. My parents did not know about it and were obviously really upset when they found out and found out I was pregnant but were completely supportive and helped me to see I could continue my education, go to college and make it all work, but it was going to be tough. My son is doing great and a very happy baby. My parents have been very supportive of us and I am doing really well in high school and a rising senior with over a 4.0 GPA. My baby is now 15 months old and the father wants to be involved, but only after my son’s GAL went out and met with him at his school without his mother present. He sees him through supervised visits now for 1 1/2 hours a week. His parents are not allowed to see him yet, but the Grandmother wants access to him and was angry when the courts did not approve of it yet. I am really scared she will try and harm him. My parents are fighting hard to keep my baby and me protected with the supervised visits, but I am afraid the court will eventually let him have access to the baby in his home even though his mom basically tried to force me to kill or get rid of my baby. My parents have spent a fortune trying to keep him safe and yet give his father access. We’ve never cut him off and I would text him throughout my pregnancy to let him know how the baby is doing and invited him to be there for the birth. He didn’t show up. He just met his 15 month old son 5 weeks ago. There are also serious concerns about his life style. His parents allowed him to drink (starting at the age of 14), he posts on social media about drug usage and very sexual inappropriate comments. My parents are worried sick about their family environment and doing everything they can afford legally to keep Hayden in supervised visits. What can I do to protect my baby if my parents can’t keep stalling access in their home? Why would a judge even think of putting him in a home where she knows there is drugs & alcohol abuse by minors and adults and the grandmother wanted the baby to just be gone. I am so worried. Any advice you can share would be helpful.
Dear Worried: AsktheJudge.info is an education site for & about teens and the laws that affect them. We don’t provide legal advice to teens or adults. And that’s what you need.
Family law regarding custody, visitation and child support is based on state laws. A lawyer who represents you as the mother of the child would be able to assist you. Many provide free initial consultations and you should ask about this if you contact one. You can also take a look at our Resource Directory for a lawyer in your area. Good luck.
Both parents are 17 years old.Mom was keeping dad from the baby however they now want to be together and share custody. If the teenage mom has no issue’s with the babies father seeing him and being a part of his life do the teenage mothers parents still have a right to step in the middle and not allow this to happen even if the teenage mother wants to have the father see their baby?
Dear Alice: As the birth father of the child, he has equal rights with the mother to custody and visitation with his child as well as the responsibility to support the child. If the mother’s parents are preventing him from seeing the baby, he may want to speak with a local family law attorney in his area. Thanks for asking.
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Dear judge, im going to be 17 years old in three months i just found out im pregnant but the father may be 26 years old. is this illagel? Is he going to go to jail? Or do i have legal rights to move out?
Dear Melissa: The age of consent laws in your state determine the legal age when a person can consent to sex. In many states, the age is 16 so your relationship with the baby’s father would not be illegal if that is the law in your state. You can find out the laws in your state here, but be sure to confirm that the information provided is current. As for moving out, your parents are still legally responsible for you and get to make the decisions about your upbringing. Unless you are emancipated, you are still under their authority. However, if they agree with your plans and let you move out, then there shouldn’t be a problem. Take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck.
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I’m currently 15 years old, I live in Michigan, and I just found out that I am pregnant.. My babys father is 15 also and we will both be 15 when the baby is born in Feb. will my boyfriend get arrested for being a minor? If so.. How long? and how much would bail cost? My parents would never support me or him, and I cant get emancipated until beginning of July,which is 5 months after the baby is born.. My boyfriends parents offered to let me move in with them because me and my parents already dont get along…
Dear Kaeleigh: You will have to find out the age of consent laws in your state to know when you can legally consent to sex. Most likely you are under age and violated the age of consent law, however, it’s extremely unlikely that your boyfriend would be arrested since it is not a “statutory rape” case (meaning he’s an adult while you’re a minor). As for living with him and his parents, your parents would have to agree to this arrangement since you’re under 18 and not emancipated. Perhaps you could try sitting down with them and having a calm, mature conversation about what would be best for you and your baby. Please check our Resource Directory and the resources under Teen Health – Pregnancy for resources in your area. Please take care of yourself and your baby.
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Im 16 turning 17 soon & i might be pregnant, My boyfriend & I are 4yrs apart, we have talked about our situation and if i am pregnant, he would like to be in the room & sign as the father. I heard the hospital would be fine unless my parents pressed charges against him which they wouldn’t because they approved of his age already. But I was wondering Is this true? Or would he definatly get into trouble. Living in texas. Thanks
Dear Jess: We don’t know whether the hospital would contact the police based on your circumstances. As you know, the hospital probably has a policy on this. You could try contacting the labor and delivery department of the hospital to see if you can get your questions/concerns answered. You could also check our Resource Directory for help with pregnancy related questions. Please take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck.
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Hi judge my children were taken away from me by dhs in 2007 and put in foster care then I wasn’t stable enough to get them back they then went to live with my aunt who now has guardianship of them. What would I have to do to get them back”
Dear A: AsktheJudge.info is an educational site for and about teens and the law. You could try contacting a local family law attorney to help assist you with the process. Many attorneys offer a free initial consultation. Also, your local court may offer a free legal assistance program where you could meet briefly with a pro bono attorney. Finally, your local legal aid office may be able to assist as well as they often provide assistance for family law matters. You can check our Resource Directory for a legal aid office near you. Good luck.
