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My parents are divorced and have a holiday schedule where in odd years I’m supposed to be with my mom for Christmas day and my dad Christmas eve but this year I wanted to swap the days. I asked my mom if I could go with her the whole weekend, stay with her for Christmas eve, and Christmas day morning get picked up by my dad. My reasons for asking her are my dad’s family always has these huge Christmas parties on Christmas day and I was going to go with my friend who doesn’t do anything for Christmas. My mom said she doesn’t want to do that because it’s not her responsibility to rearrange her schedule and that they should change the date of the Christmas party. I’m 16 years old and I want to know if I have the right to not go with her for Christmas day even though it’s what her and my dad agreed to in the divorce.
Dear Madison: First, we’re sorry about the delay in getting back to you on this. We hope everything worked out for you and that the day wasn’t too stressful. To avoid this in the future, at least until you turn 18 and become an adult, it may be necessary to discuss the Christmas vacation days before December comes around again. The general law about this means that shared days are the subject of court orders where each parent is expected to follow what the court has ordered, even if done years ago. If an agreement can’t be reached it may be necessary to return to court for a modification of the existing orders. It’s best to work this out without judicial intervention. If possible, your parents can simply agree to a change and no court orders are needed. Good luck in the future.
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even if it was many years ago.
My dad works for a company that does yard work on houses they are trying to sell. I am 15, and he wants me to help him at work. He says he’ll pay me, but the last time I helped him he only gave me $5. Is he allowed to force me to help him at work if I don’t want to?
Dear Kayden: Whether he can “force” you to work with or for him depends on the labor laws in your state. Google your state and “child labor laws” for specific information. Or you can call your state’s attorney general’s office and inquire about laws that apply to you and your parents. It would be best to work this out with your dad and reach an agreement that works for both of you. It may be a good way to earn money over the summer since many employers won’t hire you due to your age. Good luck.
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I would like to legal subpoena a friends school records to get in touch. Everyone has said it’s “not possible” but everything is possible. I just need the right advice and what to an so the judge legal subpoena’s his records.
Dear Amanda: What you have been told by friends sounds correct. Normally you can’t just go around seeking private information about anyone else. There are laws in every state about information gathering. So, google the name of your state and “privacy laws” for information. If you’re involved in a lawsuit, you may have access to certain information in furtherance of the lawsuit. Talk with your attorney about this. Good luck.
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first let me say thank you for maintaining a forum such as this, I currently have a 16 yr old daughter who is my entire world . I have been a single parent her entire life no help from dad or his family I have no family so it was just her and i. we had hard times we had good times and such with life. in no way was I perfect I struggled with addiction went to prison for a yr etc. faith never wanted or needed anything I always found a way.about 3 months ago she gets up and announces she’s not going to school anymore . she is supposed to be a jr she was in the 9th grade class still I’ve been dealing with this for 3 yrs already. her older sister is a dangerous influence on her and they were not allowed contact. on nov 19 th I woke up and we argued over something petty and she slammed a door in my face I opened the door she punched me in the face I sent her to stay with dad . okay she gets there the dad promptly hands her off to sister. they refuse to give me there location she’s high all the time no school selling naked pictures online. she s16 please help me.i have and have always had full custody she in Indiana
Dear Kimberly: Thanks for writing us. We suggest that you contact either your local police for help with your incorrigible daughter or the juvenile court for assistance. Many courts have programs directed at errant youth. The goal is to keep these kids out of the juvenile justice system so they can proceed to a successful adult life. Programs used to be called “scared straight’ but that title has fallen out of favor. However, the work is the same with the same goals. As a last resort if all else fails, you could contact a local lawyer who practices juvenile law for assistance or at least some suggestions. If you contact one, ask about their fees for advice. Some may not charge for an initial consultation, while others may have a sliding scale that is based on your income. Find out first, though, before you get a bill in the mail. Good luck.
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I’m 16 1/2 and I’ve been thinking about going and living with my step mom. Is it possible that my step mom can get guardianship of me? My household is really toxic. My mom and her bf are fighting 24/7 day & night and me and him don’t get along at all. He’s mentally abusive to literally everyone and I don’t feel like I should have to deal with it and I can’t anymore. It’s making my mental health become super bad. I was wondering if I would be able to leave to my step moms house without my bio moms consent and then get on the phone with law enforcement and let them know why I left? Would I be able to do that? I really need to get out of here and my step mom has always taken really good care of me. I’ve known her since I was 4 and she’s the mother of my two baby siblings.
Dear Guest: We’re sorry to hear about your situation at home. Every state has specific laws about obeying your parents and consequences for violating the rules at home. That’s even when your home life isn’t ideal. However, when abuse or neglect is present, law enforcement or a local court can step in to protect you. Your stepmother can contact a local attorney for advice about gaining custody over you. He or she would know how to proceed. Don’t just pack up and leave – that could lead to placement where you don’t want to be, including juvenile detention, foster care, etc. Don’t give up – there is help available to kids in your situation. Be patient and keep the peace at home as best as you can. Good luck.
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How long can police hold my phone and my computer? They took it on August 20th and i haven’t heard shit back from them.
Dear Cole: Local law dictates the answer to your question. Usually, law enforcement can keep evidence until formal charges are filed and resolved, or the case is closed for a variety of reasons. You can ask the police about this or the officer’s supervisor. Good luck.
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Is it legal for my parents to keep me away from other kids (Outside of school, at least)
Dear Thomas: As long as you’re a minor (under 18) living with your parents, they are responsible for many aspects of your life. You are required to obey their rules and this includes being with your friends at school and after school and weekends. If you can’t agree on who you can be with it would be best to have a calm conversation with your parents about the limits they have set for you. It’s much better for all of you to express your views and discuss the positives and negatives. You might be surprised at their understanding once everything is out in the open. Sneaking around behind their backs is not the best approach to this situation. Good luck.
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I’m a teacher using the “They Broke the Law- You be the Judge” book in my classroom. My students are very interested in knowing if there is any way to find updates on the cases today. What happened to them in the last 20 years?
Dear Shanna: A very good question. If we were in the process of updating the book, we would be in search of current information regarding each person profiled in “They Broke the Law.” However, we’re not there yet. Thanks for asking. We hope your students have benefited from reading their stories.
If any of your students want to take on this effort through social media (locating and contacting each teen in the book), we would welcome their discoveries. We would mention them and thank them publicly in the revised edition.
Best, -Judge Tom.
For a few months my 2 teenage daughters have been taking and walking through a newly developed housing track that’s also still selling lot parcels. There are finished homes that are lived streets and sidewalks. Most of the time my daughter’s walk when construction workers are leaving or already finished for the day. There’s no signs ANYWHERE , I have taken the walk myself and my husband has driven it, they walk the same path everytime and take a small break at a huge grass park area to rest for a few minutes then go back along there way. My eldest has extreme social anxiety and my other has it but not like my oldest. They laugh and joke around alot while walking but never enter onto the lots they strictly walk the sidewalk. There’s been a security guard there from the get go and that made my girls feel safe. But last week the guard after months of them doing this started yelling at them threatening with police. They walk 4 to 5 times a week and there never gone more than 30 minutes tops. He was yelling at them to get out of there. Since when is it illegal to walk through residential areas on the sidewalks and after months of doing this why did he say they can’t walk through.? There not hurting anyone, stealing or vandelizing anything, they are not disturbing peace or causing problems or stoping or interfering with anything or traffic. We live in California please telle what there rights are as teens
Dear Katrina: You might consider approaching the developers or builders about this problem. Explain to them what your kids are doing and seek their approval. It may be a liability issue that they’re concerned about since construction is ongoing. Maybe their insurer advised them to keep the public away, particularly children and teens. Keep in mind the saying about catching more flies with honey than vinegar. Good luck.
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My fiancé got caught stealing at a super market and they said she would have 90 days to pay a300$ fine if she doesn’t pay they said they would call the police. She did sign something. What I’m asking is that it sounds like extortion? Can she still be charged when she returned the merchandise?
Dear Louie: Every state has laws regarding theft (shoplifting) and the consequences for such behavior. So, in this case, it sounds like your state has a law authorizing retail stores to impose a fine for shoplifting on the shoplifter. If paid within the time period stated in the law, this allows the shoplifter a chance to avoid prosecution and cuts down on the number of similar cases going to court. It is advisable to go ahead and pay the fine and get this matter closed out and behind you. Your fiancé also has a right to fight it in court. She very well may have a legitimate defense to what happened. She may want to consult a local criminal defense attorney about this. Good luck.
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I’m a student at a highschool in massachusetts and I was wondering if i should be punished for something that wasn’t entirely my fault. Every single day at least 15-20 kids rip open a door that was previously broken so they could get into the locker room after school. About 4 months ago there was a student who ripped open the door and the inside push handle fell off the door. This student had no punishment other than a slap on the wrist and a “Don’t do it again” type of situation. It has happend 3 other times to different students in the building and they have not been punished for this action. About a month or 2 ago I did the same thing, I ripped open the door and the handle fell off. after it happened I went inside through the main entry of the school and went and told the athletic trainer because she was the only person I could find still in the building. That week I recived a saturday detention as a punishment for my action which none of the other students recived. Today I recevied a bill of $750 from my school charging me for the replacement of a door and a handle for the door. My school has replaced neither the handle or the door. They have put the old handle back onto the door that was previously there. I was wondering if I am being overpriced or if it is fair price.
Dear Davin: The fact that you wrote us and are concerned about doing the right thing shows a good character trait. There’s little we can say not seeing the door or handle. We suggest you talk with your parents about this and then approach the adults at the school. They may be aware that others students were involved and that the cost of repair or replacement should be shared by everyone. Good luck.
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I am a 7th grade law teacher in a public junior high school in Brooklyn and I purchased a class set of your books recently. I was wondering if it would be possible to obtain an electronic copy of your book so that I can post pages to read on our google classroom. I was only able to afford 1 class set for my students even though I teach 2 law classes. My email is listed below. Thank you!
Dear Jenna: First, thank you for purchasing Judge Tom’s book for your classroom. Which book did you purchase? Once we know which book you ordered, we will forward your question to the publishing company and find out whether an electronic copy is available for you. Thanks again.
Are private schools allowed to take phones overnight? I understand that schools are allowed to take phones if they are interrupting the learning environment during the day, but is the confiscation of a phone overnight a violation of a student’s rights?
Dear Rebekah: School districts across the country have their own rules regarding digital devices at school. You’ll have to check your district’s rules in the student handbook or on their website. Confiscating cell phones for a period of time has been found legal in many states. This could mean for a week, month or even until the end of the semester or school year. So, overnight isn’t considered an unusually lengthy period before the phone is returned to you. Good luck.
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Are online retaining order good for a person or getting a retaining order against someone or do you have to go to a court house to get one because I have a online retaining order also I don’t know if it still good.