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Im 17 and pregnant again I already have a 2 year old can I go to my doctor with out my mom or does she have to go..
Dear Karen: That depends on the laws in your state. Every state has laws about minors receiving medical care with and without parental consent. Google the name of your state and “teen medical consent” for information. You can also contact your local Planned Parenthood office and ask. Good luck & stay healthy.
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I was just wondering about my rights as a pregnant 16 year old well this is what’s going on my mom kicked me out 2 times now and she is lying and saying she never did. I can’t rely on her anymore, I don’t know what to do about this. I tried talking to my school but they said I have to go back because she wants me back. Now she said I have to go to counciling with her I really don’t have any time for counciling that I don’t even need. I don’t know what to do.
Dear Tori: As long as you’re under 18, you’re required by law to obey your parents or legal guardian. Other wise you could be charge with what’s called incorrigible behavior that may land you in juvenile court. Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you’re an adult with the rights that adults enjoy (unless you’re an emancipated minor which is a difficult status to obtain). Discuss your concerns with your mom and you may reach an agreement that you both can live with. Good luck and stay healthy for your sake and your baby’s.
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Hi, well for starters I am currently 17 but will turn 18 in a couple months. I just found out that I am most definitely pregnant and need to know 1.) Can my boyfriend, who is in on this very confidently, get know trouble? He is 4 years older than I. And 2.) Will I need parental consent to be able to move in with him to make things easier for us? A little back ground for you, my mother, who I live with at the moment is a bit controlling and abusive. She has hit me multiple times leaving a few bruises here and there. If she found out I was pregnant, I would probably be beaten more to a pulp and won’t be able to feel much afterwards. Its a hard life for me to be with her. Have actually gotten in quite a few arguments which she has said that I am legally her responsibility therefore I can’t move out until I turn 18. Yes, I do plan on graduating. I have a steady job and have more ways of getting money. Not to mention that my boyfriends parents love me and are very supportive as he is in this matter. I would love to have as much information on these questions and any that you think would be beneficial to my situation. Thank you.
Dear Jessie: First, congratulations on the baby – stay healthy for both of you.
Regarding your boyfriend getting into trouble, it’s unlikely but the laws in every state differ as to minors and sexual conduct. Plus someone would have to actually file a complaint to instigate an investigation into possible charges. Google the name of your state and “sexual conduct with a minor” for the laws on this.
We’re sorry to hear of your home situation. Maybe you can discuss your living arrangements with your mother and see if she’ll agree to a move to your boyfriend’s home. Since you’re close to turning 18, she may allow you to move out a few months early. It may depend on how you approach the subject. Discuss this with others you trust. Good luck.
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Hi judge,
I’m 17 years old and my boyfriend and his family are very supportive of our pregnancy being that his parents were teen parents as well. My main point is that my parents, on the other hand, are strongly against my pregnancy and are constantly trying to make me have an abortion or give up the baby. I’m 6 weeks along and they’ve even gotten to the point where they are threatening to force me to abort the pregnancy. My question is: by law, are my parents able to force me to terminate or give up the child? Is there anything I can do? I’m against abortion, what are my parental rights? I’ve searched all over the internet and haven’t yet found the answer I’m looking for. Please help!
Dear Jordan: You have to look to the laws in your state about abortion and what rights as a teen mom you have. Parents come into the picture since you’re underage and can influence this decision; however, no one can force you into having an abortion. Even as a minor you have a constitutional right over any decisions concerning the fetus. In order for an abortion to be done your consent will be needed as well as your parents depending on how the law that applies to you reads. For more information based on the laws in your state, check our Resource Directory (click on your state) under the Teen Health category or try talking to another adult you trust like a school counselor or even a pregnancy resource center in your area. Please take care of yourself and good luck.
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Hi I’m 20 and my girlfriend is 16 turning 17 in a couple months she’s pregnant and we live in California. Her parents are very supportive and want me there to take care of the baby when it comes which is what I planned on doing anyways. My question is can I sign the birth certificate without getting in trouble and going to jail?
Thank you
Dear Devon: You’ll have to check with the hospital where the mother will have the baby. They have their own policies regarding the completion of birth certificates. If the mother names you as the baby’s father and you’re there to complete the form, you may be able to sign it even though you’re not married. Also, you could try contacting your local Planned Parenthood as they may be able to further assist you. Good luck and congratulations.
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I’m 16 years old and my mom is making me have an abortion and I’m totally against it. Legally can she make me get and abortion?
Dear Katie: At AsktheJudge.info we don’t provide legal advice to our readers whether teen or adult. We are an education site about teen rights & responsibilities. You have to look to the laws in your state about abortion and what rights as a teen-mom you have. Parents come into the picture since you’re underage and can influence this decision. In order for the abortion to be done your consent will be needed as well as your parent or parents depending on how the law that applies to you reads. You can obtain advice about this from your local health clinic or organizations such as Planned Parenthood. Good luck.
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hi judge,
Im 16 and pregnant but will be 17 in march and the baby is due in february. im working and will be able to afford an apartment with my boyfriend who is 19 and have my own medical coverage and am finishing up school but my dad is still refusing to let me move out but i really feel i need to and that thats whats best. What are the chances of me getting emancipation if i file for it? I live in rhode island.
Dear Gabby: In any emancipation proceeding, the parents have a right to be notified and given a chance to be heard by the court. So if your father opposes your emancipation, he will be able to explain why to the judge and, ultimately, it’s the judge’s decision. You have to be able to show the court you’re mature and able to make adult decisions about all aspects of your life. Good luck.
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Hi my name is Kaleah I live in Michigan I’m 15 and recently found out that I was pregnant. My mom was supportive at first but now she’s a little iffy she tells me one thing then another. She keeps threatening to take my baby away I wanted to know if I have any rights because I’m so young if you would please help. Thank you.
Dear Kaleah: Yes, you do have rights as a teen mom. However, they vary from state to state. We suggest you contact a local Planned Parenthood to learn about your rights or juvenile court in your area. Good luck and stay healthy for yourself and your child.
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i live in Michigan and was wondering if my step daughters child support would stop being she is 17 almost 18 and now pregnant.
Dear Lonnie: You’ll have to look to the court orders concerning your husband’s child support for his daughter. Just because she is pregnant does not mean that she is emancipated or now legally free from her parents. Child support may be required even after a minor turns 18. Good luck to you and your family.
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Dear Judge,
I am 17 and I am currently 7 months pregnant, I need some advice on moving out of my parents house. I want to move in with my boyfriend and his parents is there anything I could do? I want to avoid taking my parents to court.
Dear Kennedy: Since you’re 17, pregnant and going to be an adult soon, perhaps you could try talking to your parents about your desire to move in with your boyfriend and his parents. Try sitting down with them and having a calm, mature conversation about the matter. If they’re willing to let you move in with him, then there shouldn’t be a problem. If they disagree with your wishes, then there isn’t much you can do until you become an adult (18 in most states) or if you become emancipated, then you would be considered legally free from your parents. Good luck and take care.
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Hi I’m 17 an pregnant I’ll be 18 in 2 months. I live in Georgia and I was wondering if f you could tell me my rights and If I withdraw from. School will be taken from me?
Dear Payton: According to this document, the legal drop out age in Georgia is 16. That means that compulsory attendance laws mandating school attendance end once a student becomes 16. However, you may want to Google “Georgia compulsory attendance laws” to verify that the law is still current. Finally, staying in school or looking at alternative options such as online programs may be worth the effort especially since you will soon be responsible for raising a baby. An education is always a valuable asset to have for future opportunities. Good luck and take care.
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I am 17 and only about 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is 20. We live in Connecticut and I believe that makes our relationship illegal only by a month. (How silly right?) I will be 18 when I give birth. Will Our age difference cause legal issues? What can I do to help this situation?
Dear mommy2be: It appears that the age of consent in Connecticut is 16, which means that you don’t need to worry about there being any legal issues as you are of the legal age to consent to sexual activity. However, you may want to Google your state’s law (just type out the statute – § 53a-71 (a)(1)), to be sure that the law is still current. Good luck and please take care of yourself and your baby.
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Im 17 and my boyfriend is 19, im currently carrying his child and he recently got arrested. His family is refusing to keep me informed of all legal matters and refusing to tell me anything thats going on. Do i have any legal rights to be kept informed? I feel as though i should because the outcome will affect both me and the child.
Dear Amber: Under the laws in most states, a girlfriend (pregnant or not) has no legal rights over the boyfriend or information about them. Once the baby is born that’s another matter. Child support is owed by both parents regardless of marriage. Check with a local family law attorney for details in your state. Good luck.
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Hello Judge Tom,
I am in need of a fairly quick answer. I was involved in a 2 year relationship with my boyfriend. He was my first boyfriend ever. I gave in to pressure around 1 1/2 years into our relationship. The sexual relationship took place in his parents home and they were aware of it. I became pregnant even though he was suppose to be using condoms. He admitted to his parents and mine that he took the condom off on purpose when it was determined I was pregnant. My parents were furious because we were both only 14 at the time the sexual relationship began. Even so, my parents stood by me and helped me through my pregnancy and are helping to take care of my son. The father and his family now pretend I don’t exist or the baby even though they facilitated the sexual relationship in their home. Both he and his parents treated me like family and I thought they loved me so I am shocked at how badly they have treated me and his son and their grandson. When my Mom asked why they would facilitate a sexual realtionship between teens without discussing with her, they said that they started having sex at that age and thought that as long as we were using protection. My Mom was very upset and thinks they are about the most irresponsible people she has ever met. We are Catholic and in fact my Uncle is a Priest. The father’s mother also berated me for more than 3 hours one night to have an abortion. After that my Mom would not allow me to step foot in their house again, not that I would want to. I love my baby very much, but I also feel badly that my parents are paying for everything. I just turned 16 and the father is 5 months younger than me and is only 15. I live in the State of Virginia and filed for medicaid, so my baby does have health insurance. Unfortunately due to my family’s income, I don’t qualify for any other assistance in the State of Virginia, such as discounted childcare, etc. My pregancy has had a huge financial impact on our family. I have a twin sister and my father is retired and has a severe heart condition so only my Mom works. It doesn’t seem to matter what expenses my Mom has to take care of for our family, her income automatically disqualifies me for any assistance for childcare or to help pay for my medical bills that were not covered by my Mom’s insurance. It is literally thousands of dollars since I had to have a C-section. I feel really guilty about the financial impact this has had on my family and can’t believe his family feels absolutely no responsibility. I invited the father to be part of the pregnancy, be there when he was born, etc., but they did not show up even though the baby’s father had his Mom text me and say they will be there. My Mom wanted him to go through counseling with me, but his mother refused and would not allow him to even talk to me. My baby is fatherless on his birth certificate because he did not show up at the hospital. The State of Virginia served papers to us both for paternity since I filed for Medicaid. I know he is the father as I’ve never had a relationship with anyone else and he obviously knows he is the father as does his parents. Our court date is next Thursday. We’ve been advised by friends to show up with an attorney, but my Mom just can’t afford it. They all want a $3,000 retainer. Can you tell me What I can expect in the court hearing which will take place in like the Juvenile & Family Division? Any advice since I can’t afford an attorney. Also, since the State of Virginia considers my Mom and our household income available to my child and me, shouldn’t his family’s income be considered to pay child support and help with their grandson’s expense. It seems really unfair that only my family would be impacted financially. On a positive note, the baby’s great grandparents asked to see him on the father’s side and have seen him and want to be involved with his life. I think they are actually ashamed of their grandson and his parents at this point. I was very close with his entire family after dating for 2 years, so their treatment has been very hurtful to me and I feel really badly how this has impacted our family even though my parents and entire family never complain and absolutely love my son. Thanks for any help you can provide.