Dear Anthony: Usually, restraining orders against someone are issued by a court. That requires you to appear at a local courthouse, complete the application and discuss your request with a judicial officer (judge, magistrate, etc.). Most courts across the nation are authorized to issue protective/restraining orders or injunctions. The person who is named in the petition has a right to oppose it which results in a hearing where both parties testify for or against the restraining order. Then the judge decides whether to grant or deny the petition. There may be “online” orders available especially during the pandemic. You’ll have to look to the court’s rules and procedures for the specifics about this. Each jurisdiction in the U.S. will have their own rules governing this. Good luck.
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So i had a rare history of downloading music often at times and extracting them from various danmaku games onto my music folder, is what im doing legal?
Dear Crie: We can’t say exactly whether your actions have violated the law or not. Every state, not to mention each website you’ve accessed, has rules and policies regarding their content. Copyright laws come into play as well as trademark and other federal/state protections for owners and creators in the music industry. You’ll have to check the “fine print” so to speak on each platform you’ve taken content from. Good luck.
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Hello,
I’m a high school teacher and my class is learning about copyright and fair use. If someone downloads music, images, videos, or video games from the internet is this legal? This is a topic we are discussing in class.
Thank you,
Digital Art High School Teacher
Dear Andrea: That’s a good question. There are both state and federal laws regarding copyright, trade name, fair use, etc. that apply to various creative works. We suggest you google the name of your state and “copyright laws” for information, or check http://www.Findlaw.com for answers to your specific questions. Good luck and our best to your students.
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My name is Tristen Taylor and I would like to ask about emancipation at the age of sixteen. I understand a little bit of it but not all of it l.
Dear Tristen: Thanks for writing to us. Emancipation is a legal process in many states where a minor (a teenager under 18) becomes legally free from their parents. Once emancipated, the teen is free to make their own decisions about their lives, including signing contracts, renting an apartment, medical decisions, and counseling. It is not an easy status to obtain from a court. You have to show the judge that you’re financially independent, and mature enough to handle adult challenges that may come your way. Your parents or guardian have a right to know that you’re requesting emancipation, and they can object to it. The judge makes the final decision.
For specific information about this and the laws that apply in your state, look here:
https://www.findlaw.com/family/emancipation-of-minors.html#:~:text=FindLaw%E2%80%99s%20emancipation%20section%20has%20details%20on%20emancipation%20laws,the%20rights%20and%20responsibilities%20that%20come%20with%20it.
Good luck.
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is it abuse if my parents call me swear words even if it was a long time ago and is it abuse if my dad gets physical for example a couple months ago my dad tried to strangle me for me walking away when he wanted to put his hands in my mouth to feed me my medicine. would that be abuse. if so what do i do
Dear Xavier: Each state has laws about child abuse and neglect. These words are defined in specific statutes and are meant to protect children and teenagers. You can discuss what’s happened to you at home with an adult that you trust (relative, neighbor, school counsellor), or if it continues, the police or social worker from your state’s child protection agency, often referred to as CPS (Child Protective Services). Good luck.
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can you enroll your own self in school?
Dear Lily: That depends on the laws where you live about education and enrollment, as well as the policies of the school. Most require a parent or guardian to enroll a student under age 18. You could contact the school and ask about their requirements for enrollment, or check the school’s website about this. Good luck.
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can you ride the bus or get on a plane at 15 without your parents ?
Dear Kaylani: If you’re in the United States, this would depend on local laws. Riding the bus is governed by local laws and company policies. At age 15, there shouldn’t be a problem, especially if you have some form of identification like a school ID. Boarding a plane depends on airline policy and federal laws. Some form of ID is required to board an airplane alone. Your parents can help you out with this. Good luck.
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Can I leave the house without my mothers permission? I’m not running away, but I am just going where ever I choose. But I always come back before the California’s 10:00 curfew. So if my mom calls the cops on me, will I get into legal trouble? Can she even call if I come home before curfew and I am not running away?
Dear Bella: As long as you’re a minor (under 18) and live with your mother, you’re required under the law to follow her rules. That means, if she wants you home by 8, for example, even though the curfew is 10, you need to be home at 8. Otherwise she could call the police about your “incorrigible” behavior. That could land you in juvenile court – something you don’t need in your life. That could lead to further restrictions such as probation, community service hours, detention, etc. So, best to follow the rules at home and keep the peace. Good luck.
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(1)if someone like a friend was trying to blame me for raping a girl who I don’t no about can you get a retaining order to keep them away from me or try to stay a from with I am doing but I keep hearing roomer about raping a female be I live to far from were this is taking place what can I do.(2)what happen when you walk in to a crime scene but you didn’t no it was a crime scene and you got grab for mistaken Identity the police who grab me that day wasn’t watching what they doing the guys who they had was in the area but the police officer wasn’t looking I saw they had one of the and let him go then when I was walking though they grab me instead I have the court papers and video surveillance to prove that I am innocent of the crime do I have lawsuit for what they to me that day thanks.
Dear Anthony: If you have been charged with a crime stemming from what you describe in your question, we suggest you talk with your lawyer about your options going forward. We do not provide legal advice to our readers, only information. As far as obtaining a restraining or protective order against someone, you can go to any court in your area for the proper application and information about the procedure. You don’t need a lawyer to petition a court for a restraining order. Good luck.
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do u need an ID to book a hotel room or how old do you have to be
Dear Bailey: That depends on local and state laws, and the individual policy of the hotel/motel. We’re not aware of any specific state laws on this regarding minors. Generally, owners or corporate businesses would require verification of adulthood before renting a room to someone who appears to be under age. Good luck.
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Is it mandatory to have papers from your school to get a job?
Dear Kaylani: We don’t know exactly what you mean by “papers from your school.” Every state has laws about hiring teenagers for work after school and on weekends. We’re not familiar with any states that require proof from a school about attendance or grades, etc. You can google the name of your state and “employment of minors” for details about this situation. Good luck.
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I’m sorry if this isn’t the place to ask but… I purchased a research chemical (drug) in a very small amount from a website. This was a one time thing and I’ve never done anything similar.
Now i got an email from the website saying that if i dont send 100€ in bitcoin in x amount of days they will report me to the police department of my city “which will lead to arrest“.
I immediately deleted the email… out of shock i think.
I know this sounds very fake..There’s no reason they would want to report a potential “customer”. Also, they were the ones selling the gray-area chemicals in the first place. Lastly the amount was ridiculously small (which indicates that it was intended for personal usage).
However I am still worried. The chemical was delivered to my house in an envelope, my name was on it.
I don’t have 100€ right now and I’m under 18.
Should I worry or is this a scam?
Thank you in advance.
P.S. I feel the need to add that I’m aware that I shouldn’t have purchased anything in the first place, I regret it now.
Dear Someone: It is very likely that this is a scam as you suspect. It’s best not to respond to any further messages or demands. Since you’re under eighteen, we suggest you advise your parents so they can take whatever measures they deem appropriate to further protect you. We know that’s a tough call, but they may find out anyway, eventually, and it’s better coming from you. Honesty is the best policy. Good luck.
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I want to get emancipated. I’m 16 and I am a resident of Texas. I’ve already written a petition and talked to an attorney about this. They said that it is possible I could get emancipated. My parents do not consent to this. How would I prove to the court that I can support myself? How could I successfully get emancipated? What will life be like after this process if I win? Will I qualify for financial aid?
Also, I can send you my petition, and you can tell me what to do with it like tell me how to be persuasive, sound professional, and get the judge on my side. What steps will I need to take in order to get the judge on my side? I don’t want to be another case that is dismissed. I want to be heard and I want change to happen.
Dear Abigail: Since you have already talked with a lawyer about emancipation where you live, you’re aware of what’s required and how difficult it is to obtain this status. Not to mention, your parents have a say and can tell the court whether they agree to this or not. You will also have an opportunity to speak to the judge. Take a look at this website for the details regarding emancipation in Texas:
https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html
AsktheJudge.info is an information website for & about teens and the law. We do not provide legal advice to our readers. Good luck.
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Are there any teen facilities that can help minors , Find jobs and get on there feet? And how old do you have to be to be emancipated
in florida? And any advice for leaving a house hold you no longer want to be apart of are there any legal actions you can take?
Dear Kaylani: In most states, a person reaches the age of majority at their 18th birthday. Take a look at this website (Findlaw) for information about the emancipation laws in Florida.
https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html
It is not easy to become an emancipated minor. And once you file a petition for emancipation with the court, your parents must be notified and they have a chance to speak in court about their feelings about this. Regarding facilities to help teenagers, you can contact your local library for information, or the juvenile court in your area. Speak with a juvenile probation officer for assistance. Good luck.
Once last suggestion, have you tried having a calm discussion with your parents/guardian about the issues in your home? This could be a start to something out any difficulties.
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if you brought a retaining order online do you have get the local police to sign it or you have wait for the person to comment a crime again you
to have them stay a way from me.
Dear Anthony: Every state has its own laws about obtaining a restraining or protective order against another person or persons. If you google the name of your state and “restraining order,” you’ll be able to read what’s required and where to file your request for the order. Usually, the police do not have to sign anything in this process. It’s your signature on the petition that’s needed for the court to proceed with your request. Good luck. And, one more thing. You don’t have to wait for the person to commit a crime against you or someone else. If your reasons for wanting a protective order indicate a credible threat of harm, that’s enough for a court to act.
if you are 14 or 15 ”underage” and you prove yourself responsible enough like you have contracts and your money to get your bills started will a landlord still use age discrimination against you even if you’ve proven yourself eligible.
Dear Kaylani: Most landlords have a cut-off age for renting their properties. Usually it’s the state’s legal age of majority – age 18. Even if you’re a responsible, mature 14 or 15 year-old, they can choose to deny your application to rent an apartment. It’s not “discrimination” if they apply their policy to everyone as opposed to renting to some people of that age and not others. If you have an adult willing to co-sign the lease for an apartment, you may find a landlord willing to accept you as a tenant. Good luck.
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What do I do get emancipated in New York? I can’t prove abuse. How do I prepare for attempting to get emancipated to help my case? What is it like in the courtroom for emancipation? Do you have any tips about what I should do inside of the courtroom?
Dear M.: Take a look at this website for information about emancipation in New York.
https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html
It is not an easy status to obtain from a judge. Your local court may have forms to complete in order to make a request for emancipation. Once you file your petition with the court, a hearing will be set. That’s when you will be asked to to explain why you want this and how you plan to live independent from your parents. Good luck.
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Hi, I want to get emancipated from my mother, we bump heads for every little thing. We never really seem to get along much but if we do, its a miracle because we always argue about even the littlest things. Honestly, i think i could do fine without her. Because i am 15 and living in Texas, i know i need to prove that i can provide and support myself, but i have so many questions about this emancipation. First off, do i have to tell her before i get the papers, or after i get the papers? Also, do i have to live on my own after granted emancipation if i get emancipated or can i live with a family member but support myself? Also, How can i go through emancipation without court or what can i do if my mom doesn’t want to give me the permission to continue with the emancipation. I turn 16 in 5 months and i hope by then i have saved up enough to start supporting myself and trying to get out of my home. But do you think i could get emancipated just because i don’t want to fight with her anymore and instead support myself but also live with a family member i do get a long with?I know i still have a while but i want to be prepared and get a head start. Thanks for your time, it is greatly appreciated
Dear Andrea: The website below gives you information about emancipation in Texas. It will not be easy for you to be officially emancipated unless you can meet all of your state’s requirements. That includes letting your mom know you’re asking the court to be emancipated. She has right to oppose this and appear in court at the hearing and speak with the judge. In the meantime, try your best to get along with her. Maybe a sincere, calm discussion with her about the things that affect your relationship would be of help.Good luck.
https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html
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I want to get emancipated. I’m 16 and transgender. My family is not really accepting of my gender identity and it has affected my mental health in the long run. I am getting a job soon, I have money saved up, and I have a place I can stay until I get an apartment. Do you think I qualify for emancipation?