Dear teen Mom: There is a reason the state is seeking a paternity determination. That is to recover or help offset the Medicaid or other state benefits you or your baby may receive. Every state has child support laws that include teen parents. Usually, the teen’s parents are legally responsible to support the child as well as the teen, if he or she is able to work, even part time. You may not need a lawyer because, in effect, the state is representing its interests and yours indirectly. Once paternity is established your state laws kick in regarding the financial responsibility of the father. If you Google “Virginia teen parent and child support” you may find additional information. When you go to court next week you and your parents can talk with the state’s attorney about this. Take good care of your baby and all the best to you.
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Please help. I’m 22 my girlfriend is 4 months shy of her 18 birthday and pregnant. She is currently at a program and they are not giving her premeridal vitamins nor are they concerned with her health and well being. They are not allowing me to see her AT ALL and I want to and feel the need to take care of her. Her PO is going to great lengths to keep her away from me. I want to see her and comfort her and I’m not being aloud too do so. They won’t even let her call me. I want her living with me everyone consents to this as well as her mother but the PO supposedly has the last word. What do I do?? What can I do to fight against this?
Dear Charlie: We don’t provide legal advice to teens or adults. AsktheJudge.info is an educational site for & about teens and the laws that affect them.
Since your girlfriend has a probation officer, she’s under the jurisdiction of a court. Her placement is likely court-ordered or with the consent of her parents or guardian. Until she turns 18 and is no longer under the court’s jurisdiction, there’s little you can do about seeing her or being involved in her life. You can talk with a lawyer who practices juvenile law for advice. Good luck.
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Hi judge, I have a question.. My girlfriend is 17 years old and she is pregnant, she’s about to be 18 in 4 months, and I am 19 years old… You think I still get in trouble with her Mom concern?? Thanks… 🙁
Dear Manuel: Since she is still a minor, yes you may be out of favor with her mother. As long as your girlfriend lives at home, the law requires her to listen to her mother. So, she could bar you from seeing her even though she’s pregnant. You may have to wait until she turns 18 and is legally an adult. Good luck and do the right thing regarding your baby.
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I’m 17 years old and my boyfriend is 16 years old, we ran away because I was pregnant and his parents didnt want me to be at their house because of my pregnancy, so we are living on our own and his parents pressed charges on me for making him run away when in reality he simply didnt want me to be alone so he run away to be with me, can they do that?
Dear Bris: Your boyfriend’s parents can report you to the police and then the police may follow up with an investigation depending on the circumstances and the laws in your state. Because you are both minors, you both could face consequences for running away. Perhaps if you could talk with both your parents about this and get them to understand that you are being responsible and able to take care of yourselves, they may be more agreeable to giving you both some independence or reconsider you living with them. You want to be sure to be living in a safe environment when the baby comes and not have to worry about being arrested. Finally, you can click here for information about emancipation in your state as another option. Good luck.
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Hi Judge,
I am currently 16 turning 17 in September and I live in the state of Florida. I have a couple of questions for you. I have been living with my man for 2 years, where not married yet but where saving up. My both legal parents are aware of our relationship and us living together for basically 2 years. They never disagreed about us. He’s currently 19 and we’ve have been paying many bills together and we have the same adult responsibilities as an adult would have as in our car, phone bills, house bills, our expenses and we have the same bank accounts. Our both family are aware of all this as well and they are happy of us. But I am aware I’m going to just turn 17. My questions is that we currently moved in my parents in law house and my father now is disagreeing. My father has my custody but I rarely see him nor I have not been living with him for 2 years now. He’s always been ok with us till now that where saving for our own place. I might be pregnant and I have concerns if my father could stop us because of his selfishness ways. My fiancé works for wells cargo company and is about yo get paid 15 an hour. Where fanacially fit and I had a steady job but left it do to change of city. I’m te applying at new places but I wanted to know if there’s anyway my father could interfere? My mom think my father is doing wrong to us. Where engage. I had gotten pregnant once but I had a miscarriage 🙁 Can you please help us Judge I appreciate it
Dear Gigi: If you and your parents don’t work this new arrangement out, you can look into your state’s emancipation laws. Since you’ve been living independent for the past two years with your parents’ knowledge and continue to be financially responsible for your bills, the court may make you an emancipated minor. It’s not an easy status to obtain because of what you have to prove to the court. Also your parents have a right to object and the court takes that into consideration as well. It would be best to reach an agreement with your parents regarding your baby and living arrangements. Google “Florida emancipation laws” for information. As a minor you’re required to obey your parents including where you live, but your situation is different since you’ve been away from home for the past two years as you say. Good luck.
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Im sixteen years old I live on austin tx. I turn 17 in september but my baby is due in august. My boyfriend is already 17 is he able to get custady of our son. And I akso wanted to know if I have the right to namr my baby instead of my mother.
Dear Evellinda: Teen parents have equal rights to custody and visitation with their children. It would be best to sit down and discuss the upcoming birth of your child with your parents and your boyfriend’s parents. Working out these important matters is better than going through the frustration, expense and time involved by going to court. The decision about naming the baby belongs to you and the baby’s father. Good luck and stay healthy.
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How do you get emancipated? My step father is physically abusive and a drunk. I need out. I live in IL
Dear Brianna: Illinois is one of the states that has an emancipation law. However it’s not easy to become an emancipated minor. You have to show the court you’re financially independent and able to make mature decisions about all aspects of your life. You can either Google Illinois emancipation law” or go to your local library and ask to see Illinois law 750 ILCS 30/1. We’re sorry to hear about things at home with your stepfather. Maybe you can talk with your Mom about this so she can do something to help you out. If you can’t talk to your Mom, you need to talk to an adult you trust like another relative, school counselor or teacher. Finally, you can report the abuse even anonymously to the Child Protective Services hotline at 1-800-422-4453. Good luck.
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I am 15 and pregnant and live in south carolina by the time I have my baby I will be 16 and I want to know if I can move out? Also if it is possible that my parents gain custody of the baby once its born?
Dear Stephanie: You are not considered emancipated or free from your parents just because you’re pregnant or after you have the baby. As a teen parent, you will have rights and responsibilities concerning the care of your baby, but you’re still a minor which means that your parents get to continue making decisions about your well being. That being said, you will be responsible for your baby and have custody unless your parents take legal action to have custody or be the guardians. Perhaps you could try talking to them about how you feel and what your plans are. If they are willing to let you live with someone else, or make other changes to make you happy at home, then there shouldn’t be a problem. If you feel that you can’t talk to them, we strongly encourage you to talk to another adult you trust like a relative, teacher or school counselor. Take care of yourself and your baby. Good luck.
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I am currently 17, 18 next april, 1 month pregnant with a 24 year olds baby. I live in wisconsin with my mother and my mother is not comfortable with me having sex, let alone with a 24 year old, so i think she would call the cops and have him arrested. I dont want to ruin his life, but i am not open to abortion. I heard that you can get married in georgia without parents concent if you have a doctors report saying that you are pregnant. Is that true? What other options are there? If i talk to my mom and she is willing to not call the cops will he still goto jail for sagitory Rape even if she doesnt report him? Is there any way to just not tell them who the father is? Im so lost with this….Help?!
Dear Brittney: We don’t provide legal advice to our readers but we can refer you to the laws that you are asking about. Here is information from Findlaw.com about marriage in Georgia: http://statelaws.findlaw.com/georgia-law/georgia-marriage-age-requirements-laws.html
We suggest you speak with a local counselor about your options. Planned Parenthood has information for teen mothers that you can obtain. Good luck.
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I am 15 years old , soon to be 16 in July. I am pregnant and I am due July 25th. I live in Michigan, and as a child I got token into custody when I was 8, by my oldest sister. Am I considered my own adult now? What are my rights in a situation like this?
Dear Haley: You are not considered emancipated or free from your guardian just because you’re pregnant or after you have the baby. As a teen parent, you will have rights and responsibilities concerning the care of your baby, but you’re still a minor which means that your older sister gets to continue making decisions about your well being. If you want to be free from her, perhaps you could try talking to her. Let her know how you feel and what exactly you would like to see happen, where you would like to live, etc. If you feel that you can’t talk to her, we strongly encourage you to talk to another adult you trust like a relative, teacher or school counselor. Finally, you can check out this site for more information about emancipation laws in your state. Take care of yourself and your baby.
I am 17 im currently pregnant with my boyfriend who is 24. we plan on getting married with my fathers consent . After we do get married is there anything that can happen to him in legal actions if i was pregnant before the marriage. But now the marriage is finalized? Idaho is the state i live in
Dear Kenya: Most states have laws regarding the age of majority and what constitutes statutory rape. Under Idaho law, the age of majority is 18. Take a look at Idaho law 18-6101 for the definition of statutory rape. It is up to local prosecutors whether to file formal charges or not when they become aware of potential offenders. You can also speak with a local lawyer about these concerns. Good luck.
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My name is Bianca and I’m 16, 5 months pregnant, and live in California. I was wondering if there is any jobs I should avoid being pregnant because I’m looking.