Dear Sage: Emancipation is not easy to achieve through the courts. If you google the name of your state and “emancipation law” you’ll see what’s required. Basically, you need to show the judge, who will consider your petition for emancipation, that you are a mature individual who can handle your own finances and make responsible decisions going forward. States that have emancipation laws set a high bar for a minor to obtain an order of emancipation. Not to mention, most states require that your parents be notified of your petition, giving them the opportunity to appear and respond at the hearing. Good luck.
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say if I was a teen at 16 years of age and tried to get retaining order against some I no a long time a go but I found a online place were I can get a retaining order do I still have see a or go to a police station in the state were I live at .
Dear Anthony: Every state has its own laws about obtaining a restraining or protective order against someone else. Google the name of your state and “restraining order” for information. Or you can go to any court and ask about this. They may have a form to complete and file with the court. Good luck.
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My son sent inappropriate picture to a girl because she kept begging him. Now he has to go a formal hearing, because he told the school resource officer what he did, after I found out about it, because he was afraid it would get around school. He is 16 . What kind of trouble can he get into.
Sear Jennifer: This incident may not go any further than the school resource officer. “Diversion” is a common practice in dealing with sexting, as this is called. First time incidents rarely proceed to the juvenile justice system. Education about the dangers of certain Internet activities is usually the preferred method. So, the hearing may result in an agreement whereby when he completes a class on this subject, the case will be closed. We hope he’s learned from this, and will think long & hard about any future misguided posts. Good luck.
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okay so I and my friends are being accused of “bullying” but she flipped around the story and made it sound like we were but she’s actually the one proceeds to make ugly faces , nasty comments, and talks ab us and the situation ……… her mom is trying to start a invedtigation case but we recently just gave the school screenshots of her being rude to us, her posting rude things ab us … and her telling people rude things …. so the real question is .. can this actually get serious and can we get in trouble big time or ?
Dear Ellie: Anything is possible, depending on the circumstances. Since the school is involved, once they complete their investigation, you’ll find out if any consequences will come from this. Be truthful to those asking for information, and trust that this will work out in the end. Be careful about everything you post, since you can’t take it back and since cyberbullying is taken seriously. Good luck.
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hi,im 15 years old i was wondering am i able to become emanicipated if im able to prove that i can take care of myself and if i get social security insurance once every month and to prove that i have a good?
Dear Keke: Emancipation of a minor (under age 18) is possible in many states. However, there are rules and qualifications that you must meet. Take a look at the following website from Findlaw.com for specifics in the state where you live. Good luck.
https://family.findlaw.com/emancipation-of-minors/how-do-you-get-emancipated.html
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Hey, I’m 15 years old and I live in Delaware. I was wondering if I would be able to legally not attend school. I’ve never really been able to pay attention for the life of me no matter how hard I try to, and I don’t know why I’m like this. I also have trouble with behavior, I act up a lot when my friends are around, and like my attention; I don’t know why this is. I get really irritated in school and I just fucking hate this shit so much I don’t know what to do. I can’t get a good amount of sleep sometimes, and sometimes I just can’t even get myself to get up for school. I feel like I’m losing myself through all this hatred and resentment I feel towards school and the anxiety that school brings upon me every goddamn day. it’s so bad to the point where I get mad out of nowhere. I even start to say swear words and shit out of nowhere and start hitting shit. My mind is usually everywhere bruh I just can’t pay attention for the life of me. I failed 8th grade also, although I’m able to hang out my oldest friend again -who failed 7th grade- I just can’t take this place and I feel like I’m going insane I’m always irritated and shit; never comfortable. I know for a fact that everything we’re learning in school isn’t gonna play a part in our life; hell, I’ve been told this by several adults. This type of knowledge isn’t power, it’s nothing but a waste of space, the only thing that matters is pure wit. I just want to get out of this hell, I’m so stressed and irritated, I can’t control how I am and I feel like I’m going to fail again because of this. My grades have always been shit because of this, but every year they just get worse and worse. School has turned me from a bright and creative child, to a broken vessel of hatred. Please, for the love of what ever the fuck you believe in, tell me how to get out of school.
Dear David: You’ve come to the wrong place for advice on how to end your education. The fact that you can express yourself as you have here, tells us that, with proper guidance from professionals where you live, you’ll succeed in life. We suggest you speak with your parents or another adult that you trust about your anxieties and emotions. A visit to a doctor may also be useful. Don’t give up on yourself, be patient and continue to calmly talk about your challenges. You’ll be surprised how healing communication with others can be. Good luck.
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My nephew was sent to an alternative school for 60 days. Hes MR with an IQ of 62 and is moderately austic. The DAEP released him after 45 days to return to his home school. The DAEP school principal stated that he had completed all his requirements but his home school wont re-enroll him. How do I get him back in school?.
Dear Becky: States have laws about the education of all children, regardless of their limitations or challenges. If you’re unable to get assistance from your local school district, contact your state’s department of education. Explain the situation regarding your nephew and they should be able to tell you what the options are for continuing his education. You could also contact a local lawyer who practices education or school law. Some offer free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Good luck.
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Hello!
I am very interested in law and correction safety, I was wondering how was it being a judge? do you argue with cleaver lawyers? how much do you get paid? sorry I get carried away with questions.Anyways have a wonderful day!
Dear Lia: Thank you for your question. Many people wonder about the work of being a judge. Ordinarily, judges don’t “argue” with attorneys who appear before them. They let the attorneys present their position in a case, and argue with each other in an attempt to persuade the judge to rule in their favor. A judge listens and then rules on the matter based on the facts of the case and the laws that apply in the case. A judge’s salary depends on the location of the court, the level of the court in the state or federal judicial system, and other factors. You can review the average salaries of state and federal judges by googling “federal judges salary.”
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Hello, I’m 16 years old and living in Chicago. My Father refuses to give me my birth certificate and even if he did I question it’s legitimacy. He says my Legal name is different than what it says on most of my records and will not get me a copy. My mother is dead and I am under 18 so there is no one to get it for me. Is there anything I can do? Is it legal for him to even change my name like this? Or fill out an incorrect namd on legal forms??
Dear Asia: States differ regarding what minors can and can’t do and their rights while living at home with a parent. Your father could have, without your knowledge or consent, changed your legal name. That information may not be available to you until you reach 18. You could check with a local court that handles name changes and ask about this. Don’t be surprised if they tell you to see a lawyer, since you’re a minor. You may have to wait until 18 to take action on this. Good luck.
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If my parents are emotionally abusive and deny my right to get birth control, as well as Religious freedom and threaten to make my life “he’ll” if I don’t follow them and I disobey them to help myself, and I want to become emancipated as a 16 year old, what all do I have to do? Or is it even possible to become emancipated?
Dear Aubrey: States have their individual laws about the emancipation of a minor (under 18). So, go to Findlaw.com and search under “emancipation” in the upper right corner box. You can also google the name of your state and “emancipation laws” for information. Good luck.
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If parents divorced and judge signs child support but parents do not separate and still live in same home together does this agreement still count
Dear Bob: On paper, if it’s a valid court order, it’s enforceable. However, if the parents remain together with one parent supporting the child and the other parent, those circumstances would be taken into consideration if this ended up back in court. It’s not uncommon for judges to issue orders, and separating or divorced parents change their minds or living conditions, thereby rendering the court order of little or no value. The specific facts of each case have to be considered.
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My daughter has been bullied by a girl who yesterday jumped my daughter and physical hurt her resulting in a trip to the er and a concussion. A police report was filed and I came home from work the next day to find my daughter had cut herself and this girl has not only physical hurt my daughter but now she wants to harm herself. My daughter is not the only victim on this girl and the police don’t seem to be getting anything done. Is there any legal actions I can take? I don’t want to lose my daughter
Dear Ashley: We don’t want you to lose your daughter, either. Immediate help is most likely available where you live, including counseling from a professional either at school, your local mental health provider, church, etc. It depends on who you and your daughter are comfortable with. There are helplines and hotlines that stand ready 24/7. Consider these resources:
National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
Crisis Text Line: text 741741 to talk with a trained counselor
Good luck.
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How do my friend get emancipation at 17 has a job and goes to school and a place to live in the state of Tennessee
Dear Brent. Take a look at the website below on Findlaw.com. It gives you the requirements for emancipation in Tennessee. It’s not easy to convince a court that you qualify for adult status, plus when you file for emancipation, you have to provide your parents a copy of your petition to the court. They have a right to oppose your request. Good luck.
https://statelaws.findlaw.com/tennessee-law/tennessee-legal-ages-laws.html
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So me and my friend accidentally broke our friends chair and the parents want to take us to court… Could we get in trouble for it? We live in Michigan.
Dear Austin: It’s possible that they could sue you in civil court for property damage. If you offer to pay for the chair or to have it fixed, that could be sufficient to satisfy the owners. Hopefully this will work out for the best. Good luck.
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I live w/ my mom (no dad) and she takes care of all my physical needs but she is an active trigger for mental health issues for me (I’ve had this confirmed by multiple therapists). There are many specific reasons that we don’t get along and when I try to work through or problem solve (I’ve tried many times with many different methods) she works against my effort and whenever i get frustrated and stop trying she tells people i won’t work with her so I get no sympathy/support from other people and she has tried to sabotage all of my close relationships by not letting me see or talk to them. I am isolated and on top of that I have anxiety and depression caused by her. She also has plenty of mental issues so I can’t tell if she does these things on purpose but I have tried my times in different approches to set boundaries and it doesn’t work. I live in Utah and want to be emancipated by the time I’m 16 (Im 14 now) so she no longer has any effect or control over my decisions and I can get a solid start to a good life. I know I can stay with a friend, I’m trying to find a job/ways to make as much money as possible, I am able to make responsible decisions, and I am very smart and mature according to adults and my own opinion (I also have a high IQ if that helps). What are the other requirements? If my mom objects to emancipation how much of an effect does that have on a judges opinion? Do I need to hire a lawyer? What things can I do and prepare to make emancipation a likely outcome?