Dear Bianca: We’re glad that you are asking about this and wanting to protect you and your baby’s health. You should talk to your doctor about his as he/she will be able to advise you on jobs to avoid while being pregnant especially based on you and your baby’s current health status. If you don’t have a doctor, contact Planned Parenthood for answers to your pregnancy related questions. Certain jobs like working with hazardous materials, industrial work and jobs that require heavy lifting will most likely need to be avoided; however, these jobs are often off limits for minors anyway. Good luck and take care.
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hello,
My name is Maddy and I live in Ohio and I’m 16 and pregnant with my 17 year old boyfriends baby. I was wondering if I could move in with him without my parents concent. I want my babies father to be there to help take care of the baby but I am scared that my parents will keep me away from him. If you could please answer this question I would really love that.
Dear Maddy: Unless you are emancipated, you are required to live with your parents or a guardian until you are 18. If your parents agree to letting you live with your boyfriend and his family, then there shouldn’t be a problem in you doing so. Otherwise, you will have to continue to live with your parents. Perhaps you could try sitting down and calmly talking with them about how you feel. You might be able to reach an agreement about you and the baby’s living situation if you open up to them, but in a calm and respectful way. The fact is that your boyfriend is the father of their grandchild and nothing is going to change that, so maybe they will start accepting him being part of your life. Good luck.
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My name is Christian and I am a pregnant 17 year old. The father of the baby is 18 and on a restraining order to not see me. My parents put the restrain order on him. On Wednesday I have an abortion appointment pressured by my parents. If I chose to keep the baby living at home for the next 4 to 5 months I was threaten by my parents that living at home pregnant would be a choice I would regret. That my life would be made miserable while pregnant? Is there any way I can leave my house now?
Dear Christian: Unless you are emancipated, your parents are responsible for you until you are 18. In other words, you have to continue to follow their rules. At the same time, you do have rights as a teen mother. If your parents agree to letting you live with another adult, then you can move without there being any problem. Otherwise, you will need to continue to live with them. If you need to talk to someone about your options and your rights as a teen mom, please talk to a counselor at your school or contact your local Planned Parenthood. Best of luck.
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Hello my name is Brandi and im 14 .,15 in april . Um pregnant by a 29 year old and my baby is due on august 12,2013 and im in in fostercare . My mother doesnt want me having my baby girl and her and my grandmother tried to go against me for custody to giv up her for adoption . I want my baby and im in emmancipation process but im worried I that it wont b done in time and thesystem will take my bby beacause my past behavioral issues . I wanted to know if it came down to it and I awoled can I get charged with kidnap of my unborn child . And would I loose custody if I gave birth and stayed . I live in riverside county of california . Hellp!!! I have 20 weeks till birth and the emancipation has tooken 2months and doesnt look promising . Please help .
-brandie jo williams
Dear Brandie: As a teen mom, you do have certain rights over your baby. We suggest you talk with a counselor at school about this or another adult you trust and would feel comfortable with. You can also contact Planned Parenthood for advice and to discuss your options. Child Protective Services get involved in cases and will place a newborn baby in another home or foster care if, for example, there are substance abuse issues going on. However, if you are sober and able to care for your baby, this may not be an issue. Again, a counselor at your school or Planned Parenthood could help explain the process to you and possibly reassure you that your baby is not at risk of being taken depending on your circumstances. Finally, you could schedule a consultation with a family attorney to talk about these matters. Many attorneys offer a free initial consultation. Take care of yourself and the baby. Good luck.
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Dear Judge,
I’m 16 and I’m pregnant by my 20 year old boyfriend. He is in the Army, he is in SOPC. He lives is in Fort Bragg NC while I am here in West Virginia. We want to get married here in West Virgina. What exactly are my rights, and what all do I need to do to prepare for His and I wedding?
Dear Savana: Since you are a minor, it appears that you need parental consent in order to get married. However, you need to make sure these laws are current, so you could contact your local court and speak with a clerk about the matter and how to go about getting a marriage license. If you haven’t already talked to your parents about your plans, you should do so. With parental consent, you and your boyfriend can get married without there being a problem. Best of luck to you, your boyfriend and unborn child.
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Hi judge,
Im currently 16 and having a baby girl in about 4 months, I live in Michigan, and want to know my rights, my mother is not at all happy that i am pregnant and does not want me to keep my baby girl, she says i can live with her but the baby can’t because im a minor i can’t move out with an aunt yet, what can i do so i can keep my baby?
Dear Izzy: As a teen mom, you do have certain rights over your baby. We suggest you talk with a counselor at school about this or another adult you trust and would feel comfortable with. You can also contact Planned Parenthood for advice and to discuss your options. Take care of yourself and the baby. Good luck.
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I live in Michigan and i have a 9 month old daughter. Iam 18 years old and my ex girlfriend is 15. She has been refusing to let me see my daughter for months now and her mom has finally stepped in, but she only let’s me see my daughter for 6 hours a week. Do I have any rights to see my daughter? Also the mother of my child claims that she is going to take full custody as soon as she turns 18 and can go to court. So I’d just like to know what rights I have to see my child, how do I get more time with her, and is it going to be easy for her to take full custody because she’s the mother.
Dear Sir: As the birth father of the child, you do have equal rights with the mother to custody and visitation with your child as well as the responsibility to support the child. We suggest you speak with your parents about this. Together you can decide how to proceed. You may want to consult a family lawyer who can explain to you your legal rights and how to protect them. Many family lawyers will give you a free consultation for the first 30-60 minutes. Ask about this when you call the lawyer’s office. Also, many courts around the country have a Family Law Assistance Program where you may obtain free legal advice on these issues. Good luck.
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My niece lives in Ar. and she has a two week old baby, she’s 1 month from being 17 yrs. old. The babies father is 16yrs. old. The fathers parents are threatening my neice with legal action if she doesn’t let them see the baby. They wanted her to sign something to say that their son would not have to pay child support. No one is for sure if it’s even the boys child. What can they do legally do to her? What are her rights as far as Ar.law goes
Dear Colette: Your niece may want to contact a family law attorney in her area who could provide information based on the specific laws in her state as well as her circumstances. First, she does have rights as a teen parent and the possible grandparents on the father’s side will have to take the matter to court if they want visitation rights of the baby. Since it sounds uncertain as to who the biological father is, a paternity test may need to be conducted. Your niece can choose to either ignore the grandparent’s threats and wait to see if they take the matter to court, talk to a local attorney about her situation or try talking to the grandparents and work out some sort of compromise. Good luck to your niece.
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Hi my name is Kayla im 16 and I live in Sioux City Iowa. I am curently pregnant and I would like to know if I have the rights to move out and into my own place. Mom and dad are very stricked and I cant hvae the way they live around my baby. I need help. I dont know where to go or what to do. Im have enough cash to get me and my baby a place and have the things she needs but how do I get out without having to be controled by my parents. Someone said that if you are pregnant in the state of Iowa you are considered an adult and you can move out. I need help find out if this is true. Thanks
Dear Kayla: What you have been told is incorrect. Below is some information about emancipation in Iowa.
http://minors.uslegal.com/emancipation/iowa-emancipation-of-minor-law/
Either by way of military enlistment or marriage does one become an emancipated minor in most states. So, you’ll have to make the best of the situation. As a minor you’re required to listen to your parents until reaching age 18. Hopefully you can all sit down and reach an agreement that’s acceptable to everyone. Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hello judge, I’m 15 and pregnant, she will be here soon, I have to ask in Michigan, can the father take custody from me?
He’s 17, not in school and damanding I live with his family in unruly circumstances, I’m currently still with him but I will not live there, even my mother won’t allow it, because I have to continue school.
His family has gotten around the courts often and I’ve already been threatened that they will go for custody.
I would like for him to be able to sign the birth certificate considering undoubted-ably the baby’s father,
But I’m afraid of I allow that to happen he will have a better chance of getting her. Anything that could help?
Dear Allie: First, you’re right about finishing school. That’s the best gift you can give your daughter in order to raise her as you’d like. Teen fathers have rights just like teen mothers. Every state has its own laws about this. We suggest you talk to a lawyer who practices family or juvenile law. Many courts across the country offer free consultations with lawyers with no obligation to hire them. That’s your decision. In a thirty minute session you will be able to get some advice about how to proceed and protect your rights regarding custody. Check with your local court about a family law program for the public. If such a program doesn’t exist, you can call a lawyer Good luck.
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HI my name is jamaris an i’m 16 years old an i live in Dayton,Ohio an im 4 months pregnant my child’s father is 17 years old an he’ll be 18 in jan (3 weeks after our daughter is born) an his mom will not let him see me or take any part in my pregnancy because she doesnt think my daughter is his … can she tell him that he cant be apart of my pregnancy even though he wants to ?
Dear Jamaris: As a minor, your boyfriend is required to obey his mother as long as he lives with her and is not emancipated. Once he turns 18 in January, he becomes an adult and can make his own decisions. Once the baby is born and a blood test shows he’s the father of the child, things may improve with his mother. In the meantime, you’ll both have to make the best of it. Good luck.
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How do you get emancipated?
Dear Cecilia: Not every state has an emancipation law. In the states that do, it’s not easy to get from a judge. Generally, you have to show that you’re independent and able to make adult decisions in all aspects of your life. For information that applies to you, Google the name of your state and “emancipation laws.” Good luck.
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hi judge, I am 15 and i have an 8 month old daughter. Her father and i are still together but we live in seperate houses. My mother thinks it is her job to set up visitation. my mom lets my boyfriend see jocelyn a total of about 12 hours a week and every other weekend for about 8 hours. is this fair? shouldnt i be the one to decide when he sees our daughter?
Dear Cecilia: Since you live at home and are a minor, it is your Mom’s responsibility to set the rules. As a minor you’re required under the law to follow these rules until you’re either emancipated or turn 18. The schedule you’ve described seems reasonable considering your ages. Good luck.
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I’m 17 and pregnant . I turn 18 in August and the baby should be due in the middle of November . Im scared to tell my mother because I feel like she’ll tell me that I can’t see my unborn baby’s father . Is it legal for her to forbid me from seeing him ? I also wanted to know if I could get medicaid without her knowledge ? I live in Virginia
Dear Ashley: As long as you are under 18 and living with your mother, you’re required under the law to follow her rules. So, she could forbid you from seeing your boyfriend. Being pregnant doesn’t release you from listening to your parents. Think about telling her about your pregnancy – she’s going to find out sooner or later anyway. Not to mention there’s no danger of you getting pregnant from your boyfriend again during this pregnancy. As far as Medicaid, take a look at this site for information and eligibility requirements in Virginia. Good luck.