Dear Malia: Utah does have an emancipation law for minors who are 16 or 17. A informative website (Findlaw.com) is below this response to your question, and it’s set for Utah emancipation. It is not easy to become emancipated because you have to convince a judge that you are mature enough at either age to support yourself and handle adult decisions. Plus, the law requires that you notify your mother of your attempt to become emancipated. She has a right to oppose your request and appear at the court hearing. A lawyer is not required to petition the court for this. You can check your local court for the proper form to file, in person or on the court’s website. Good luck, Malia.
https://statelaws.findlaw.com/utah-law/utah-legal-ages-laws.html
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I am 13 and my parents have been divorced almost as long as I can remember. They live a few miles apart and I ride the same bus to mom and dads house. I’ve been asking to live with my dad more because mom is never home and when she is home she just stays in her bedroom all the time. Dad does all my laundry and dropped it off for me every week, brings my school lunch every day cause of food allergies, takes me to all my appointments, helps with homework. Mom hates my dad and lies about him to the lawyer I had to talk to. I tried to tell him how she yells all the time, keeps my medication from my dad but he told me he would ask the questions and wouldn’t let me talk. Mom got more custody and now she won’t talk to dad at all. She won’t tell him or me when we are going on vacation, she tells me I can’t go to the doctor with him but won’t take me and she is screaming every time he drops stuff off for me but won’t do anything. I want him to go back to court and have custody of me but he won’t because he is scared he will lose more custody again. Why won’t anyone listen to me or dad? I had a counselor that even said mom had something wrong with her and she needed help then mom wouldn’t let me go there anymore and now I have no one to talk to. Can I get my own lawyer and make them listen to me? I don’t want to live like this until I’m 18.
Dear Tyler: We are sorry to hear of your situation. Your dad could contact legal aid or community legal services for help with a possible change of custody. If this goes to court, you could be appointed a guardian to speak about what’s in your best interests. You could then get a chance to explain to your guardian your concerns and possibly talk with the judge or at least write him or her a letter and express your thoughts about who you live with and why. We wish you the best.
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I am 21 live in Arkansas so a few days ago I did something stupid and went in to Walmart and at self checkout I scanned kool aid packets instead of the items I was getting which was baby food when it was all said and down I paid 6-7 dollars for 40 dollars worth of baby food and cat food they asked for my receipt and I told them I didn’t have it well my friend works there and she said come on lets go look up your receipt and I followed her over to service but came up with an excuse and said I had to leave just keep the items. 20 minutes later she messages me what the hell and you know I know your name so I have to report it. im so scared ive never done this before I didn’t have money for baby food and I know its not a good enough excuse but im freaking out about them pressing charges im trying to go to nursing school. Ive never done anything like this in my life have anything on my record. whats gonna happen??
Dear Kimberly: There are several ways the store can handle this incident. They can decide to keep it internal and not file a report with the police. Under the laws in your state, they may be authorized to send you a letter requesting payment of a civil fine. They could also notify you that you’re banned from the store for a period of time. On the other hand, they could file a report with the police. If that happens, it’s up to the police and the local prosecutor to decide whether to press charges or not. In that case, you will have to go to court where you’ll be advised of your rights. It is also possible that you won’t hear anything further about this. The store may not take any action. If that’s the outcome, we hope you’ve learned from this. It’s not worth the anxiety and aggravation you’re feeling now, not to mention it’s illegal with consequences. Good luck.
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If my parents have shared custody and I go to a different house each week and I’m disobeying one parent like refusing to help around the house or a more specific example was I refused to help him load bags of sand out of the back of his truck and he took my bed away for doing this is there anything I can do to live with one parent and not the other. Don’t know if it matters or if laws change according to state but I live in Midland michigan
Dear Jace: First, you need to speak with your parents about this. Talk to the parent you want to live with and find out if you can live with that parent full-time. If he/she agrees, then you need to talk to the other parent and find out if they are okay with you living with the one parent full-time (at least for awhile). If both parents agree to changing the arrangements, then you should be able to make the change but if there are custody orders in place through the court, your parents may need to ask for the court’s permission to modify the custody orders. If they are both in agreement of the new arrangements, then the court is likely to grant your parents’ request to modify the custody orders. Hope that helps. Good luck.
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I have a 15 year old son who refuses to live in my home and his father, who is the custodial parent, refuses to have him in his home. My son is on probation in a different county and is running amok. I want to know what I can do to have him picked up so that I cannot be held responsible for his actions. Please help. I think he will either end up dead or in jail. Or have me in jail for something he has done.
Dear Debra: We’re sorry to hear about your son and your circumstances. First, you could try talking to his probation officer if you are comfortable doing so. You can explain that your son does not want to live with you, but there are no other options and he is still a minor. If the probation officer has a decent relationship with your son, perhaps a get serious talk with your son will help him realize that he’s going to end up in deeper trouble if he doesn’t stay at home with you, or worse, end up in serious danger if he’s out on the streets. You do have the option of going to the juvenile court and filing an incorrigibility charge against your son which would bring to the court’s attention that your son will not follow your rules an stay at home. However, since he’s already on probation, it may be best to gain the help/assistance of his probation officer or someone else in the probation department that may connect best with your son. Finally, if there are any relatives or adults (even your son’s friend’s parents) who are willing to let your son stay with them for some time, this could be another option but may need to be discussed with his p.o. as well as the judge since he’s on probation. Good luck to you and your son.
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I have dependency petition court for my 11 yr old missing school for being sick. He has asthma and a low immune system so he is easy to get sick. Not to metition the bullying . What .ight happen
Dear Tiffany: AsktheJudge.info is an education site for & about teenagers and the laws that affect them. We don’t provide legal advice to our readers, whether teen or adult. When you go to court for this, you may meet with a lawyer or court official who will explain the process to you. You could also contact a lawyer yourself to explain the dependency process to you. Some may offer a free initial consultation, so ask about this at the outset. Good luck.
I am 16, and live in Delaware My girlfriend is also 16. (We both live in the same state) She is currently living with her mom. Her dad is an alcoholic who mentally and emotionally abuses her. She feels as though her mom is emotionally abusive as well. Her mom had sent her to a Behavior health facility because my girlfriend objected to pay for a car (in her moms name) that she was unable to drive and an argument had occurred. She currently has a job and has been out of school for a few months but does her schooling online. Her mom doesn’t do much for her anymore but provide her with a place to stay and buys food for the house. She is very welcomed to my grandparents house (who I currently live with) where she will also be provided with a place to stay and food. Like I said she has a job and can either transfer or find a new one near my location if need be. Beings she has a place to stay, a job, and can feed herself, clothe herself, and pay rent if the court thinks it is necessary would EMANCIPATION be an option?? Her mother had kicked her out last week and she was staying with me previously, my girlfriend went back home for a day and then wound up being sent to the facility because her mom didn’t want to have to deal with her. She is currently in there now. If she were to come to my house and file for emancipation could she be labeled as a run away? and would emancipation be a good option for us? Please help
Dear Cyrus: As you may know, Delaware does not have a specific emancipation law for minors (under 18). Courts consider requests for emancipation on a case-by-case basis. Attached here is some information about this process in Delaware. You could also contact a local juvenile court or juvenile probation officer for more information. Good luck to you and your girlfriend.
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I’m 13 and a foster kid. My mom does drugs and because she’s always going to jail I don’t live with her. She came over and found lube in my bathroom and when she asked me about it… I didn’t want her to know I jerk off and told her I didn’t know where it came from. Because my big brother was coming over she freaked that something might be going on between us so she asked my CASA if he knew anything and he reported it.
The court issued an order telling me and my guardian not to have contact with my brother. Now that the cps investigation is over and unsubstantiated we thought the order would go away. But it hasn’t. Why won’t the court let me see him if he hasn’t done anything?
Dear Erick: Since you’re a ward of the court, the judge is responsible for decisions about your placement, contacts and visits, etc. Talk with your attorney, guardian, and caseworker about this. The judge has to consider everything about your life in making decisions that are in your best interests. Good luck.
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Hello. My school has really strict dress code. Is ripped jeans bad? No one can wear it. I like the style of having small tears on my jeans. Does this violate the first amendment?
Dear Luis: No, there’s no First Amendment violation here. Courts have decided that schools can have a dress code as long as it doesn’t discriminate in any way. In other words, a public school can’t have one rule for girls with no similar rule for boys. That would be treating them differently on the basis of gender.
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how can i stay in US without my parent taking me out? and yes i’m U.S citizen but i wanna stay in US! and is there anyway to prevent that?
Dear Nawal: Under the laws in most states in the U.S., as a minor (under 18), you’re required to obey your parents. That includes where you live and with whom. Unless you’re in the military, legally emancipated or a married minor, their rules become yours to follow. So, we suggest you make the best of your situation. Good luck.
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I was caught shoplifting at target for $24. They got all items back in their original conditions and no police were involved. A security ambassador gave me a one year no trespassing warning at that target and they let me go. A week after this incident I received a civil demand letter from an law agency asking for $250 to receive within 28 days. I didn’t pay it and I received another letter after that asking for $250 again to pay it within 10 days. I received this letter few days ago and I only have 3 more days to respond. I don’t have much income and I barely can pay my rent so I can’t pay this civil demand fine as it’s too high. Please tell me what can happen if I don’t pay this and will they stop sending me these letters or what? I’m 60 years old and I live in Houston, Tx. This is my first offense and I’m disabled: I know it was wrong to this and I will never do this mistake again and I feel ashamed of what I did! Please tell me what to do and I’m very worried and nervous about this. Thank you.
Dear Fatima: The store may press charges against you if you ignore their request to pay the civil fine. In most states, stores can choose to settle a shoplifting incident this way as opposed to going to the police and eventually court. It is to your advantage to comply and get this behind you. If you do, there won’t be an official record that could affect your future. So, we recommend contacting the sender of the civil demand letter and ask for a payment schedule that fits your financial situation. They will likely work with you since you’re not ignoring the fine – you just need time to pay it off. Good luck.
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Can schools legally keep your phone for the whole year? Even out of school hours? I understand confiscating in the morning and returning it at the end of the school day, but can they really keep it 24/7 for the whole school year? Thank you
Dear Sanjula: Yes, a school may be authorized to keep a confiscated phone until the end of the school year. Each state and school district has rules regarding cell phones and other digital devices at school. You’re right about returning phones at the end of the day or even after a week. But some, after multiple violations of the rules, can keep the phone for a longer period. Take a look at your school’s Student Handbook for the specifics on this.
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I am 16 years old, turning 17 this May and I want to file for emancipation. I live in Ohio so we do not have a set law for emancipation which would mean I just have to prove I am able to provide for myself. I got a job 3 days after I turned 16 with the help of my grandma, I paid to have my own permit and ID. My father has not paid for anything including my school fees, my ACT test costs or anything in the manner of schooling. I have not eaten at home besides 2 meals since November and one was because the weather was too bad I could not leave the house. My father has also taken a total of $600 from my account to help him pay bills while he has paid back $400 of that, he ignores every time I bring up the rest. I support myself in every aspect of my life besides driving myself,( which they do not provide transportation for my either) this is because he refuses to sign my up for drivers ed and to sign for me to have a license. And they provide somewhere that I can sleep. I have never been kicked out of my house and it is not an physically abusive home. My step mother walked out on my family days after I turned 15 leaving me to care for my brother which I raised for a year and a half. I cooked, I cleaned the entire house, raised my brother, paid for dinner, attended school, and kept a job all at the same time. My step mother came back in November and we do not get along to say the least. My grandmother wants me to file for emancipation and I think it is my best option. Do you think I have a strong case?
Dear Hailey: Based on what you describe, you appear to be close to an emancipated minor. However, without a legal process to become officially emancipated, obtaining such a status is difficult. As you know, Ohio is without a statute that either you or a court can follow to emancipate a minor. Take a look here for a description of your state’s position on this. You may have to simply wait another fifteen months until you turn 18. You could also contact a local attorney who practices family or juvenile law. Some provide free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Good luck.
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Hi so I’m in a really sticky situation right now and honestly don’t know which way to turn right now. I recently turned 16, and at present am dealing with a 21 year old model who is on a platform of 408K followers. Over the last couple months, I have been involved with children who suffer from sexual abuse as a result of their father’s watching pornography and viewing pornographic images. So I have acquaintances who know this model and what happened was I left a lot of rude comments on her social media and so on. I admit right now it was very cruel and unnecessary to do. But now a few days ago she decided she is filing a claim for defamation of character to a lawyer she called Neal Schulwolf. She ( a 21-year-old), wishes to take me (a 16-year-old) to court for leaving negative remarks and hate speech on her social pages. I am only 16 and have kind of mentioned my situation to my mom already but the other people I have spoken to about this considered an unprofessional way of going about it and the incorrect spelling of her attorney’s name a bluff in which she wished to frighten me away. And I have definitely learned my lesson and never wish to see or be in contact with her, her family, or her relationships. I have so many questions but figured I’ll just leave a summary here for now until I hear back from ANYONE at this point. Thank you 🙂
Dear Ashley: The best thing to do at this point is to level with your parents about what you wrote, when, number of times, etc. In other words, they need to know everything so they can take whatever action is best to protect you as a minor. There are laws, as you know, about sexting and cyberbullying in most states. If this comes to a lawsuit against you, your mother may also be named as your legal guardian. She should be totally aware of what has happened between you and this adult “model.” Good luck, and stay off the internet for your own good.
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I m 14 and want to go to public school but my parents want to keep homeschooling me(I’ve been homeschool for about 9 years). Can I to go public school without my parents permission?
Dear Angus: It would be difficult, if not impossible, to go to a public school without the consent of your parents. There are registration forms, health records, etc. that must be provided the school that you wouldn’t have access to. Under the laws in all states, minors (those under 18) are required to follow the decisions made by their parents. This includes attending school or homeschooling, in your case. Once you become an adult, those decisions become yours to make. If you join the military when you’re of age, marry or become emancipated, then you can decide these issues on your own. So, make the best of your situation. Maybe a calm discussion with your parents about your education will help them understand your position. Good luck.
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im 17 years old and im turning 18 in a month my school told me if i dont get the shot i need before a specific date then i wont be allowed to attend school. I want to know if i could go take the shot myself without a parent because i live with my uncle and he is always at work. Please anybody help me
Dear Fares: We suggest you contact the office or person who administers the shots and ask if you can come in by yourself. Explain the situation and, depending on the consent laws in your state, you may be able to do this. Good luck.
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I’m dealing with a “teacher bullying” case involving my son and a teacher. I have completed an Open Records Request to the school, to include discipline records for this teacher but the school provided me everything but the discipline records for the teacher.
Is the discipline records not subject to open records in Texas?
Dear Chris: AsktheJudge.info is an information website for & about teens and their rights and responsibilities. As such, we don’t provide legal advice to our readers. We suggest you speak with the principal regarding the release of records of complaints against a teacher. There may be privacy laws/rules they must follow. If you’re not satisfied, you can contact a lawyer in your area who practices education or school law. Good luck.
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Can I sue someone for incitement my family?
Dear Lim: It depends on what exactly you mean by “incitement” and its definition under local laws. You can google the name of your state and “incitement law” for information. (This is information only – not legal advice).
Is it considered illegal to put a advertisement on a public trash can?
Dear Trevor: That would depend on the laws in your state and/or local laws/ordinances. Google the name of the city or town where you live and “vandalism” for information on this. You could also ask the police – they would know the local laws and if doing this is illegal. Good luck.
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Can you go to jail for bullying 12 years old and younger?
Dear Myla: That would depend on many factors including the state where this happened and the laws there about bullying; the circumstances of the case meaning what exactly was said and done; the policies of the local authorities regarding enforcement of bullying laws, etc. If you are charged with a bullying crime, speak with a lawyer for advice about going forward.
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I was in a residential treatment center for teenagers. They had the ability to take our clothes away and make us sleep in only undergarments (no blankets or mattress cover) if we were considered dangerous. I’ve been looking around- is there any substance to the claim that a parent signs away rights to a center by sending their child there? thank you.
Dear Teddy: Parents are often asked to sign an agreement authorizing the placement to make certain decisions regarding the treatment and living conditions provided the resident youth. Parents don’t surrender their legal rights entirely, but, to a limited degree, they allow the placement to enforce their rules. It’s a temporary power of attorney given the placement for the benefit of each resident and the program as a whole. Of course if there are abusive actions against a resident, this should be reported and investigated.
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I’m 16 and live in Texas, does my doctor have to tell my parents that I could be pregnant
Dear Lily: There is no law that requires your doctor to tell your parents about a pregnancy or that you could be pregnant. If you have further questions about a pregnancy, you can research the subject online or contact a local Planned Parenthood office or other teen pregnancy resource center where you live. Good luck.
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I crashed my car to a pole at the student parking lot by accident and I left like it never happened I feel bad about it but will I get in real deep trouble like will it go to my record and all that?
Dear Seth: There will only be a record of this if and when you’re charged and/or convicted of a crime (property damage, for example). Or the school may keep a record of it for their purposes. If you tell the school what happened and you arrange to make good on the damage, with the help of your parents if you’re under 18, they may choose not to involve the police. Good luck.
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how many years can u go to jail for cyberbullying someone or just bullying
Dear Mars: It would depend on exactly what was done, the state you’re in and the specific laws that constitute bullying or cyberbullying. Some states have a law against cyberbullying; others don’t, but the acts of stalking, harassment or intimidation make up what we refer to as bullying. Google the name of your state and “cyberbullying” for more information on this.
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can a judge from another state ban you from stores in another state?
Dear Darius: If the store, as a victim of shoplifting for example, requests that you be banned from all of their stores nationwide, then the court may have the authority to issue such an order. Whether the ban would stand if challenged would have to be decided on a case-by-case basis depending on the court’s jurisdiction.
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I am wondering if I am in the wrong when a person has hit me and I have beat this person up and yet this person come back the next week and starts on me again and I hit them and then the other day this person hit me and I broke his shoulder ( in self defence) am I in the wrong.
Dear Kalen: We are an education website for & about teenagers and the laws that affect them. We do not provide legal advice to our readers, whether teen or adult. So, we suggest you consider obtaining a restraining order against this person if your dispute with him continues. Go to any court where you live and ask about the process to get this. You don’t need a lawyer but you will have to explain to a judge why you want it and what’s happened between you two. Good luck.
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does a defending lawyer need to oblige to their clients request even though it is not in the best interest of their client if the client asks him to? in illinoid
Dear Orlando: A lawyer’s job is to represent the client. That includes taking a position that the lawyer may personally disagree with. For example, in a criminal case, if the client wants to plead not guilty and have a trial (his day in court), the lawyer must act accordingly. The lawyer may think that the offer made by the state is good and that his client should take it rather than risk a longer sentence, it’s up to the client to decide how he/she wants to proceed.
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I am signing up for diversion, I’m 18 and this is my very first offense. I’m supposed to be moving to Virginia for college. I have one more court date in August. Would I be able to transfer my diversion to Virginia from Nebraska or should I say goodbye to college?
Dear Kae: We suggest you contact the person or court who supervises your diversion immediately and explain the situation. Tell them you want to complete the diversion program before you need to leave the state for college. They will most likely work with you on this. Whatever you do, don’t ignore this opportunity to complete diversion, and don’t “say goodbye to college.” Good luck.
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What typically happens when i did destruction of public property with a marker but it was able to come off? Like what are the consequences
Dear Isaac: If the marks you made came completely off the surface, then there’s no “damage” to the property. However, under the laws where you live, you could be held responsible for the act of what may be referred to as vandalism. It depends on the local police and prosecutor whether to file charges and bring you before a judge. In other words, you could be prosecuted for your act but in terms of restitution, there may be none. Hopefully, you’ve learned from this incident.
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My ex-husband keeps telling my kids that I kidnapped them when I took them to the shelter with me when I left him. Is it kidnapping if I took them with me to the shelter? I live in Michigan. Where in the law can I find if what I did is kidnapping or not? My ex is trying to turn the kids against me.
Dear Karen: You can google “Michigan kidnapping law” to find more information specific to the law in your state. For further information and advice, you could try contacting your local legal aid office or find out if your local court has a free legal assistance program which would allow you to meet briefly with a pro bono attorney. Many courts throughout the country have these programs. Good luck.
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Hi gud day..some one accuse me of being cyberbullying but i never post her name.on it she keep messaging of threaten worsd what should i do they said she will.sent me.warrant on it but im.still in abroad what will.happen of i have warrant on my place they will deport here in singapore can i ask.what should i do
Dear Arjolyn: If you are under age 18, we suggest you speak with your parent or guardian about this. If formal charges are filed against you, or a warrant is issued by a court, you will need sound, legal advice which your parents can arrange. Good luck, and think twice before posting any questionable content online.
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My brothers on parole and he was on 24 house arrest the day he was suppose to get off the band they locked him up for failing a drug test he got locked up for a week for braking parole and leaving the house previously … What do you think is goin to happen to him ? Is it going to be a slight 2 weeks or is he going to have to sit again for a few months
Dear Jaey: The potential consequences your brother faces will depend on a number of factors including his overall compliance on probation/house arrest. If there have been multiple violations, then it’s more likely that the judge will feel that he/she needs to impose more serious consequences. Your brother could try talking to his parole officer and find out his/her position on the matter. Good luck to your brother.
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While I am not a teen, this question does involve teens and younger. while browsing a popular adult site called X-Video, I stumbled across a few videos that quite clearly involved real-life minors from their teenage years and younger engaged in sexual contact with adults. I did not play any of the videos, and immediately used the flag option to report said videos for underage content and erased my browsing history in revulsion and fear (although one of the videos I noted had a distressing 6 Million+ views). That said, I must ask, would I still be held accountable for breaking the law for simply stumbling upon it, despite not viewing the video and reporting it?
Dear Michael: It’s unlikely you’d be in any trouble for what you describe you did. However, every state has it’s own laws regarding child pornography, exploitation of a minor, etc. So, if you google the name of your state and the specific subject you’re interested in, you’ll get information that may be useful. Most laws require “intent” which doesn’t include accidentally “stumbling” onto a questionable site. As you may know, many porn sites have adopted a dot-com or dot.edu suffix to mislead users who think they’re searching for a legitimate website. There’s no liability attached to such an act.
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I’m a teen mom and my mom never gave me kr told me she got my 5 month old baby social security card. She used her for her taxes without asking me either. Is that legal ?