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Hey judge,
I am 15 and getting ready to have a baby. I want to know if I have legal right over who is in the delivery room with me. My parents say that I have no legal right and that the father of the child cannot be in there with me by their choice. What do I actually have say over?
Dear Jullian: Your rights as a teen parent depend on specific laws in your state. The hospital policies and procedures may also have a say in who is allowed in the delivery room and under what circumstances. You can speak with someone at the hospital about this or go online to the hospital’s website for information. You can also ask your doctor who should know the rules of the hospital where he or she practices. You can also Google the name of your state and “teen parent rights” for additional information. Good luck to you & your baby. Stay healthy even after delivery.
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Hey judge,
I am 16 and live in North Carolina. I am possibly pregnant and my parents said that if I am, when the baby is born they are taking custody of the baby. Can they do that? I am going to work so that I can take care of him/her. I am wanting to raise it and care for it considering it is my child. They want him/her to grow up thinking I am it’s sibling. Do I have a say so in whether or not they can do this? Any advice would be great and extremely helpful.
Thank you,
Amanda
Dear Amanda: The laws regarding parental authority over pregnant teens differ from state to state. Here is a government web site in North Carolina with information, phone numbers, etc.
If you Google “North Carolina teen parents,” you’ll see additional resources that may help you out.
Good luck and stay healthy.
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Hi judge,
I have a question,i am 17 years old and pregnant and i was wondering if it is possible for me to drop out of school, i live in the state of claifornia?
Dear Adriana: Compulsory education laws in your state require you to be in school until you are 18. However, there are exceptions to this requirement. The following statement is from the California Department of Education’s website: “California compulsory education law requires everyone between the ages of six and eighteen years of age to attend school, except sixteen and seventeen year-olds who have graduated from high school or passed the California High School Proficiency Exam (CHSPE) and obtained parental permission to leave.” So, try talking to your school counselor about your pregnancy and your thoughts on dropping out. He/she could provide other options like alternative schools, GED programs, etc. You already have so many years behind you in school and only have a short period before receiving your diploma. That’s huge and could greatly benefit your future. Take care of yourself.
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I will be 17 in two weeks and my father is trying to get a court ordered adoption after my baby is born. I want to keep it. He also is trying to tell me to move back home from my grandmothers so he can keep me locked in a room. What can I do?
Dear Megan: Every state has specific laws regarding adoption. Generally, as a teen mom, you have rights over your baby. In order for your child to be adopted by anyone, you must consent to it or there needs to be a court order terminating your parental rights to the child. Talk with an adult you trust about this and your living situation. For example, a school counselor, your grandparents or the parents of a close friend. If you are in any danger of being abused or neglected, you can always call Child Protective Services. ChildHelp exists to help kids in abusive situations. 1-800-422-4453. Good luck.
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What is the law in Michigan concerning teen parental rights? Can the parent of a 16yr old make her give her child up for adoption? What are some alternatives for a teen mom with unsupportive parents and no family to turn to?
Dear Lisa: In most states, the decision to give up a child for adoption belongs to the mother and/or father regardless of age. There may be exceptions to this depending on the circumstances.To read specific information regarding Michigan law, Google “Michigan teen parental rights.” There are public agencies & private organizations that provide services to teen parents, including housing and medical care if needed. Take a look at this government website for some information about teen parents and adoption:
http://www.michigan.gov/documents/dhs/DHS_Program_List_207362_7.pdf
You might also speak with a family or juvenile law attorney. He or she would know what’s available in your area. Many lawyers provide free consultations for 30 minutes or so, just enough time to explain the situation and obtain some resources. Good luck.
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I am 17 years old and pregnant my boyfriend is 18 years old. I love in Florida can he go to jail?
Dear Alice: If you are referring to statutory rape since you’re a minor, it’s unlikely that he has broken the law. Such laws are usually written to protect younger teens from relationships with older adults. Google “Florida statutory rape” for more information. Stay healthy for yourself and your baby.
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I was wondering what it will take to get my child back in to my custody. My parents have guardianship, and I would like full responsibility of him. What can I do to get the guardianship undone?
Dear Sabrina: If the guardianship was court-ordered, it will take a court order to modify or vacate the order. If you used a lawyer to establish the guardianship, contact him/her for information about reversing it. You could also contact the court to see if there is a list of lawyers you can call for advice. There are many types of guardianships and each has a process to change or end it. Good luck.
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Hi Judge,
I had some questions. Im 17 and had a baby. Just recently i signed guardianship to my grandparents. Not knowing that they’d not let me see my son. Or have anything to do with him for that matter. I’ll be 18 soon, i want my son back and i was wondering if i could just go to my grandparents and ask them back for my son. Will it be illegal for me to take him back?
Dear Jessie: Talk with your grandparents about your son’s return to your custody. Since you’ll be an adult soon and are his legal parent, you do have rights regarding his custody. Under the laws of your state, you may be able to rescind the guardianship you signed. Contact your local family court to see if they offer the public any legal advice regarding guardianship of children, custody and visitation issues. Many cities across the country have a Free Legal Assistance Program that allows you to receive advice from a lawyer for 30 minutes or so at no cost to you. Good luck.
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