Dear Laura: Without knowing all of the facts, we’re not able to say whether what your mother did is legal or not. Plus, we don’t provide legal advice to our readers, only information and resources. We suggest you contact a local lawyer who practices juvenile or family law for advice. Some offer free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. You could also call the juvenile court or juvenile probation department and see if they can answer your questions. Good luck.
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My daughter is a high school sophomore, and we live in Colorado. She is persistently being bullied by many girls at school and is suffering from depression and anxiety as a result. School administrators have tried to help, but they are overburdened, and the problem seems to to be pervasive in the school culture. She is also on anti-depressants and attending therapy outside of school. I want to get her out of this school’s atmosphere, which is clearly damaging her mental health, but we are in the middle of the semester and she is only 15. (So, legally required to be there.) Does Colorado law allow for a (mental health) medical leave of absence from high school, and how might we go about getting this? (We plan to do online school next semester.)
Dear S.W.: As an education resource for teens, we do not provide legal advice to our readers. We suggest you take a look at the school’s Student Handbook for information about a medical “excused absence” for your daughter. You could also speak with the front office about her situation or the principal. Or you could contact a local attorney who practices school or education law for advice. Some offer free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. We’re sorry to hear about the bullying she’s suffering from and wish her well.
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My sister got off the bus today and was assaulted from behind by a girl who used to live with us. Three of her friends were there, recording. They’d all waited on the block over to catch her when she got off of the bus. She never saw it coming. I ran up and got in a verbal confrontation with the girl that hurt my sister, i urged her to try with me what shed done to my sister. She hit me. We fought, all of which is on video and given to police. She’s 18, I’m 16. She was arrested for assaulting my sister and I was given a referral to juvenile court for fighting in public… How? We argued… she hit me first. That’s assault as well, right??
Dear J.S.: Once the court hears all of the facts from the witnesses who saw this, and considers your version plus the other girl’s, a decision will be made whether you broke the law or not. Don’t miss your appearance in juvenile court or the judge may issue an arrest warrant. Calmly explain what happened and the charge against you may be dismissed. Good luck.
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My 12 year old granddaughter has lived with myself and my husband for most of her last 10 years (primacy custody with dad) than 3 years ago a judge order her to live with her mom who she barely knew. Now her mom said when she turns 13 (in May of this year she could come back home, but than decided to renege on that. My granddaughter desperately wants to come home. What can she or we do to get her back here.Mom decide to move her about 3000 miles away from home. Help please!!
Dear Linda: We suggest you contact a local lawyer who practices family law for advice. He/she will be able to discuss the situation with you and advise you accordingly. Some offer free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Take a look at our Teen Help Network for attorneys where you live:
http://www.askthejudge.info/directory.
Good luck.
My Daughter, after numerous times of being bullied by Staff and Administration at her High School, had finally the presence of mind to record her being verbally attacked. The recording is shocking, and I have no idea where to go from here. What steps do I take to protect my Daughter? She graduates in two months, so it would be very easy to just let it go. But I know I should not because of other children. Need advice on direction.
Dear Larrisa: You can take this up with the school district if you haven’t already. If you’re not satisfied with their response, you can contact a local lawyer who practices either juvenile law or education law. He/she would be able to advise you as to how to proceed. Some lawyers offer free initial consultations so ask about this if you call one. Good luck.
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Hello, here is the situation my family is in right now and we don’t know where to go from here. My brother is 14 years old and we lost our mom to cancer in 2016. He was in science class last week and a kid who has picked on him before sits near him. The lesson was over cancer cells and the kid looked at my brother and said, “you know what this reminds me of, your mom”, and laughs in my brothers face about it. The next day he made the same remarks so my brother before the next class confronted him about it and he denied it all so my brother stood up for himself and punched the kid for saying those things about our mom. My brother got out of school suspension for 3 days ad the bully did not receive any sort of punishment. We know my brother doesn’t need to resolve things with fighting but the kid wouldn’t stop. My brother has accepted his consequences, but what I am not okay with is why the other kid did not get punished for bullying in the first place. We did a letter of appeal to the school board regarding my brother’s case and seeing about in school suspension but they denied it. We then went back to the principals to just reiterate how it isn’t right that one kid got punished for standing up for himself against the bully and the bully did not get any punishment. What I am wondering is, is there anything else we can do? Is that kid considered a bully for saying those remarks to my brother and laughing about them?
Dear Mikella: Apparently, the school has considered what happened and is firm in their decision. That may be the end of this as far as they are concerned. It’s good that your brother has accepted the consequences, but that doesn’t excuse the behavior of the bully. Any further harassment should be reported so that, at least, a pattern of bullying can be established. Good luck.
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My name is April and I have been wanting to emancipate myself by court. I was wondering what was required and if my parents decide to object towards my emancipation would it be automatically terminated.
Dear April: You need to find out the specific emancipation law in your state. You can do this by googling the name of your state and “emancipation law.” You should be able to find out the requirements as well as the process. In many states, the judge will want to know whether or not your parents consent. Even if they do not provide their consent, that does not necessarily mean that you cannot become emancipated. The judge will take into consideration many factors including your age, financial status and whether you are living financially independent from your parents and able to pay your own bills. Good luck.
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My son gave a marker that didn’t belong to him to a person it belonged to and that person it belonged to vandalised school property. Would he get in trouble for giving it to the rightful owner and they did something bad with it?
Dear Emanuel: Based strictly on what you’ve stated, it’s unlikely your son would be charged with a crime. Since he didn’t participate in the vandalism or conspire with the kid who did, he should have no worries. However, if additional facts come into play, he may be exposed to some liability. Good luck.
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Hello, I live in California. My son (11 Years old) was the perpetrator of a cyber bullying indecent. Understandably, the young lady’s mother is quite upset. an officer, after looking at the texts and a letter written said that he could take my son and declare a 5150 and hold him for 72 hours. He has been disciplined by his mother and I. My question is this; Can my son be prosecuted for this? Thank you for your answer.
Dear Richard: At the present time, it appears that law enforcement could bring charges against your son. There is pending before California’s legislature a bill (see below) introduced in 2017 to raise the age for juvenile prosecution to 12. It is currently pending subject to the legislative process.
http://www.cdfca.org/policy/bill-watch/sb439/
However, we can tell you that generally children of your son’s age are usually handled outside of the formal juvenile justice system. They may be offered something along the lines of a diversion program to avoid formal proceedings in juvenile court. That may include attending a class about digital etiquette or completing a few community service hours. The decision is up to the police and local prosecutor. Most states handle these cases with a goal of educating our youth as opposed to punishment. Good luck.
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I post time line on my face book one of my sister in law react on my post but that words just time line i heard from showtime and she said i bully here and she file cyber bullying now , she is a teache and we both are old now my wuestion is is that bully i just post and copy the time line from show time but i didnt maintion her full name.
Dear Julie: Since you both are older now, you should try to work this out with your sister-in-law. If she feels hurt, threatened, harassed, etc. from your post, it’s important to respect her feelings. She could choose to report the post to Facebook and whether or not the post would be removed would depend on their bullying/harassment policies, etc. Good luck.
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Judge Jacobs,
We have met when I interviewed you for my book, Erase the Problem of Bullying. I have a question about gun safety. A parent leaves a loaded gun in the drawer of a nightstand.
The teen and his friends find the gun and play around with it, until the dad comes in and says–“What are you doing!” The teen is startled and accidentally shoots the dad. Another teen gets shot as well. Would someone be prosecuted in the case of an accidental shooting? Would the teen or the dad be liable? What kind of charges would be given for this scenario?
Would it be a different case if someone died?
Dear Jill: As you know, the exact and complete facts surrounding the incident must be considered. Once determined, the applicable laws of the state where this happened are viewed to see if any legal responsibility is attached to each player’s role. Every state has laws governing the use and handling of weapons and they vary from state-to-state. If the investigation is concludes with a finding that it was an accident, it’s unlikely that criminal charges would be filed. On the other hand, as you ask, if someone died, the investigation would be thorough and could still end with the finding of accidental death.
BTW, I looked at your book on Amzn. It looks interesting. I hope it’s doing well. Thanks for the interview about cyberbullying a few years ago.
Best, -Tom
i was on a website and I kept changing the caller id and calling family members and when they answer I hang multiple times is that bad
Dear Dylan: Whether your acts are “bad” or unlawful depends on the laws in the state where you’re doing this. If anything, it’s annoying and could lead to unexpected consequences. We suggest you refrain from bothering anyone, on or off line.
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Can a parent force their 15 year old son into protesting abortion away from home?
Dear Johny: Most states have laws that require minors (those under 18) to obey their parents. An exception would be if the behavior the parents require is illegal or presents a danger to the child. At age 15, teenagers are beginning to form their own opinions on important issues facing all of us. It may be time to have a calm discussion with him about his views on the subject of abortion. It’s really just a matter of months before he’s an adult. Hopefully you can come to an agreement that’s acceptable to both of you. “Forcing” him to participate will work against an ongoing healthy relationship where you respect each other’s views. Good luck.
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I’m writing a story about a little girl who is really sick for two weeks (104 degree fever, nausea, bone aches, lots of pain, etc) and she goes to the doctor to get it checked out. Her guardian is abusive and refuses to sign papers and her sister is trying to hide the abuse. Could her sister take her to the doctor (she first goes to the pediatrician because the abusive uncle broke her little sister’s arm) for something that isn’t an emergency like that? And if not, what would someone in that case do? And if she were to take her to the hospital instead?
Dear Maya: Minors (those under 18) have legal rights under specific state laws. So, we suggest you google the name of the state where your story occurs and “medical consents” for information about this. Good luck.
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So if a 10th grader in high school has a locked bag and some kid tipped the school of a vape inside and they tried to search me and the bag and I say I don’t have the key can they break the bag or something to search it or hold onto it to search it
Dear Braden: Take a look at your school’s Student Handbook for the rules about drugs or drug paraphernalia at school or at a school event. It should be clear what their authority is regarding a search of your locker, backpack, car or bag. Generally, if a school official has “reasonable suspicion” that a school rule or law has been broken, they are authorized to conduct a search, with or without a search warrant. School officials aren’t police officers and don’t have to comply with “probable cause” standards.
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Hello I am Matt. Recently in my school a kid posted a picture of our Principal on his Instagram. The principal found out and sent me to his office saying I wasn’t in trouble, rather I just had to tell him about the picture, which I of course did tell him about at the best of my ability. Does this go onto my personal record, and if it does is this something I could erase from it.
Dear Matt: First, we suggest you talk with your parents about this. They will be able to discuss the situation with school officials to make sure your record is not affected in any way. Of course, it depends on your involvement, if any, with this incident. Good luck.
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I am 18, if i get in a fight with a 21 year old for seducing my step dad into cheating on my mom, who will go to jail?
Dear Tiffany: You will have to refer to the specific assault laws in your state. You could try Googling the name of your state and “assault law” for more information. If you started the fight by hitting, kicking, etc., there’s a good chance that you could be charged if the 21 year old reports it to the police. Fighting is not going to help the situation and may only aggravate it by the possibility of charges being filed against you. Good luck.
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I can’t find what the email is I dont get it says contact (at) askthejudge.info
Dear Alaa: In order to prevent spam, we typed our email address out that way. It’s contact [immediately followed by the “at” symbol – @] and then immediately followed by askthejudge.info. It’s typed out in the format of any other email address. Thanks. -ATJ
So my paraents bought my car and im currently 18 years old. When the car was bought it was put under my name and not theirs. So can take my car away even if it is under my name and im 18 years of age ? Note that i live in california
Dear John: Even though you are 18 and considered an adult in the state of California, you may need to continue to follow your parents’ rules, etc. especially if they are continuing to support you. Depending on all of the facts and circumstances, it may not necessarily be “legal” for them to take your car away, but again, if you are living with them and they are supporting you, then there may be an expectation that their rules are followed otherwise, there will be consequences. You could try talking to them about this and try to work out an agreement for when you can get your car back. Perhaps if you agree to somehow paying for your mistake, they will consider letting you have the car again. Good luck.
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If a Father works out of state but has a holiday visitation, can a step parent take the child for the holiday instead?
Dear Brianna: You (or your parents) would have to refer to the custody/visitation orders. If there are no court orders and the parents agreed on a visitation schedule, then they would have to talk and decide how to handle this holiday season. If there are court orders and they are not followed, then the mother could be in violation by not allowing the father his visitation time required by the orders. The parents could take the matter back to court to have the court orders modified and/or to request permission for a different plan this year. Thank you for writing us.
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If u was a juvanle when got feloney can it be expanged laywer saod it went to buy a gun come back i was a feloney
Dear Nathan: Every state has its own laws concerning the destruction or expungement of a juvenile record. There is a process and you may not need an attorney to file the proper paperwork asking the court to expunge your record. In fact, you may be able to complete the form and file it online. You can try Googling the name of your state and “expungement of juvenile record” for more information specific to the laws of your state. Also, you could try contacting the court directly and ask how to begin the process. A clerk should be able to offer you some assistance. Good luck.
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what would happen if i was caught with marijuana at my age. i am 16
Dear Tanner: It depends on who caught you, how much marijuana you had in your possession, and a number of other factors. If a small amount, and this is your first time, you could be offered a “diversion” program. That means if you admit what happened and then complete some community service hours or attend a class, the charge would be dismissed and you wouldn’t get a record. A lot depends on the police and local prosecutor. Stay away from drugs – your future depends on it. Good luck.
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My artwork is continuously being uploaded onto a website for sale without my permission. I’ve filed Copyright Claims every time that I find a new copycat image, but as soon as I get one image down 3 or 4 more take its place. The site is taking about 4 to 5 days to respond to each request, and I feel like I’m fighting a losing battle. So far, I’ve had one of my designs removed from their site 100 times and it’s only been a month. I’ve started to report the issue to the company that host their website, but I’m not sure what they will do. I feel like this behavior falls under cyber bullying. What are my legal options? Thanks!
Dear Pete: AsktheJudge.info is an education site for & about teenagers and the laws that affect them. We do not provide legal advice to our readers, teen or adult. We suggest you contact either the police about this, or a lawyer who practices intellectual property law. Good luck.
I was caught trespassing into am abondanded hospital. I got court today and i wamt to know what consequences ill get
Dear Edwin: If this is your first offense, you may be eligible for a “diversion” program. That means if you admit what you did and then complete some community service, attend a class or counseling, the charge will be dismissed and you won’t have a record. When you go to court, the process will be explained to you. If you agree with diversion, make sure you complete all of the terms on time. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself back in court facing the same charge. Good luck.
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Is it illegal in New York to leave your house at 17 when you want to go out with friends or have to go to work and you’r parents don’t give you permission?
Dear Connor: Because you’re still a minor, your parents continue to be legally responsible for you until you’re 18 or become emancipated. This means that they get to make decisions about when you go out, who you get to hang out with, curfew, etc. Perhaps you could try talking to them about how you feel and the fact that you are close to turning 18. The fact that you have a job and taking on extra responsibility is a good thing that hopefully they will see as a positive aspect in your life and not deprive you from your job. If they learn to understand how you feel and why working as well as being with your friends is so important, perhaps they may be more willing to give you more independence. Good luck.
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I was caught using a phone, when in my school, they are not allowed. My parents don’t know about this phone, as I purchased it without them knowing. When I was caught I said it was my friend’s, but then she told the teacher it wasn’t hers. The teacher came to me and I stuck to my story, and told her it wasn’t mine. Now she said that she’s keeping it forever. I don’t know what to do without my parents finding out.
Dear Jena: You’re in a difficult situation as there may not be much you can do without your parents finding out. Not to mention, if you want the phone back, you’re going to have to fess up and admit that the phone belongs to you because the teacher is not going to return the phone to a student who claims it’s not theirs. If you really don’t want to tell your parents, you could try talking to the teacher directly and tell the truth. She may return the phone to you based on your confession. Otherwise, you’re going to have to explain the situation to your parents. Finally, you can check your school’s student handbook to find out more about the specific rules concerning cell phones on campus. Good luck.
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So lets say a minor sexualy harasses another Minor at school, what can happen to the minor who did the offence?
Dear M: The possible consequences will depend on the facts and circumstances of the incident as well as the laws of your state. Your school could take action and discipline you with detention or even suspension – again, depending on what exactly occurred. If the school administrators believe that you violated a state law, then the incident could be referred to the police who would conduct an investigation and possibly charges could be filed against you. Perhaps you could try talking to your parents about this and express your concerns, regrets, etc. They may be able to help you take understand how to take responsibility for your mistake and not let the same thing occur in the future. Good luck.
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Do you think public schools should or should not require students to wear uniforms.
Dear Adorbslol: It’s up to the individual public school district to decide whether uniforms will be the rule or not. You can always let the school administrators know your view on the subject or attend a meeting where the issue is discussed. Your input is valuable as districts across the country debate this issue.
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can you get in trouble for cursing at your
parents
Dear Megan: Since your parents are legally responsible for you and get to make decisions about your upbringing until you are an adult, you are expected to follow their rules (unless those rules would actually place a minor in a dangerous situation). For minors who repeatedly do not listen to their parents or follow their rules, parents can actually ask a court to intervene. This process is called filing incorrigibility charges against a child (basically, telling the court that a child is defiant, getting into constant trouble and not obeying the rules). If you feel like you can’t talk to your parents or they won’t listen to you, perhaps you could try talking to another adult you trust about your frustrations. This may be a teacher, school counselor, another relative or a friend’s parent. When a parent and child get to a place of mutual respect for one another, tensions may calm and life can be so much easier at home. Good luck.
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At work, I accidentally spilled water on a counter and didn’t realize that a customer’s phone was there. As soon as I realized I apologized, I offered him paper towels and tried to clean up the mess. I asked him if there was anything that he needed, and he replied no. I asked him if he was sure I couldn’t do anything for him, and once again he replied no. Two days later, he called and said that the phone is now damaged and is seeking reimbursement. Am I responsible even if it was an accident? The counter is designated as a hand off plane for beverages, and it isn’t uncommon for drinks to spill.
Dear Pola: Whether or not you could be held responsible for the damage will depend on the laws of your state. The owner of the phone would have to bring a civil claim in small claims court seeking money for the repair or replacement of the damaged phone. He would argue that you were negligent, which ultimately led to his phone being damaged. Whether or not he will actually file a claim is another story. You could argue your side of the story and that he assumed the risk by placing his phone on a beverage counter at a restaurant, cafe, etc. where spills frequently occur. It’s always best to try to resolve such conflicts outside of court, so perhaps you could compromise and work out an agreement if that is something you are willing to do. Good luck.
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my friend unfortunately caught for a shop lift at queens county and sent to attend a class in 2013 now how can he get a record of this crime and will you please tell me whom we have to contact and how also what all the document he should carry along with to the court.
Dear Alias: It’s possible that your friend completed a diversion program and that there is no record of the offense if he successfully completed the program. To confirm the status of his record (if he does in fact have one), he should contact the court and request a copy of his record. Then he can know for sure what, if anything, is on it. He can ask the clerk at the court how to get his record destroyed or expunged if he has one. Every state has a process for doing this. Good luck to your friend.
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My son and her friend were playing with her cell phone. And there says that my son broken her cell phone. but my son said it was and accident.. and she the law on him. can there be charger against him. As a parent what can I do.
Dear Connie: If this was an accident and not an intentional act, there’s little likelihood that the police would get involved. It would be best to work this out with the parents of the friend. Maybe split the cost of repair or replacement. Accidents do happen. Good luck.
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can your parent give the police consent to search a phone of yours they didn’t buy or own if your a minor and a victim in a case and you didn’t consent ?
Dear Terrika: It’s possible that your parents could consent to the search since you’re still a minor. When you’re a minor, your parents have legal responsibilities to provide for you and take care of you as well as to make decisions about your upbringing. Generally, parents can consent to the search of their child’s bedroom/property even if the child objects. To find more information based on the specific laws of your state, you could try Googling the name of your state and “parental consent to search of minor’s phone.” Good luck.
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My son was taken out of class, told to undress, and then his vehicle was searched THREE times because the person that rode with him “smelled like weed.” Did that equal probable cause? I don’t see what suspicion of another student has to do with my child.
Dear Cat: Whether a situation amounts to “probable cause” to search, with or without a warrant, depends on the particulars of the case. It also depends on who conducted the search, the police or a school official. If a school official, they have a lower standard to do this. They only need what’s called “reasonable suspicion” to believe that a school rule or law has been violated. If your son is charged with an offense, you can discuss this with his lawyer. You can also request a meeting with the principal of the school to go over these events.
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can a teacher legally take a students phone? for example : a teacher asks a student “hand me your phone” the student replies with “no” can they still take it? In Washington State, lake Washington school district and I am almost 18 in my senior year.
Dear Grace: For the answer to your question, you’ll have to look to your Student Handbook for the rules governing digital devices at school, including cell phones. These rules are based on district policy, state laws and court rulings regarding search and seizure and education law. Most schools have what are called “Acceptable Use Policies” that outline what’s allowed, what’s not and the consequences for breaking the rules. Confiscation of a cell phone is not unusual, but it may be for only a day or week. It depends on a number of factors. Good luck.
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Hello my name is Reyna I have a permit and I got a letter for truancy I might have court can I get it taken away.. I have only a couple of days until my 9 months are over can I do anything about it anymore.
Dear Reyna: You will have to refer to the laws of your state concerning driver’s permits/licenses and truancy. Some states do have DMV penalties for truancy, but you need to check the status in your state. You could try looking at your state’s DMV website for more information or just google the name of your state and “truancy consequences.” Good luck.
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Yesterday someone call me a prank call nd told me that i received a parcel from Flipkart nd they ask my address nd after sometime my friend told me that a lawyer make k prank call to find my address so plzzz tell my is there any penalties nd law for that prank call
Dear Vishal: Depending on the laws of your state, the prank call may be considered illegal especially if they asked for your address and you provided it to the caller. You could report it to the police if you believe you’ve been the victim of a crime and if the person may continue to harass you. Also, you could try Googling the name of your state and “prank calling law” to find more information specific to the laws of your state. Good luck.
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I’m 18 with seizures and my mom won’t let me go, do I have the right to leave even with my seizures
Dear Juliets: When you say that your mom won’t let you go, we assume you mean move out of the house. In almost all states, the age of majority is 18, which means that you are legally considered an adult at that age. You could Google the name of your state and “age of majority” to confirm that 18 is the age in your state as well. Unless your mom has some sort of legal authority over you even if you’re considered an adult such as a guardianship or conservatorship, she is no longer legally responsible for you once you reach the age of majority. This means that you now have the legal ability to make important decisions about your life. Keep in mind, that if your mom is still supporting you financially, you may need to listen to her. If you’re still in high school, consider talking to the school counselor, a teacher or another adult you trust about your circumstances. Good luck.
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This is all hypothetical… I’f I had a bottle of Alcohol at school and somebody told a school resource officer or school official and they ask to search me just off of somebody’s word. Can they search me or do they have to obey what I said and not search me without my consent.
Dear Markus: A school official must have “reasonable suspicion” that a crime is being committed or that a school rule is being broken before searching a student. That means more than a hunch. A number of factors must be taken into consideration before deciding whether there is reasonable suspicion, which includes the source of information. So, if the school officials have reason to believe that the source of information is credible and that there may be other reasons to believe you have alcohol in your possession, that may be enough to constitute reasonable suspicion to search you and/or your belongings. Thanks for the question.
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if i was suspended from school for fighting and im 16 yrs old – can i work at my job legally?
Dear Ryan: There is no reason why you shouldn’t be allowed to continue working at your job. It doesn’t sound like court consequences were imposed such as criminal charges being filed against you for the fighting. So, it would be very unlikely that your employer would find out about your school suspension and even if he/she did, it wouldn’t necessarily affect your employment status. Good luck.
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Hello, my accidentally kick a ball over a fence and it bounces up and cracks someones window. What are the legal problems?
Dear Al: Ultimately, the laws of your state come into play, but you may be responsible for replacing/repairing the broken window. It’s always best to try to resolve these matters outside of court, so speaking to the property owner and trying to negotiate a resolution may be helpful. Good luck.
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I accidentally sent a pic to wrong person never intended for them. What do I do what crime did I commit I don’t know
Dear Tim: You can ask the person who received the photo to remove it from their device and not to forward it to anyone else. About any crime that was committed in sending it in the first place depends on the sexting laws where this happened. We’re assuming the photo you sent was of a sexual nature. If that’s the case, you can google the name of your state and “sexting laws” for information. Good luck.
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Would a police officer be allowed to tell your ex they can climb over your parents high walls and kick your parent’s back door and pound on your parents windows down the side of your parents house.
Dear Stacey: It’s unlikely a police officer would give this kind of advice to anyone. It may constitute trespassing, disorderly conduct or disturbing the peace depending on local laws and the circumstances.
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My stepsons girlfriend is giving him pot. He has tested positive in a drug test. He is 16, the girlfriend is 20. I’m having trouble finding a clear answer as to what can be done/what the law says about this minor/adult situation. We live in California. Unfortunately.
Dear Lisa: First, you could try talking to your stepson about his choices and the fact that recreational use of marijuana is still illegal for anyone under 21 years old. That means if he is at a party or out where the police see him use/possess marijuana, he could be cited. Also, if your stepson and his girlfriend have a sexual relationship, there could be consequences since the legal age of consent in California is 18. Good luck.
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I live in Hawaii and I’m 17. I made a really dumb stupid decision and slashed a persons tires on there car. I’m being prosecuted for criminal property damage and burglary class A, because the car was in there garage. I was wondering if it’s possible for me to move to Oregon and live with my father and then come back and go to court when they decide when that is. Thanks
Dear John: Since you have been charged with a crime in Hawaii, you are now under the jurisdiction of the court. It is possible that the court would allow you to leave the state and return for your hearings/trial on these charges. However, it wouldn’t be wise to do so without the permission of the court. Talk with your lawyer/public defender about this and he/she will be able to advise you. Leaving the state without the court’s consent could result in the issuance of an arrest warrant which will further complicate your life. Good luck.
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My fiancé is serving a suspended sentance of 1 year and is on tag for 3 months. He was late for is curfew because he was comming home from the hospital and he tried contacting the officers to tell them but they wouldnt answer he has bipolar and lost his temper and pulled his tag but did not mean for it to come off but it did and he wated at home for the officers to come and they put on a new tag the same night and now is back im court can anyone tell me what sentance he is now looking at?
Dear Jessica: The judge most likely will take into consideration a number of things including the reason he is on TAG (the underlying criminal charges/offense), his criminal history, whether he has been compliant with all other terms of his sentence and more. If he has a probation officer, he can speak to him/her about this and find out what they will be recommending to the judge. The three months on TAG may be extended to a longer period of time or other possible consequences may be imposed. Good luck to your fiance.
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I’m 16 can I be able to go to the doctor and get birth control pills without my mother being there.
Dear Nelson: Ultimately, your state’s specific laws on access to birth control will come into play, but generally with, and often without, parental consent, a minor has access to birth control. You can click here to learn more about the specific law concerning birth control in your state. (Just click on your state and then scroll down to the category on birth control.) Good luck.
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I’m 16 Can I go to my doctor and get a proscription for birth control with my parent being present?.
Dear Cache: Yes, you should be able to get a prescription without problems with your parent being present. Ultimately, your state’s specific laws on access to birth control will come into play, but generally with, and often without, parental consent, a minor has access to birth control. You can click here to learn more about the specific law concerning birth control in your state. (Just click on your state and then scroll down to the category on birth control. Good luck.
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Can a public school that takes federal funding disallow a young female student the right to wear soft knit slacks that are not disruptive, nor sensual in nature, in favor or jeans or khakis without violating her right to be comfortable in what she wears? This particular student does not own jeans or khakis because they are binding and uncomfortable. Please note that the state in Question is Kentucky, which is a Commonwealth and often thinks it is above the Constitution because of that.
Dear Jewel: Schools have quite a bit of flexibility when it comes to having a dress code. Generally, schools can prohibit certain items of clothing if they are shown to be disruptive to the school environment or create discipline problems. Talk to your principal about this and see if they are willing to make an exception for the type of pants you prefer to wear. Also, you could create a petition and circulate among fellow classmates for signatures to get the dress code modified. Good luck.
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If given verble permission to store all my belongings somewhere do I have the right to put my own personal lock on the gate to keep it safe? And is it against the law for the person whom gave verble permission to cut off my personal lock and put his own lock on the gate in witch my personal belongings are in?
Dear Marie: It sounds like your situation may not include any “legal right” since it’s merely verbal permission or a favor that this person is doing for you. If there is no signed contract, there may not be much that you can do other than to find another place to store your belongings. If you have a signed contract with a storage facility for instance, then you would have legal rights under the terms of the contract. Good luck.
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What is the penalty if u got caught stealing $200 from the draw at work
Dear Dillon: That all depends on a number of factors. You could be fired from your job for one. If this incident is reported to the police, formal charges could be filed against you. The penalty would then depend on local laws, your criminal history, the position of the prosecutor, etc. If you are charged with stealing, discuss this with a lawyer. Good luck.
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Hi I’m 18 yeasts old and school is about to start for me and I will be a senior this year and I have heard that our school is gonna be doing random drug test to kids that play sports and also to kids that don’t play sports is this legal? Don’t they have to have a reasoning?
Dear Logan: Yes, random drug testing in schools is legal. This was challenged years ago and the U.S. Supreme Court approved this in public schools. Take a look at this post we wrote on the subject:
http://askthejudge.info/can-schools-force-students-to-submit-to-drug-testing/
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Hi, I am 13 years old and I live in Vanouver BC. Today, my friend and I were throwing rocks down a hill for fun, to see who could throw the furthest, one of the rocks that I threw bounced off the ground and curved, which resulted in the rock shattering the headlight of a parked car. The rock ended up inside the headlight but I took it out. This was completely unintentional and I had no idea that this would happen. I don’t know what to do and I don’t want to tell my parents. I’m pretty sure the only person who saw was the friend which I was with. Any advice would help, thanks!
Dear Mahan: You obviously feel remorseful for what you did, which is good. However, since you walked away and didn’t leave a note on the car or let anyone know, then you really need to tell your parents about your mistake in order to try to correct it. Let them know how bad you feel and they may be more understanding than you believe they will be. Good luck.
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I’m a single mom with a 21 y/o son that is 6’3& 300 pounds. When he doesn’t get his way he becomes a bully and the intimidation act begins. I’ve been dealing with his temperament for more than 10 years. I am trying tough love… but how far does one take it from their own child? Are there any laws of elderly bullying??
Dear Elizabeth: Every state has laws regarding abuse of the elderly as well as an Adult Protective Services office. You may consider reporting your son’s behavior in order to receive some protection from his actions. You could also consider obtaining a protective (restraining) order from a court that would limit his contact with you. You don’t need to hire a lawyer to get a protective order. We suggest you speak with either the police about your rights in this situation, or a lawyer in order to assert your rights. Some lawyers provide free initial consultations, so ask about this if you call one. Good luck.
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Hello, i am currently in pre-trial diversion in the state of Georgia and i recently got a warning for window tint being too dark. As i know any window tint violation in the state of georgia is a misdemeanor, it brought up a concerning question. Can a window tint citation, if/when I eventually get issued one, get me kicked out of pre-trial diversion? On my paperwork the terms include “do not violate the laws of any government” so i was curious to know what the consequences of a citation of this nature would be. Thanks!
Dear Chase: It is possible that your window tinting, if it results in a ticket, could affect your diversion program. However, many programs don’t include traffic tickets as a violation that would automatically disqualify you as a participant in the program. You might consider asking whoever supervises your program. Good luck.
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My brother gave guardianship of his daughter to a family about 10 years ago, and now the family she is with is having a myriad of problems, too include legal/alcohol/emotional. My wife and I would like her to come and live with us, and so does my niece. She is 16 and I feel old enough to make that decision for herself. What I do not know is if the parents refuse, then what are my legal options?
Dear Jeremia: If your brother (the parents) refuse to give you guardianship, then you could attempt to take the matter to court. It’s much easier and smoother if the parents agree to this, so that would be the best strategy. If that doesn’t work out, then you could try consulting with a local family law attorney or see if your local court has a free legal assistance program that would allow you to meet briefly with a pro bono attorney. Many courts throughout the country have these programs. Good luck.
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Ok so my mom was pulled over today and the cop argued with her about being on her phone she wasn’t on it at all in fact she pulled it out of the bottom of her purse to show it was powered off yet he gave her a citation how can she get that dropped?
Dear Astasia: She can fight the ticket and explain to the judge what happened. If she was given a court date, she has the choice to appear, plead not guilty and present her position for the court to determine whether she violated the law or not. She can also contact a local attorney for advice. Many offer free initial consultations, so she should ask about this if she calls one. Good luck.
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